by mssinglemama on August 2, 2009
I met the first boy who would break my heart at a party.
My legs were crossed and I had a pillow on my lap, my back leaning into the corner of the sofa. Working three jobs over my summer break between my freshman and sophomore years of college I liked this spot in the corner, far enough removed from the party that I wasn’t expected to chime in but close enough to hear the conversations and the laughter. I wanted to hide my exhaustion and my fat thighs. A hot summer day in Athens, the windows of my friend’s house were open and the light breeze was pulling her curtains and then pushing them back ever so softly. [click to continue…]
by mssinglemama on February 3, 2008
Yes. My “amazing” boyfriend actually just dumped me … over the phone. Things had been rocky since a night earlier this week when we had a heavy chat about his lack of ambition or clear life goals. “Clearly,” I said, “this is something I have to think about – as a single mom. I can’t just be with someone, have them in contact with my child, etc … if I don’t even know if I could potentially have a future with them.” Translation = I don’t know if I can be with someone who doesn’t have their life relatively in order. I am also an extremely driven person and would like someone who is equally driven.
That didn’t sit well with him. And his responses didn’t sit well with me. An unresolvable issue. I’m 28, have a great career and my life is on track. He is 23, in college and has no idea what he wants to do with his. So – do I wait to see how he turns out, or call it like I see it? For the rest of the week our phone conversations were stifled by a heavy thought – should we be together?
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