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Divorce & Custody

How do you let go? On shared custody.

February 20, 2013

One of the most challenging aspects of single motherhood, or single parenthood, is adjusting to shared custody. In many cases, as mine was until recently, you are legally obligated to send your child into your ex-spouse’s home regardless of whether or not your gut instinct is screaming at you that something is just “not right” […]

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On healing a broken heart.

December 11, 2011

The auditorium is full. We have all been called here for a special event, an hour assembly featuring a guest speaker. A woman walked onto the stage with a man. The two were here to tell us about sex, or I should say – to tell us why we shouldn’t have sex. After the man […]

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Fire in the hole

August 12, 2010

“Are we still in Ohio?” Benjamin calls from the back seat. “Yes, we’re still in Ohio but we’re not in Columbus anymore. We’re almost to Athens. Your Daddy will be there, at the gas station in just a few minutes.” During our bi-weekly hand-offs I try to mask any emotion other than, of course, pure […]

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November 15, 2009

This weekend – the first of Benjamin’s “every other” weekends with his father – John Bear and I had two nights and one full day of long overdue us time. We haven’t had a weekend solo since our trip to the Poconos and New York City in August… and given all of the stress I’ve […]

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The hero deadbeat?

November 11, 2009

Have you heard about the April Baker story yet? If not, here’s the gist – woman (April Baker) Googles herself and finds a website built by her biological father (Dr. Scott Becker) asking her to contact him. After 30 years apart, the two were reunited with camera crews playing witness (see a picture here). As […]

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The Trip Story: Part 3

August 23, 2009

John Bear jumped out of bed at 7:00 am to feed Fiesta Dave’s meter. We’d parked in a haze of exhaustion.  After spending the entire day in New York City we hit a monstrous traffic jam on the way into Philadelphia. Between reading our iPhone maps and asking cab drivers which turn to take next […]

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The wow factor.

April 26, 2009

There are few material things that ever really wow me.  Here are two. Benjamin’s new “water boots”. For the first time in three years Benjamin’s father bought him a pair of shoes. He had no way of knowing this but I’ve been trying to find a cool pair of puddle stomping boots for months. But […]

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Father Figure

April 8, 2009

Maybe I gave up. Maybe I just didn’t want to hear another “I can’t” or “I’ll try” – each one cutting a bit deeper than the last. But somewhere along the way I just stopped. I stopped asking my ex-husband to spend more time – time outside of his 36 hours a week – with […]

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When the long lost father resurfaces.

February 11, 2009

Most of you know her, but for those who don’t – Morgan aka Modern Single Momma – is a light and guiding force for single parents.  After telling her child’s father about her pregnancy he split. Completely split. He hasn’t even met his son. And now he is threatening to take her to court for custody.  […]

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Would you date yourself?

February 4, 2009

This is a really, really good question. One of you posted this comment on my Facebook page and I couldn’t resist bringing it to the table here. Take the children out of the picture. Just look at yourself – would you date you? (This question applies to those of us in relationships as well). The […]

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