From the category archives:

Divorce & Custody

Mia’s Story, Part I

January 6, 2009

One thing about a divorce or separation is the division of everything in the house. Some things go. Some stay. Unlike the broken pieces of our hearts and souls… we can control our environment. Undoubtedly one of the best ways to heal is to change things up. Paint. Decorate. Anything to get out with the […]

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Eyelashes

December 27, 2008

All of Benjamin’s life people have commented on his eyelashes. “They’re from his father, ” I say. They are amazing. Like little butterfly wings. He also has his father’s body – his shoulders, his legs, his torso and even his little butt. But he has my smile, my eyes and my eyebrows. Like any mother, […]

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A Letter To the “Other Woman”:

December 23, 2008

Because it just has to be said. Last week I broke the news that my best friend Mia’s boyfriend and the father of her child is moving out. Catch up here if you missed it. Your responses were overwhelming and she read every one of them. Your thoughts, encouragement and advice meant the world to […]

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Ex-mas Etiquette

December 17, 2008

A holiday question about our ex-men. Do you buy them presents from the kids? I will not be buying my ex-husband, Benjamin’s father, a Christmas present from myself. I think that’s a given. But what about a gift from Benjamin to his dad? Just shy of three, Benjamin still doesn’t really get the concept of […]

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Joining the club.

December 16, 2008

She’s been my best friend my entire life. And now, she’ll be a single mom. Her boyfriend of six years and the father of their four-year-old daughter is moving out – the catalyst – an affair he’s been having with a young co-worker. On Saturday night she called me, her voice hushed and fringing on […]

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Don’t Let the Ex-Bugs Bite

December 14, 2008

I just ditched some major baggage, but you’ll have to pop over here to this ad-free page to read it. I’ve been sleeping quite soundly ever since.

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The Married Single Mom

November 16, 2008

I am a former married single mother. Which is why I am now an unmarried single mother. The only difference – I now have half of the laundry and half of the dishes to clean. Seriously. When your husband contributes very little around the house, when you’re the one driving the kids to and from […]

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A new frontier.

November 9, 2008

Here are a few tidbits from one of the articles I loved titled, “8 Entirely New Ideas About Love.” It’s good to be picky, very picky. In a study of speed daters, Paul W. Eastwick and Eli J. Finkel, PhD, of Northwestern University, found that participants who picked a large number of matches were less […]

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Mr. [Blank] – Your turn…

October 30, 2008

Who was your ex-husband? Complete this sentence with a comment: My ex-husband was Mr. [blank]. Be nice and funny if you can. If not, vent all you want. I’m not going to do it because I’d have to delete this blog.

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The Dirty Laundry.

October 23, 2008

Every Wednesday night I take stock of the damage. Kitchen. Trashed. Living room. Even worse. I don’t even walk up to Benjamin’s room, I always save this for later so as not to send my body and mind into complete convulsions. But it’s just as bad. I’m not completely innocent here – much of the […]

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