From the category archives:

Divorce & Custody

How do you let go? On shared custody.

February 20, 2013

One of the most challenging aspects of single motherhood, or single parenthood, is adjusting to shared custody. In many cases, as mine was until recently, you are legally obligated to send your child into your ex-spouse’s home regardless of whether or not your gut instinct is screaming at you that something is just “not right” […]

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On healing a broken heart.

December 11, 2011

The auditorium is full. We have all been called here for a special event, an hour assembly featuring a guest speaker. A woman walked onto the stage with a man. The two were here to tell us about sex, or I should say – to tell us why we shouldn’t have sex. After the man […]

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Fire in the hole

August 12, 2010

“Are we still in Ohio?” Benjamin calls from the back seat. “Yes, we’re still in Ohio but we’re not in Columbus anymore. We’re almost to Athens. Your Daddy will be there, at the gas station in just a few minutes.” During our bi-weekly hand-offs I try to mask any emotion other than, of course, pure […]

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Overdue

November 15, 2009

This weekend – the first of Benjamin’s “every other” weekends with his father – John Bear and I had two nights and one full day of long overdue us time. We haven’t had a weekend solo since our trip to the Poconos and New York City in August… and given all of the stress I’ve […]

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The hero deadbeat?

November 11, 2009

Have you heard about the April Baker story yet? If not, here’s the gist – woman (April Baker) Googles herself and finds a website built by her biological father (Dr. Scott Becker) asking her to contact him. After 30 years apart, the two were reunited with camera crews playing witness (see a picture here). As […]

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The Trip Story: Part 3

August 23, 2009

John Bear jumped out of bed at 7:00 am to feed Fiesta Dave’s meter. We’d parked in a haze of exhaustion.  After spending the entire day in New York City we hit a monstrous traffic jam on the way into Philadelphia. Between reading our iPhone maps and asking cab drivers which turn to take next […]

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The wow factor.

April 26, 2009

My Ford Fiesta. I am absolutely divinely head over heels in love with my new ride.  I just got home last night but Benjamin and I were out and about all day cruising.  Now I’m wiped out.  I have a lot of video to edit, some posts to write and a secret self-induced single mama […]

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Father Figure

April 8, 2009

Maybe I gave up. Maybe I just didn’t want to hear another “I can’t” or “I’ll try” – each one cutting a bit deeper than the last. But somewhere along the way I just stopped. I stopped asking my ex-husband to spend more time – time outside of his 36 hours a week – with […]

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When the long lost father resurfaces.

February 11, 2009

Phew. Just saying that makes me nervous. Single mom or not, first dates can be pressure cookers. When I was 12-years-old I rode my bike to my first date… my first date – ever. I had spent the entire week fantasizing about what it would be like, wondering if he would try to kiss me […]

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Would you date yourself?

February 4, 2009

My comments have been upgraded by my WordPress geek friend, Brad Spencer. He’s awesome by the way – if you ever want to invest in a blog makeover.  Anyhow, now the comments allow us all to respond directly to a specific comment. You can also vote a comment up or down if you think it […]

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