*UPDATE*

Read his response here. Unfortunately he didn’t answer our question. But, hey, can you blame him? It’s a tough one.

Dear Random Esquire,

We’re kind of embarrassed to admit this, but we’re glad you discovered us. We’re also glad that we’ve sparked what seems like a minor fascination, on your part, in single moms. It’s flattering, but it also has us both questioning your motives.

Rather than send this via e-mail, we wanted to shed light on the obvious nuances we’ve all been leaving in comments on each other’s blogs. We don’t like keeping our readers in the dark, especially when there’s a chance for them to learn a few of our own lessons as single dating moms.

So who are you?

We do know a few things. You are an amazing writer. You make us laugh every day. You’re extremely charming. Oh and you’re also a successful lawyer in Chicago who has an ugly little dog whom you’ve aptly named, “Little Filthy.” And even that is adorable. The only thing you’re missing is a cape.So what’s the catch? We think we’ve found one and we want you to either a) come clean b) tell us what your true motives are or c) come to terms with the fact that you’re just not ready for single moms and to cease all flirtatious e-mails to us immediately.

Single Mom Seeking and I have been blogging friends for a while. And when I discovered your blog…so did she. It started with a few harmless comments and ended with e-mails to both of us on the side.

And then we compared notes and discovered that you were telling us the same things:

1. You think single moms are hot
2. You have a soft spot for mothers
3. You like strong, passionate women

And lastly, (this is the real doozie):

4. You’d rather have a family than a little black book.

You delivered the same lines to two different single moms. And, you had us both for a minute there. But we’re not alone. Look at the fluttering of females who respond to every one of your posts. Are you e-mailing all of them too?

Despite all of this, we still like you. And even though you won’t tell us your name — or post your photo – we don’t want to write you off just yet. Why? Because you represent the quintessential bachelor. And, guys like you drive us nuts with frustration and excitement.

Here’s the thing. It happens all the time. We (single moms) have all encountered men who tell us they want to settle down, be in a serious relationship and have a family. But what we find is that these men, living their bachelor lives to the fullest, are the least likely to actually walk the walk. It is, on the contrary, the men who don’t profess their willingness to settle down so blatantly who truly have their heart and head in the right place.

But because every single mom has encountered a bachelor like you, we thought you could take a moment to explain – for all of us single moms– one little thing?

Are you just wasting our time? If the answer is no…please, clarify:

Do you really think you could give up that spiffy bachelor pad, all of those beautiful women, all of those fabulous nights out on the town, and devote yourself to a single woman and her child?

And please, you owe this to us, since both of us have stayed up way too late and let our kids entertain themselves just to answer your e-mails.

Sincerely,

Ms. Single Mama and Single Mom Seeking

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