April 25, 2008Every once in a while I post a Single Mom S.O.S. The first time for my friend Abby who was trying to figure out how to explain a break up to her daughter and now for another single mom, Tricia. The dilemma – her ex-husband wants to fight for full-custody of their oldest son, a 9-year-old.
First some facts. Tricia is amazing. She is bubbly, light, full of optimism and loves her two boys.
Since their divorce in July she and her ex-husband have had 50/50 split custody of the kids. She says, “I didn’t fight for full custody last summer because he’s a fine father, and my father was so important to me. I want him to be very involved in their lives.”
Now, less than one year later, her son says he wants to live with his father full-time.
You can imagine the emotional pain she’s feeling right now. He’s nine and he doesn’t know any better…but still. She also says her ex-husband has been encouraging the idea.To make matters worse he is also threatening to take the fight to court.
April 18, 2008In lieu of yesterday’s sarcastic and totally fake personals ad that some of you actually took seriously, I want to pass on some tips on the right way to write a personals ad for dating online.
Online Dating Profile Tips
1. Be honest with yourself. What are deal breakers? What must you have and what would you like to have? Try to express these and then you’ll be on a roll.
2. Be funny. Don’t take yourself too seriously, but at the same time don’t go over the top with lame jokes.
3. Don’t post a picture of yourself with your shirt off. Please…oh, and drop the pics of you and your best friend Suzy snuggling up in a restraurant booth together.
4. Don’t brag about your amazing book collection and please don’t tell me how much you love to have candlelit dinners and slow walks on the beach.
5. Pick an appealing username. Don’t kill yourself with a play on words…try a play on something like your street name or your dog’s name. Please, whatever you do don’t pick anything like “BigJohnForYou.”
6. BE REAL.
FYI: I refuse to do online dating again after my past experiences with eHarmony. And after all it’s Spring – there are men every where. The coffee shop, the book store, the park …
Here’s my list on the Top Spots for Single Mamas to Meet Men. Thought it deserved another look now that spring has sprung.
What are your profile writing tips? I am definitely not an expert…I am an expert browser. So I am an authority in telling guys what not to post, as most of us women are … but guys – what do you see on the other side in profiles that turns you off?
