by mssinglemama on January 6, 2010
I am not sure working like this is entirely healthy for anyone, let alone a single mom. My back and shoulders are a tight, tangled mess of nerves and poor posture induced kinks. My face keeps breaking out and my bedroom is constantly messy, always a sign of being too busy to breathe.
I need to buy one of those jacuzzi tubs or enslave a personal massage therapist. Between work, the house and Benjamin I rarely find a moment to myself – in the peace and quiet of the nothing to do.
How can us professional parents keep up with the childless who can devote 100% of their energy to their work? And isn’t there something wrong with this picture? Overworked workers, unemployment lines growing, parents who are left with no time to raise their children and young people who know having a child would spell disaster for their career.
Are we all just being taken for a ride? A ride that ends at the last and final stop when we wake up (too late) to realize we have worked our lives away. Shouldn’t we all slow down a bit? Seems like we’re all getting a bit carried away. Or maybe it has always been like this and I am just the mother of a three year old lost in the Land of the Toddler standing her gaping at the Land of Employment During a Recession. [click to continue…]
by mssinglemama on November 7, 2009
This is Holly.
We met one month ago when I decided to have my first manicure and pedicure in over three years… maybe four. On one of my afternoon escapades with Benjamin and just after I’d found out about my new job, I noticed a sign outside for her salon for a $20.00 manicure and a $35.00 pedicure. The sign and her low price (manicures are ridiculously expensive in Ohio for some reason) got me I made an appointment for some long overdue Me Time.
So there we were, two single moms, one in the midst of year three and beginning the best relationship she’s ever had and the other just beginning, only a single for five months with two daughters-ages 11 and 5. We spent a good amount of our time that day talking about everything from ex-management to bad boy complexes and facing your fears as a single mom.
Today during my pedicure (oh, so awesome) I pointed to a headline on one of those magazines with a quote from Kate Gosselin, “I never knew how strong I could be,” something to that effect. I read the line to Holly and then she said, “Yeah, but there are a lot of emotions along the way before you get to that point.” [click to continue…]
by mssinglemama on April 15, 2009
One more night.
I am missing my three-year-old Benjamin but after sorting through old pictures all morning (I do that when he’s gone), I’m really missing this little guy.
What will I do with two nights a week?
I definitely need the “me” time but this will take some adjusting.
Benjamin and I have been together, nearly inseparable for three years. See? Here we are connected.
Gosh I can just feel his warm cushy little self in that picture. And his smell… and his noises. This is one of the few pictures I have of Benjamin and I together. Oh! And look, I even have a wedding ring on. I think he was less than two weeks old there and about three months old in the one above.
I feel like I was shot out of a canon into life as a young, working and soon to be divorced mom and now suddenly things are slowing down. But, wow, do I wish I was holding a baby again.
Will you ever have another one?
