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New friends = good times.

mssinglemama — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 19:33:57 +0000

1. Julie and Zoe are on their way over. We’re headed to a music festival. Last Monday night we both went out (coincidentally our exes both have our kids on Monday nights). We were eating out when the Architect called me … and not her. I didn’t call him back and we spent most of the evening pondering why men are such idiots sometimes. But now she says she’s hooked on asking them out instead of waiting.

2. I’m flying to San Francisco for 4th of July weekend to meet three of my new blogging friends Rachel Sarah (Single Mom Seeking), Morgan Siler (i Heart Single Parents) and Jim Everson (Depot Dad). I’m freaking out with excitement to get a break, to see San Francisco again and to meet all three of them – each of whom has touched my life in so many ways through their friendships. Finally we’ll all get to meet face to face! I’ll be reporting back with some fresh videos and pictures.

3. Benjamin has flushed the toilet three times now (I’m sure my toilet paper roll died a slow death to make this post possible) and Julie just pulled up. So….

Cheers my single parents! XOXO to all of you.

P.S.

I’ll be announcing the flat iron winner Sunday night.

Go pick a man up. I dare you!

mssinglemama — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 02:40:27 +0000

It’s Spring. I’m feeling frisky … and I know you are too!

So… I dare you to ask a guy out.

If you’re like me and the idea of going out on a date makes your stomach squirm, then you get a reprieve. It’s only been one week since my break up, so I get to take a time out. As for the rest of you – how long has it been since your last date? If it’s been a while – then why aren’t you out there?

I know it’s a huge pain in the ass to date … but don’t you miss it? Are there any guys you have little crushes on? Could the feeling be mutual? Find out. Ask him. Put yourself out of your misery and just do it.

If you read my blog regularly you know I’m a huge advocate of women taking the plunge and asking men out, flat out

Here are a few little tid bits on asking men out.

1. Men love being asked out, it’s flattering.

2. (If they’re actually single) they rarely say “No.”

3. You seem confident and sexy.

4. You have nothing to lose. At the end of the day you know one way or another whether or not he likes you. Peace of mind is priceless.

5. Your gut is rarely wrong. If he’s been flirting with you or just smiling at you in the coffee shop, he’s probably into you. He’s giving you the green light.

6. Men are lazy when it comes to romance. They prefer it if we do the work – and that includes asking them out.

So I’m daring you all to ask someone out, a stranger, a friend or a crush…here’s how:

Find a common interest through conversation and then ask him if he’d like to join you the next time you go (insert activity here). Offer him your number (don’t get his). Then the ball is back in his court.

See? Easy as pie. Do it! It’s Spring! C’mon!

»So where are you going to find them? Read my Top Spots to Meet Men

Will he call? On asking men out…flat out.

mssinglemama — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 18:34:02 +0000

Rachel Sarah (Single Mom Seeking), has had quite a few very, very interesting posts this week. She was wondering if she should seek out a date for Valentine’s Day. It’s been a year of pure singleness for Rachel after a painful break up.

I suggested she ask a man out. Why not? We single moms have to take matters into our own hands and when it comes to dating – that means picking up men. Seriously – asking them out, flat out.

So – she followed my advice and the advice of all of her readers – and did it. She asked a guy out! Now she’s waiting to see if he’ll call…get the details here...very exciting stuff! And read my comments in her posts for more on how this method has worked for me in the past.

Have you ever done it? I have always advocated this … as you can read in some of my former posts. Why? Because men rarely ask women out. And if we do it – we are automatically a million times sexier because we are “confident, assertive” women who want them. They just love it. Once you realize the power you have when it comes to men you’ll be forever changed. Besides – it’s just fun.