From the category archives:

Single Mom S.O.S.

Love from a reader and another single mom.

March 15, 2013

I love hearing from you, my readers. I receive so many, it is hard to respond to all of them. Know that I do try. This email from Madison had to be shared. The fact that my blog helps all of you feel more confident, empowered, and inspired fills me with so much hope and […]

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Joining the club.

December 16, 2008

She’s been my best friend my entire life. And now, she’ll be a single mom. Her boyfriend of six years and the father of their four-year-old daughter is moving out – the catalyst – an affair he’s been having with a young co-worker. On Saturday night she called me, her voice hushed and fringing on […]

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Single Mom S.O.S.: Will I make it?

December 2, 2008

I sat down in front of my therapist this week – more on that later- but one of the first things she said to me was, “Do you know how courageous it was for you to do that, to leave like that when your son was just 4-months-old? Good for you, kiddo!” She calls me […]

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Single Mom S.O.S.: Body Check

September 4, 2008

  Is your body image in check? This one is coming from a fantastic new reader, we’ll call her Moon Beam… she’s a new single mom and is just now getting back into the dating game. In fact, she went on her first date as a single mom last night! But she’s concerned about how […]

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Single Mom S.O.S.: Should I leave my ex alone with my son?

August 9, 2008

Krissy is a single mother to her 7-month-old son. Two weeks after she told her boyfriend she was pregnant, he dumped her for someone else. She’s been alone ever since. But now Krissy wants to go to college in the fall but she can’t afford day care (did I mention being a single mom is tough). Here’s what she wrote me, “He (my ex) is so irresponable with him, he wont listen to me when I try to tell him things, like support him better when you hold him, (he has almost dropped him several times) he has fallen off the bed in his care, he got stuck under a chair in his care, he often ignores him. I’m so afraid something terrible is going to happen to my son out of neglect…”
I think it’s clear this guy should not, under any circumstances, be left alone with his son. What do you think?

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Single Mom S.O.S.: Play-Doh & Toddler-Goo

July 20, 2008

Okay, this one is for me. Three questions mixed with some babbling. 1. How do you clean up Play-Doh? 2. What are some good Play-Doh games or activities? (We had a Play-Doh cook off, but tomorrow he’ll want a new game.) 3. How do you keep them contained in one area? (Not necessarily the kids […]

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Single Mom S.O.S.: Can she take the kids overseas?

June 17, 2008

Occasionally urgent questions land in my Inbox from single moms or married women desperate for help and answers. They are so urgent in nature I call them Single Mom S.O.S’s. This one is the most urgent of all. Belle is European and has no family here in the United States. Her husband, who has abused […]

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Should I leave my husband?

May 2, 2008

There were a few moments, split seconds of time when I knew I had to give up – that my ex-husband and I were impossibly different – and that he was impossibly uncommitted to truly being the best father and husband he could be. It’s when I knew I should leave my husband.

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Single Mom S.O.S.: Her ex wants full custody!

April 25, 2008

Every once in a while I post a Single Mom S.O.S. The first time for my friend Abby who was trying to figure out how to explain a break up to her daughter and now for another single mom, Tricia. The dilemma – her ex-husband wants to fight for full-custody of their oldest son, a 9-year-old.

First some facts. Tricia is amazing. She is bubbly, light, full of optimism and loves her two boys.

Since their divorce in July she and her ex-husband have had 50/50 split custody of the kids. She says, “I didn’t fight for full custody last summer because he’s a fine father, and my father was so important to me. I want him to be very involved in their lives.”

Now, less than one year later, her son says he wants to live with his father full-time.

You can imagine the emotional pain she’s feeling right now. He’s nine and he doesn’t know any better…but still. She also says her ex-husband has been encouraging the idea.To make matters worse he is also threatening to take the fight to court.

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Single Mom S.O.S. – Explaining a Break Up

January 23, 2008

My best friend and fellow single mom, Abby, is still reeling from her break up. And so is her 5 year old daughter, Penny. She’s a beautiful, happy little girl who also fell in love with mommy’s boyfriend. How couldn’t she? He was over at their house at least three to four nights a week. They’d been together for nearly one year and had been talking about moving in together, starting a family – the whole kit and caboodle. And now – poof – he’s gone and Penny is broken hearted. If you’ve never seen a 5 year old with a little broken heart – lucky you – because I saw my first one tonight and it was unbearable.

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