From the category archives:


How do you let go? On shared custody.

February 20, 2013

One of the most challenging aspects of single motherhood, or single parenthood, is adjusting to shared custody. In many cases, as mine was until recently, you are legally obligated to send your child into your ex-spouse’s home regardless of whether or not your gut instinct is screaming at you that something is just “not right” […]

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Am I an evil step-mother?

September 12, 2012

Am I an evil step-mother? I sure feel like one sometimes. Read about it here. Blending families isn’t easy. We’re tackling some tough issues on the new blog and hoping you can chime in with any advice or encouragement.

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Common Questions

July 6, 2012

As a blended family and a newly-married blended family at that, we get lots of questions from friends and near strangers. In no ranking order of popularity they are: 1. How did you meet? I feel like I should send them a check for a million dollars. The $5.99 I spent clearly does not […]

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When we aren’t getting married…

April 24, 2012

So, tonight at dinner the kids actually suggested we have “another wedding.” They all thought it was hysterical. “Let’s do it again!” But as Lily quickly pointed out that would be “impossible, clearly.” When we aren’t getting married in our back yard, we are busy occupying all three of the little Gremlins. It’s hard. I’m […]

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The Almost Step-Father

September 19, 2010

Benjamin is in the bath splashing entirely too much and talking the entire time. Tonight’s topic is our impending move. And the the most fascinating thing about the new house? Not his new room. Not the basketball hoop. Not even his new bunk bed. No, the most fascinating thing is the fact that a man […]

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Facts and figures.

August 3, 2010

A few things you should know. Fact: Being a mother makes it nearly impossible to conform to the rigidity of today’s corporate culture. I am buried in work. Buried does not mean drowning, nor does it mean ungrateful – it just means that I am swamped with the extremely fulfilling and exciting business of being […]

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Where did my baby go?

July 31, 2010

John took Benjamin out for the morning, they’re using the first ten dollars he’s ever earned ($4.00 from last night’s Lemonade stand with Sydney, and $5.00 from today’s chores) to buy a toy. I’m here at home organizing boxes and boxes of baby clothes, sorting them by age. All of them are a mess, tossed […]

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Co-parenting & discipline. A surprising delight.

June 6, 2010

I told you last month that John Bear and I, after much deliberation, trial and many errors decided to wave the green flag on John moving into a disciplinary role with Benjamin. The idea of co-parenting used to send chills down my spine. How? I thought, would that even work? And, already, I must admit […]

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Co-Parenting and Mrs. Brady

January 11, 2010

John and Benjamin had a bit of a falling out over our Christmas vacation. And if you think a three-year-old and a thirty-year-old can’t be at odds, than I’m about to enlighten you. In October, I gave John permission to take Benjamin into time outs when he witnessed bad behavior, or when John found himself […]

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