But it’s not what you think.

I’m taking a self-imposed man break (in case you hadn’t noticed) and Benjamin has subsequently ended up in my bed. It’s a long story, read about it here – please – I really need advice on the co-sleeping thing. As single parents, I imagine, we have an entirely different take on the issue. 

And I’m not sure how long it will be before I start dating again but right now I just need to chill, re-group and get ready for the next round.  

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Not sure what is going on with Benjamin’s father.

He claims what I heard is a complete lie. But I know it can’t be. The pieces to the story, like Canada and the new car, were facts my friend had no way of knowing about. So… now I’m just waiting (as usual) and coming to terms with the fact that this entire situation is out of my control.

I’ve also put a call in to my lawyer — just to be safe.

Related posts:

1. Daddy is coming back.
2. Reality.
3. When is daddy going to bail?

***Crisis Management Update***

Two words – Thomas sheets.

Original Post

For the past three nights Benjamin has insisted upon sleeping in my bed.

Suddenly, after two years of sleeping in his own room, he wants to sleep in mommy’s bed. Last night, I went up and soothed him back down – four times – four times! Finally, I gave up and brought him downstairs.

Could this be a blessing in disguise? With Benjamin in my bed every night it would keep me from letting a man into my bed – prevent any flings with unworthy bedmates.

Or is it a minor crisis? What’s with this sudden need to sleep with me? How do I break the cycle? And what if I do meet someone, a potential boyfriend or even a fling? Future Alaina definitely won’t want Benjamin in my bed.

My co-sleeping pro and con list

The Pros:

• He doesn’t wake up in the middle of the night, which means solid sleep for moi.
• We get that physical bonding time, I’ve heard it’s especially important for working moms.
• I get to hear him breathing and snuggle up to his little cheek – pure bliss.
• If he sleeps in my bed every night there’s no way a man will ever get in there (could be a pro).

The Cons:

• I can’t clean my room, usually I clean after his bed time. My room is TRASHED.
• What if he has some weird mommy neediness issues later on.
• If he sleeps in my bed every night there’s no way a man will ever get in there (could be a con).

What should I do? I have to turn to all of you on this one … I mean, without a husband around why not just sleep with my kid?

Related posts:

1. Sleep deprivation is a cruel, cruel thing.
2. He’s back.
3. Boyfriend + toddler + work = tired single mama