by mssinglemama on July 13, 2009
Within just a few weeks of dating, John Bear had bought Benjamin a Transformer, saying “I couldn’t help it. I hope it’s okay. I just can’t believe he doesn’t have one.”
And why would he? I’m a chick (in case you hadn’t noticed) and now that Benjamin is becoming a boy I’m realizing I don’t have a clue about boy stuff. His father is French Canadian and aside from the Smurfs, I don’t think we watched the same cartoons. In fact, I’m fairly certain his dad didn’t watch any cartoons at all, which had nothing to do with his Quebecness and almost everything to do with his mother.
Nervous Benjamin’s head would explode at actually receiving a gift from a man, I made John Bear keep the new Transformer and its accompanying DVD hidden in his car for another few weeks. I would move the little gift bag into the back seat on date night, leaving it there and wondering just what to do with the thing. The only solution would be to just give it to him and find out. Sometimes parenting is a big ball of trial and error, the only thing you can hope for is that the errors don’t permanently mess up your kid and that, as John Bear’s father says “they come to your funeral.”
After I thought Benjamin could handle the spoilage I let John give him the present. When he opened it Benjamin squealed and then laughed hysterically when the thing transformed into a robot and he has yet to let the car out of his sight.
It goes everywhere with him, constantly in the cusp of his little hand. He’s learned how to do everything, even ride his bike, one handed to account for the car. Benjamin’s Transformer collection doubled last weekend when John Bear (who Benjamin now believes is the master of the robot universe) pulled these guys out of his mother’s basement. Two new freaky little robot guys to bring home.
Our new roommates, now I think there are six or so, have crushed Thomas the Tank and even Elmo. Even Woody and Buzz Lightyear haven’t moved. And I’ve become all too aware of the fact that apparently I’m not the only one who has been lacking a man’s attention and affection.
We had just woken up when I took that picture, so to be fair to John here’s a picture he took of me drinking out of a doggy mug. [click to continue…]
by mssinglemama on August 11, 2008
But I’m not done.
New clothes = wonderful. Shopping and switching websites in one day = hard.
So, this is my new website. You won’t notice many changes (a ton behind the scenes). There are still a few teeny tiny kinks to work out. The Link page and Comment pictures will be up soon… the other missing pieces will follow too.
I’m not going to freak out about it. So let’s get back at it, shall we?
Shopping.
I bought:
- 2 that I absolutely can’t live without
I didn’t not buy a rain jacket, a pair of rain boots or an umbrella.
BUT. I had fun and decided to tailor my trench coat that’s too big instead of buying a new one… and I’ll just wear my cowboy boots (the waterproof pair). Copenhagen rain solved. Small trade for super cute jeans, some cute tops and the cute pink shoes (still a maybe on the shoes).
I’m trying really hard not to feel guilty.
During my first year as a single mom I was broke. Totally broke. I learned how to live off of next to nothing but now that I have money again… I feel horrible spending it. To curb my guilt I’m going to pat myself for saving so much lately. Some tips of mine – and then share yours.
How I save money as a single mom.
1. No T.V. (Cable)
Sounds crazy but everything I watch is online now. LOST (Abc.com), The Office (NBC.com) and the Daily Show (Hulu.com + tons of free movies like Secret of Nimh for the wee ones). No cable bill saves me $60-80 a month and a LOT of time. I also share my wireless internet with my neighbors (they know about it). Benjamin has a DVD TV in his room for movies and he watches Handy Manny, Thomas & Elmo on iTunes.
2. No eating out for lunch.
Been slipping up on this big time in the past few months. But this will save you hundreds a month. Pack a lunch.
3. Less energy.
It’s been a hot summer. I use the AC sparingly. All year round I turn off the lights, take shorter showers. It all adds up.
4. I traded my SUV for a Ford Focus.
So hard yet so damn easy. Ditch the gas guzzlers. I traded my SUV in for a new Ford Focus, didn’t lose anything on the trade. Same car payment but $150 (and counting) less a month in gas.
5. NO SHOPPING. By myself. Ever.
(When you’re leaving for Denmark in 7 days) Oops! Guilty mama going to pass out.
How do you save money as a single mom? And what do you think about those shoes?
