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For the men

House hunting and man hunting?

April 15, 2008

No deal on the house and Kris and I broke up. What a lovely start to the week! About the house… I’m actually a bit relieved because after my mom came to see it she was screaming – “no, not a two bedroom and just wait, watch, it’s going to get worse (the housing market).” […]

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Man up fellas…why? Because you’re the man, damn it.

April 2, 2008

I didn’t say it … this blogging bachelor did. And I 100% agree with him. Men do need to “man” up. In his post titled, “What Men SHOULD Think.” He says: Men, get your act together before you go pursuing a long-term relationship or marriage. Don’t tell me that you have to be with this […]

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Can he really drop his little black book for a family?

March 24, 2008

We’re kind of embarrassed to admit this, but we’re glad you discovered us. We’re also glad that we’ve sparked what seems like a minor fascination, on your part, in single moms. It’s flattering, but it also has us both questioning your motives.
Rather than send this via e-mail, we wanted to shed light on the obvious nuances we’ve all been leaving in comments on each other’s blogs. We don’t like keeping our readers in the dark, especially when there’s a chance for them to learn a few of our own lessons as single dating moms.

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Will our kids be worse off?

March 20, 2008

There’s a very interesting comment thread going on in an old post I wrote on how much I love being a single mom….

It’s a fantastic discussion between Dad’s House and another single father, Jim. They’re debating on whether or not our children, the children of single parents are essentially worse off because they’re being raised by single parents….

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The Ex Factor

March 19, 2008

You rarely hear mention of him on my blog. Maybe because it usually breaks my heart to write about it. Maybe because I don’t want Benjamin to read this someday and think his father’s a lousy (enter superlative of your choice here). But now that Benjamin’s two…soon there will be questions which means Mommy needs […]

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Date night.

March 17, 2008

When you’re a dating single mom it’s hard to get a night out with your boyfriend. But it means we appreciate these nights out more than single, childless women would! And as for the men who are dating a single mom, they really are amazing.

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Porn for New Moms

March 7, 2008

My darling babysitter (who practically raised Benjamin with me during the first year) sent us birthday presents from Nashville today. And for me – the funniest book I’ve seen in ages – Porn for New Moms. Open it and all you see are hot guys holding babies with quotes like, “so tell me again, what […]

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Single moms and the men who love us.

March 6, 2008

I want to bring your attention to another great comment that came in recently…this one’s from Finch, one of nearly 500 men who have now read my post on “How to Date a Single Mom.”  Dating a single mom never even crossed my mind until my current relationship just fell into my lap. Now I couldn’t […]

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Can men feel empathy?

March 3, 2008

My best friend has a theory – that men can not be truly empathetic. And for the men reading this, here’s the definition:

Empathy: one’s ability to recognize, perceive and feel the emotions of another; often characterized as the ability to “put oneself into another’s shoes”.

Take this scenario as a case in point. No hard feelings toward the male subject in this story, after all, he is a man and this is apparantly a trait they can’t help. Just read this study.

Tonight, while in his sweet bath, Benjamin knocked his tooth into the side of the tub. All I hear is – CRACK! – his front capped tooth had just split again. The first time, this winter, he had fallen outside and it was a bloody mess. But this time – the tooth is shattered into three pieces that are somehow sticking together. Benjamin is calm during the bath and all is well. But as soon as we get out. He notices. He takes his little, itty bitty fingers and starts pushing his broken tooth around. He can’t even eat his yogurt snack.

My heart is breaking into a million pieces as I look at my sweet, sweet little guy and imagine the damn pain he’s going to have to feel tomorrow when they have to cap it again.

Tell this story to any woman and you’re bound to get a reaction filled with gasps and lots and lots of questions. All followed by words of comfort like, “don’t worry, everything will be fine,” “is there anything I can do?”, “I’m so sorry this happened.”

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How to Date a Single Mom, Part 2

February 21, 2008

My entry on How to Date a Single Mom (for the guys) has been one of the most popular entries on this blog. I wrote it for one reason…to help the men who have truly fallen for one of us. And then this adorable comment came in the other day. Do you have any advice for a man who has fallen in love with a single mom? What can he do to earn her trust? Should he leave flowers on her doorstep? No, because then the kids would see it. Maybe a letter in the mailbox?

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