by mssinglemama on July 31, 2009
Remember the Lion?
I definitely do. He was that nice and totally adorable guy who had the unfortunate luck to schedule a date with me just one night after my first date with John Bear. I met him on a day in the park with Benjamin but at the time, was also juggling the Tiger (more on him, by the way, in Ms. Single Mama Uncensored).
Anyway… on our first non-date that turned into a date John and I both confessed that we had other dates set up for the next night.
“Let’s cancel them,” he said.
“I can’t,” I said. “He’s such a nice guy.” I hate canceling dates and I’m so glad I didn’t. I told the Lion almost as soon as we’d ordered our wine about meeting John and the incredible sparkage there. In spite of my news, the Lion wished me luck with grace. Before we said good night I said “You’re just too cute” and told him to give me a call if he wanted me to be featured on my blog as an eligible bachelor.
I may make this a regular thing because there are so many men out there who are ready for a commitment. It’s the men who aren’t ready who can hurt us so badly… must be wary of those commitment-phobic, bad boys. I’d like to bring you a man a month who is commitment ready and relatively baggage free.
With that… I bring you – the Lion.
He has such a positive attitude but also is very realistic and grounded. And he’s such a cutie. Now, he lives in Columbus Ohio, but you never know… [click to continue…]
by mssinglemama on June 1, 2009
Larry is in his seventies but his eyes are young.
He had a major hand in creating the Hocking Valley Scenic Railway, a thriving tourist destination for Athens County and his energy seems to be endless. He’ll never acknowledge his age with words or by his actions and I find this amazing and inspiring.
We’ve just wrapped up a meeting and now we’re saying our good byes in the doorway to the Athens County Visitors Bureau. The Bureau is my refuge and my savior. My home town, I feel, is cradling me – rocking me back to health and in turn I am enlightening thousands of tourists to pay us a visit.
Larry is lingering.
“So have you found a nice guy yet?” he asks.
Every time I meet a WWII vet like Larry I immediately conjure up images of men like Gregory Peck and Spencer Tracy on battle lines or at fancy dinner tables puffing on cigarettes, he is no exception.
“No, not yet. There aren’t any around or something, or maybe I just don’t know where to look or maybe I’m not ready,” my voice cracks a bit.
The tears have been coming easily lately.
It’s been nine months of single motherhood and I have yet to see a glimmer of hope, even though I’ve been dating not one man has shown promise of being something.
I want to hear words of wisdom from Larry, so I stop, look down at my shuffling feet and then I listen. [click to continue…]
by mssinglemama on November 9, 2008
It’s officially – official.
Mr. Man and I are an item.
But because even uttering the word relationship makes my arm hairs stand on end, not out of joy but out of fear – I’ve decided to do some research. After all, it’s been years since I’ve been in a “real relationship” so I need to brush up. And thanks to my little poll, Will You Ever Get Married Again? I know that 72% of you are open to the idea, so hopefully this will be the first of many, many more lessons of what it’s like to be a single mom in a relationship.
That’s what this blog is for – we all learn together, as we go, using my experiences as the corner stone for the conversations we spark.
So let’s get cracking:
First research source – Mr. Man. Unlike myself, he is built for relationships – naturally empathetic, understanding, patient, respectful and oh so romantic. And then there’s me – skeptical, a bit of a cynic and definitely jaded.
Second research source – relationship articles.
Oprah’s nice book people sent me a copy of O’s Big Book of Happiness: The Best of O, the Oprah Magazine. When it landed on my doorstep I immediately flipped to the “Couples” section. I know it’s still early, Mr. Man and I have only been seeing each other for about a month, but my “real relationship” legs haven’t been tested in years so I thought I’d brush up.
Here are a few tidbits from one of the articles I loved titled, “8 Entirely New Ideas About Love.”
It’s good to be picky, very picky.
In a study of speed daters, Paul W. Eastwick and Eli J. Finkel, PhD, of Northwestern University, found that participants who picked a large number of matches were less likely to be picked themselves. It turns out that singles who show interest in every partner they encounter may come off not as eager and open but as just plain desperate. [click to continue…]
by mssinglemama on July 29, 2008
My phone has been on fire for weeks now.
The culprits? A number of men, some of whom I really want to hear from and the others… well, I think they definitely have me in one of those “fish nets.” They cast a text out to a several women they’ve gathered numbers for over time and then wait for someone to bite on the bait.
I heard this “fish net” texting term from a gorgeous man I met recently who is wise in the ways of flirty texts. “My buddy actually purges his phone book once a month. He deletes the women who haven’t responded.”
I’d heard about mass texting before but didn’t know there was a name for it or that there was a science to it. Anyhow, I think I’m in two men’s nets right now and it’s really starting to annoy me. So I must vent.
Man #1: An engineer in his 20’s. We met at a bar while playing pool, over two months ago. Haven’t seen him since.
You may remember him, and yes, he’s still around … well I should say, he was around (I hope). After several more texts and two more back to back drunk dial phone calls I sent him this text:
I really appreciate my sleep. Please take my number out of your phone. [click to continue…]
