Breaking up: See our posts about "Breaking up"

Jane Wonder, the author of One Date Wonder (a personal favorite of mine) isn’t a single mom but she is a dating expert. I love her blog because she’s brutally honest about her emotions including the ups and downs of falling in love and breaking up. Here’s her take on how best to recover from a break up.

Filed under: Breaking up, Dating Single Moms, Dating tips (for the single mama), Dating, sex and love | 10 Comments »

If you’re new here, you may want to subscribe to my RSS feed. Thanks for visiting!I’m a dating single mom. It’s hard. Very hard. The dating part. The single mom part, not so bad. You get used to it. You adapt and pretty soon, you can’t imagine life any other way. But the dating part [...]

Filed under: Breaking up, Dating, sex and love, Uncategorized | 21 Comments »

Been thinking of Kris lately. I’ve had a few weak moments pop up over the past few days. I try to squelch them… try not to wonder why. Songs like this help. And plus, Bob Dylan is beautiful.
[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GtkVGClqrT4&feature=related]
What are your favorite break up songs? Songs that take you back but still push you forward?
P.S. [...]

Filed under: Breaking up, Dating, sex and love, Uncategorized | 12 Comments »

I did it.

Just deleted several ex-boyfriends from my Facebook and MySpace pages. Felt wonderful. I highly recommend it. There are a few reasons for this sudden decision, but to spare anyone’s feelings I won’t write about them.

All I can say is that … there are some guys who are earning the purple octopus label. There are others, who are fighting a valiant fight, defying the odds and making me scratch my head wondering when their purple octopus eyes will pop out.

Read my past post on Do You Keep Up with Your Ex on MySpace or Facebook for more virtual love fun.

There is hope.

Filed under: Breaking up, Dating online, Dating, sex and love | 2 Comments »

No deal on the house and Kris and I broke up. What a lovely start to the week!
About the house…
I’m actually a bit relieved because after my mom came to see it she was screaming - “no, not a two bedroom and just wait, watch, it’s going to get worse (the housing market).”
She was right. [...]

Filed under: Being a single mom, Breaking up, Dating, sex and love, For the men | 8 Comments »

Until recently, I enjoyed the pleasure of dating without my little mush brain baby having a clue as to what was going on. But now Benjamin is a very keen toddler who is definitely on to me.
If you’ve been reading for a while you know what’s up … but for those who haven’t:
1. Kris and [...]

Filed under: Being a single mom, Breaking up, Dating, sex and love, Uncategorized | 13 Comments »

A few hours after writing my last post…I got a call from Kris. He felt horrible about the way the dump went down and wanted to see me. I said - no way. I didn’t see the point. What good could come of it? Was he going to come over and dump me again? He told me to call him if I changed my mind and then 20 minutes later he called me.

“I’m on my way over - I have to see you.” Two minutes later there was a knock on my door. It was late. I was tired. But we talked. First he started with an apology and then he said it, “you know I really love you, right?” I told him I didn’t think he really knew what love was. But then I saw it in his eyes. And he does. Then as we talked about why he had come to this decision everything came out. The truth about his feelings.

Filed under: Breaking up, Dating, sex and love | 2 Comments »

Yes. My “amazing” boyfriend actually just dumped me … over the phone. Things had been rocky since a night earlier this week when we had a heavy chat about his lack of ambition or clear life goals. “Clearly,” I said, “this is something I have to think about - as a single mom. I can’t just be with someone, have them in contact with my child, etc … if I don’t even know if I could potentially have a future with them.” Translation = I don’t know if I can be with someone who doesn’t have their life relatively in order. I am also an extremely driven person and would like someone who is equally driven to succeed.

That didn’t sit well with him. And his responses didn’t sit well with me either…it was an unresolveable issue. I’m 28, have a great career and my life is relatively on track. He is 23, in college and has no idea what he wants to do with his. So - do I wait to see how he turns out, or call it like I see it? For the rest of the week our phone conversations were stifled by this heavy thought - should we be togeth

Filed under: Breaking up, Dating, sex and love | 7 Comments »

My best friend and fellow single mom, Abby, is still reeling from her break up. And so is her 5 year old daughter, Penny. She’s a beautiful, happy little girl who also fell in love with mommy’s boyfriend. How couldn’t she? He was over at their house at least three to four nights a week. They’d been together for nearly one year and had been talking about moving in together, starting a family - the whole kit and caboodle. And now - poof - he’s gone and Penny is broken hearted. If you’ve never seen a 5 year old with a little broken heart - lucky you - because I saw my first one tonight and it was unbearable.

Filed under: Being a single mom, Breaking up, Dating, sex and love, For the men, Single Mom S.O.S. | 11 Comments »

I’ve had a rough day. I didn’t get dumped but my best friend did and she’s a single mom. Needless to say I want to kill the guy (not really FBI, but I would like to punch him in the face). Instead of ranting about what a jerk her now ex-boyfriend is I decided to channel my negative energy into a cynical but hopefully interesting post on how to break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend.

I have a theory - how we dump someone is a clear reflection of our character.

Here are some of the most common dumping methods - guess which one the guy used on my single mom friend?

Filed under: Breaking up, Dating tips (for the single mama), Dating, sex and love, For the men | 10 Comments »