Comments on: About Ms. Single Mama http://mssinglemama.com Single Mom Dating, Love, and Life Advice Sat, 20 Mar 2010 19:14:39 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Melinda http://mssinglemama.com/about-single-mom/#comment-16244 Melinda Thu, 11 Mar 2010 14:30:54 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/about-2/#comment-16244 Was directed here from a website called the Thinking Housewife, written by a crazy misogynist whom I read due to some sort of unexplained masochism. If she can't stand you, you must be doing something right! Your little boy is adorable, by the way! Was directed here from a website called the Thinking Housewife, written by a crazy misogynist whom I read due to some sort of unexplained masochism. If she can’t stand you, you must be doing something right! Your little boy is adorable, by the way!

]]> By: Mel http://mssinglemama.com/about-single-mom/#comment-15804 Mel Tue, 09 Feb 2010 02:50:48 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/about-2/#comment-15804 Wow, reading your story is giving me deja-vu... It really is amazing, that during pregnancy, is when they decide to show their true colors. Even more amazing is it isn't a "given" for us women to kick them out right away!! I stayed for almost five more years...one day it hit me... I CAN DO THIS! Good luck & Great blog! -Mel Wow, reading your story is giving me deja-vu…
It really is amazing, that during pregnancy, is when they decide to show their true colors. Even more amazing is it isn’t a “given” for us women to kick them out right away!! I stayed for almost five more years…one day it hit me… I CAN DO THIS!

Good luck & Great blog!

-Mel

]]> By: mommybella http://mssinglemama.com/about-single-mom/#comment-14911 mommybella Sun, 27 Dec 2009 17:01:11 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/about-2/#comment-14911 thats so great. One of my fears of being a single mom is that my son will grow to hate me because i left his father. Of course I know that when he is with his father he gets free run of everything. I'm afraid of my son always seeing me as the bad person because I have to be the responsible parent. I will be happy if my son grows up to be like you! thats so great. One of my fears of being a single mom is that my son will grow to hate me because i left his father. Of course I know that when he is with his father he gets free run of everything. I’m afraid of my son always seeing me as the bad person because I have to be the responsible parent. I will be happy if my son grows up to be like you!

]]> By: mommybella http://mssinglemama.com/about-single-mom/#comment-14910 mommybella Sun, 27 Dec 2009 16:40:04 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/about-2/#comment-14910 I love your blog. I have had trouble with my friends not being able to relate to me because I am the only single mother. I have gone thru hell since the day I found out I was pregnant. my son's father has made life hell for me for over 3 years now(my son will be 3 in april)! I have been dying to chat with people that know exactly what I am going through. When my son was 6 months old I finally got up the courage to leave the (verbally) abusive relationship. Little did I know that things were only going to get worse. Being a single mother is more challenging that anyone could ever imagine! I love your blog. I have had trouble with my friends not being able to relate to me because I am the only single mother. I have gone thru hell since the day I found out I was pregnant. my son’s father has made life hell for me for over 3 years now(my son will be 3 in april)! I have been dying to chat with people that know exactly what I am going through. When my son was 6 months old I finally got up the courage to leave the (verbally) abusive relationship. Little did I know that things were only going to get worse.
Being a single mother is more challenging that anyone could ever imagine!

]]> By: Eve http://mssinglemama.com/about-single-mom/#comment-14399 Eve Thu, 12 Nov 2009 16:45:19 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/about-2/#comment-14399 I'm hooked on your blog :) Love your style and honesty. I am also a single mommy. Check out my blog when you have a chance. I just started! http://blogaboutsomethinglady.wordpress.com/ I’m hooked on your blog :) Love your style and honesty. I am also a single mommy. Check out my blog when you have a chance. I just started!
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]]> By: pat http://mssinglemama.com/about-single-mom/#comment-13487 pat Tue, 20 Oct 2009 16:51:59 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/about-2/#comment-13487 CommonSense, What is your defence for the father who, dosen't want his child. One who would spend 3 months trying to get a mother to abort. (this would have been his 3rd abortion)...and when it didn't happend then he spent 4 months trying to stress the mother into so much stress as too hopefully miscarry. His only concern is that he will be a "dead beat Dad" and he doesn't want anyone to know he is one of those....so he felt a third life must be given up for his selfish pride...and this is an intelligent person? Guess you better, give up your ramping and raving...There are more single women out there who never asked for help and don't need it. You're only bitching because you much have to stand up to your short falls. Oh, and I'd be ashamed if I were you! You judge people you don't even know. CommonSense,
What is your defence for the father who, dosen’t want his child. One who would spend 3 months trying to get a mother to abort. (this would have been his 3rd abortion)…and when it didn’t happend then he spent 4 months trying to stress the mother into so much stress as too hopefully miscarry. His only concern is that he will be a “dead beat Dad” and he doesn’t want anyone to know he is one of those….so he felt a third life must be given up for his selfish pride…and this is an intelligent person? Guess you better, give up your ramping and raving…There are more single women out there who never asked for help and don’t need it. You’re only bitching because you much have to stand up to your short falls. Oh, and I’d be ashamed if I were you! You judge people you don’t even know.

]]> By: El http://mssinglemama.com/about-single-mom/#comment-13431 El Sun, 18 Oct 2009 18:59:03 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/about-2/#comment-13431 Wonderful words Alaina! I left my ex when my son was 5 months old and am now dating again. My son is 6 and I'm so grateful for the help I receive from family and friends. He's a bright, cheerful boy who has no shortage of love and warmth. Brava! Best to you and Benjamin. Wonderful words Alaina! I left my ex when my son was 5 months old and am now dating again. My son is 6 and I’m so grateful for the help I receive from family and friends. He’s a bright, cheerful boy who has no shortage of love and warmth. Brava! Best to you and Benjamin.

]]> By: michelle http://mssinglemama.com/about-single-mom/#comment-13089 michelle Mon, 28 Sep 2009 19:17:53 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/about-2/#comment-13089 OMG...I am single again. I found my husband had profiles all over the internet dating sites. To look at us everyone thought we were what the ideal marriage was all about and so did I. We never fought, were best friends and had great sex and then one day I check his mail and bam.....everywhere there was mail from the dating sights that he had been on. When confronted all he would say was ...I didn't do it. When asked too leave it took him about 3 seconds to call his mom to come and get him. Now I work full time, go to college and have children. I wonder if I will ever find some time for just me. OMG…I am single again. I found my husband had profiles all over the internet dating sites. To look at us everyone thought we were what the ideal marriage was all about and so did I. We never fought, were best friends and had great sex and then one day I check his mail and bam…..everywhere there was mail from the dating sights that he had been on. When confronted all he would say was …I didn’t do it. When asked too leave it took him about 3 seconds to call his mom to come and get him. Now I work full time, go to college and have children. I wonder if I will ever find some time for just me.

]]> By: pat http://mssinglemama.com/about-single-mom/#comment-12919 pat Sat, 19 Sep 2009 18:06:49 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/about-2/#comment-12919 What are saying? Are you for real? What...if a child has no Dad ,they can't have a great life? What are your feeling about ophrans? Should they go out with the trash? What about Widows, are their children not going to amount to anything? I bet you are as dumb as you sound. Shame on you! Your intelligence is about as good as the name you used. I would bet...your Mom raised you BETTER! Or was that the Great Father you had? What are saying? Are you for real? What…if a child has no Dad ,they can’t have a great life? What are your feeling about ophrans? Should they go out with the trash? What about Widows, are their children not going to amount to anything? I bet you are as dumb as you sound. Shame on you! Your intelligence is about as good as the name you used. I would bet…your Mom raised you BETTER! Or was that the Great Father you had?

]]> By: Drew http://mssinglemama.com/about-single-mom/#comment-12103 Drew Thu, 20 Aug 2009 01:54:52 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/about-2/#comment-12103 Commonsense, I have absolutely no patience for someone like you. If you don't like single mothers, or don't think they are deserving of respect from others, or think they are just looking for a "handout"..... don't become one. You might be okay with staying with someone who doesn't treat you well, is abusive, or are so willing to forgo your happiness to "keep a mother and father together." I am not willing to do any of things at the cost of my happiness or well-being. Most importantly I WILL NOT teach my daughter that it is okay to stay with someone that doesn't treat me the way I deserve or worse, is abusive. How sad that you will not allow yourself happiness in your life if your husband can't also try to make the relationship work or does something to outright disrespect or HURT you. And that you might be a poor role model for your daughter and getting what you don't deserve as a person, nevermind a grown woman. And last I checked, all the experts agree that you SHOULD NOT STAY TOGETHER for the sake of your child. An abusive relationship physical, mental, or emotional hurts a child's self esteem and can lead to mental health issues and problems with relationships later on. You might call me a "femanist" (it's FEMINIST... do a spell check before you post so you don't look like even more of an idiot next time) but my daughter will learn to be strong, self loving, capable, and will most likely climb to success over your children who grew up with a mother and father in the home (if you even have children, I bet you don't!). P.S. Last I checked President Obama, who is one of the smartest and most impressive people alive, was raised by a single mother for some of his life. Alicia Keyes too. P.S.S. Child support isn't a "hand out". Don't parents normally put in half to cover the needs of their child? And just for the record, what most fathers end up paying (if they don't have custody) is WAY LESS than the expenses it actually takes to raise a child. I'd rather pay the extra than comprimise my happiness or well-being. Single mamas, don't even try to appeal to this person by justifying your situations. It doesn't matter, and by doing so, you are belittling others. We need to stand strong together on this. Commonsense,
I have absolutely no patience for someone like you. If you don’t like single mothers, or don’t think they are deserving of respect from others, or think they are just looking for a “handout”….. don’t become one.
You might be okay with staying with someone who doesn’t treat you well, is abusive, or are so willing to forgo your happiness to “keep a mother and father together.” I am not willing to do any of things at the cost of my happiness or well-being. Most importantly I WILL NOT teach my daughter that it is okay to stay with someone that doesn’t treat me the way I deserve or worse, is abusive. How sad that you will not allow yourself happiness in your life if your husband can’t also try to make the relationship work or does something to outright disrespect or HURT you. And that you might be a poor role model for your daughter and getting what you don’t deserve as a person, nevermind a grown woman.
And last I checked, all the experts agree that you SHOULD NOT STAY TOGETHER for the sake of your child. An abusive relationship physical, mental, or emotional hurts a child’s self esteem and can lead to mental health issues and problems with relationships later on.
You might call me a “femanist” (it’s FEMINIST… do a spell check before you post so you don’t look like even more of an idiot next time) but my daughter will learn to be strong, self loving, capable, and will most likely climb to success over your children who grew up with a mother and father in the home (if you even have children, I bet you don’t!).
P.S. Last I checked President Obama, who is one of the smartest and most impressive people alive, was raised by a single mother for some of his life. Alicia Keyes too.
P.S.S. Child support isn’t a “hand out”. Don’t parents normally put in half to cover the needs of their child? And just for the record, what most fathers end up paying (if they don’t have custody) is WAY LESS than the expenses it actually takes to raise a child. I’d rather pay the extra than comprimise my happiness or well-being.
Single mamas, don’t even try to appeal to this person by justifying your situations. It doesn’t matter, and by doing so, you are belittling others. We need to stand strong together on this.

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