by mssinglemama on October 31, 2009
The real reason I’ve been frozen.
It recently came to my attention that some of my family members – family members who I don’t even see or speak to on a regular basis – are keeping up with my life through this blog.
Their conclusion, rightfully so, is that I am a self-absorbed mother who puts herself over her own son.
“Benjamin’s birthday party, Alaina?” the family member, who shall remain unnamed, seethed into the phone.
“Yeah, what about it?”
“Have you ever been to a kids birthday party, Alaina?”
“Yes and they’re pretty boring.”
“Not for the kids. That was your party Alaina, not Benjamin’s.”
He had been there – at the party – for about 40 minutes, I couldn’t be sure because, yes, I was having an awesome time and he had been staring on disapprovingly. Benjamin’s real birthday party – you may remember the video – happened on his actual birthday three days prior to the stranger-people are invited birthday party.
At the time Benjamin had three little friends on his invitation list. Perhaps I should have had a more traditional kids birthday party but my apartment is so small I wasn’t even sure where anyone would go. Hell, even having a birthday party as a working single mom was an accomplishment in my eyes. And every time I saw Benjamin he was running around having a blast or outside playing bubbles.
My family member went on between my protests and gasps of horror over the phone and then said - “It’s just all about you – Ms. Single Mama.” [click to continue…]
by mssinglemama on November 26, 2008
I’m stealing the fish bowl line from Kristin at Better Now.
I am putting my Mr. Man stories on hold for a little while… I know you all love them and I love writing them but now we’re caught up to the present (we were three weeks behind there for a while and that had me in a nice safe mental spot for dishing the scoop). But now, we’re right up to today and I don’t want these stories to affect our budding relationship in any way.
That’s all they are by the way – stories, snippets, little snap shots of the real deal. And it’s hard to put even that much out there when I’m not even sure what is happening half of the time. I hope you can understand… I’ll resume them when I feel the time is right.
For the record, he does read this blog and absolutely adores it all. He has also given me his permission (graciously) to write about whatever I need to write about. He did not ask me to do this (doesn’t even know I am yet). He is also a huge fan of single moms and understands that I put my stuff (issues and all) out here in hopes of achieving one thing – helping some of you, inspiring some of you or, at the very least, making some of you realize what dumb-ass mistakes you should not make.
That’s it. Chow for now. Happy Thanksgiving! I hope you all have your little turkeys and if you don’t – try, oh try, to be as nice to the ex-men as possible.
Going to crawl under a fish bowl cave, maybe the one under those fake pink algae things.
by mssinglemama on June 12, 2008
So this single parent thing … it just gets harder doesn’t it?
I’ve been put in my place lately by those single parents out there who have been at it far longer than I have. Tisk, tisk, you young newbie. You think you don’t need a husband? What about intimacy? Oh yeah – that. Well, he does have a point.
You’re not allowed to criticize the personal choice of another single parent with a word like “puke”, that’s juvenile. Yeah, okay, right again and point taken. Shame on me. I could go on.
I want to take a minute to try to explain something, to try to explain where I’m coming from because this blog is now – I think – bigger than I ever expected it would be. Somehow I’ve become the strong “opinionated” one of our little corner of the single parent blogosphere (there are more corners I’m sure we have yet to discover). [click to continue…]
