About MSM

Once upon a time, I got married…


And then my Prince Charming turned into a frog.

After marriage counseling, much soul ringing and yet another really nasty fight I decided it would be better to raise my four month old son alone than in that environment. So I packed up my things and left my husband, my career and my friends to move in with my mother and become a single mother.

During my first year as a single mom, I was hunting – searching for someone to rescue me.

Then something happened.

I opened my eyes and realized that I didn’t need a man at all, I just wanted one. There’s a big difference.

One year, many bad dates and a new apartment later I started this blog… everything that followed is documented here. Start at the beginning , watch my videos or catch up with a copy of Ms. Single Mama Uncensored: Dating, Sex and Love, a 120 page eBook that includes all of the back stories and juicy secrets you won’t find on my blog.


The Kid – Benjamin


My true Prince Charming, Benjamin is now 4 years old. And, even though being a single mom is by far the most challenging circumstance anyone can imagine – I’d never want it any other way, and he’s the reason why.

The Single Mom – Alaina, aka Ms. Single Mama


I’m a single mom but I’m also a single woman, a writer, a novice photographer and a blogger. My fans call me inspirational and refreshing while my haters call me “a disgrace to my gender” and a bunch of other things too nasty to publish. I’ll let you decide what you think, but if you’re a total jerk there’s a good chance I’ll delete your comment – because the world has enough negative energy already.

The Boyfriend – John Bear


He’s cute, he’s fuzzy and he loves to cuddle. But those are just a few of the reasons why I call him the Bear (and why I love him so much). You’ll have to read more to find out the rest.

And, P.S., it took me 7 months to add him to my About page. Did I mention that I have had commitment issues?

Meet John Bear here.



Start with my Frequently Asked Questions page.

My Business

Working for other people made it hard to leave work when Benjamin was sick or to even leave right at 5:00 to pick him up from school. So I started my own business. So far, very good.


Visit Cement Marketing.com, my Web Development, Search Engine Optimization and Social Marketing firm in Columbus Ohio for my blog on social and search marketing.


Really? I’ll take it.

My blog was listed as one of the Top 100 Must-Read Blogs by Women by Blogtreprenuer.com.

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myme September 7, 2008 at 12:34 pm

hi there. i read your opinion about men , about being father , about being husband . it’s so good but i think it’s quiet late . here in the hell we have some damn mullahs that tell it to us before we get married . They’re hateful, anyway, sometimes even a donkey rocks.


The Patriot October 30, 2008 at 1:19 pm

Good for you that you found your mojo. Most single mothers never do. I was a single working father that successfully raised three children on my own for almost 20 years. I was married to my high school sweetheart who after 8 years of marriage died in a car crash. It was the worst day of my life and the next 20 weren’t much better but I did it.

I did it all as you can relate. I worked full time, paid the bills, cooked the meals, bought the groceries, cleaned the house, took my daughter to girl scouts and softball, took the boys to cub scouts and baseball and all my kids played instruments in music.

I tried to be both parents but it didn’t work out very good. There is a reason why boys should never be raised by moms and daughters should never be raised by fathers. They need both parents.

It angers me that men never get the press on being responsible or being responsible single working fathers. Heaven forbid the world thought men are responsible and are not only capable of raising children on there own but in a lot of cases do a better job then women.

Nice website and good for you. Keep up the hard work it will pay off. My kids are successful and I take the credit for how they turned out.

Take care
The Patriot


singlebychoice November 14, 2008 at 10:01 am

i just stumbled across while surfing the net and by far it’s one of the best ones i’ve ever read. reading your story about how you became a single mom is similar to my own; my daughters sperm donor was a financial leech and verbally and physically abusive i left him after she turned one and witnessed one of his violent behavior i didnt want her growing up thinking that type of behavior was normal and i havent looked back since. i wish you luck with your new relationship


Gladys January 28, 2015 at 12:23 pm

Nate Ndjerareou – Great pictures! Your wineddg was off the hook . I haven’t had that much fun in years. 3 days of party party party. Great job guys (you too Papa Scott and Blane/Joan). Glad you had a great time in Greece. My inner beach bum was envious. Look forward to seeing you guys in Europe soon, Lord willing!July 12, 2012 5:11 am


K May 24, 2010 at 2:25 pm

just landed in your spot…read this page and got teary eyed! I look forward to reading more.


Looking at divorce October 22, 2012 at 4:36 pm

I love your blog!! I like seeing how much fun you’re having – not letting anyone keep you down – and knowing your path is true.

Thank you for the inspiration <<<333


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