Hello, my lovelies.

by mssinglemama on August 30, 2014

It’s been a while. How are you, my beautiful readers?

So many of you are still here, finding this blog at the start of your journey as a single mom as you type in a search term looking for answers and support. Know that I miss you always, think of you constantly and wish I could be here, writing more. But life has to be lived right now.

Believe it or not, I miss my days as a single mother. Or maybe, I just miss my twenties. Either way… I miss you back.  But that was then and this is now. My “now” now involves our new baby, my not so little Benjamin, my two step children, the love of my life and my business. Phew. There’s a lot. BUT, I took a few hours tonight to finally, publish Ms. Single Mama Uncensored again.

I took the original eBook down years ago because it was such a hassle to manage and for you all to download and read. I still receive emails from readers weekly asking for a copy – so, here it is… Ms. Single Mama Uncensored for the Kindle on Amazon. If you don’t have a Kindle there is a Kindle app for the iPhone and probably for the Android, although don’t hold me to that.

Also, I haven’t read this in ages.

I need to re-write the ending and a bunch of other things, so stay tuned for an updated version.  ;  )

Download Ms. Single Mama Uncensored here. 

If you missed the details here they are:

The blog is just the beginning.

In Ms. Single Mama Uncensored the secrets are out. In the book you’ll find out…

  • How my ex-husband and I met and fell in love
  • More about the illusive Biker, my first single mom romance
  • Read the story about my first single mom crush
  • What really happened with Mr. Man
  • Why my fling with Cabin Man was so short lived
  • Details on how to have a happy and healthy sex life as a single mom along with tips on dating including touchy issues like when to tell him about your single mom status and when to introduce him to the kids.



What people are saying about Ms. Single Mama Uncensored (the eBook):

“There’s no difference to me between this book and something on a shelf at Barnes & Noble. I bought it and have been devouring in big gulps for the past few nights. Thank you!” – Jen C. of Follow Your Bliss ”

“OMG…I can NOT stop reading your book. You’re an INCREDIBLE writer. I’ve loved your blog all along – but your book is truly, truly incredible. I am healing so much in so many ways just by reading your experiences and knowing, once and for all, that I too will be ok. Thanks for putting your heart on your sleeve for the rest of us single moms!!!” – Ericka Sevilla, on Facebook.

“For anyone who is on the fence on whether or not to buy this book…DO IT! I am also a single mother and since i am only 21 i do not have any single mama friends to discuss the different experiences and emotions that we go through with, but reading this book has helped me in SO many ways! Everything that Alaina talks about while telling her story is something that any single mother can relate to. For me at least, it seemed like this book was custom made for me. I believe that after you read her whole uncensored story that those of you who haven’t really started to heal can finally begin the process, and those of you who aren’t single mama’s can truly appreciate what a single mama has to go through to be also be a GREAT mama! Thank you so much Alaina for sharing this story with us! I obviously LOVED it!” – Chelsea

A true page-turner this book pulls no punches. Ms. Sheer recounts stories from her personal life with humbling candor, drawing readers in with all the confidence of a best friend. Central to the theme of this book is Ms. Sheer’s emphatic advice to each and every single mom searching for Mr. Right. That advice? Love yourself. We’ve all heard it, plenty of us have brushed it off, but none of us have had it phrased quite so convincingly as Alaina Sheer has done in this book.” – Jennifer Parker, Boise Examiner

“On the outside, you seem so put together: smart, beautiful, successful, confident, and (now) in love. You are, indeed, all of those things, but the e-book also shows a very the human side of you: an everyday, normal woman, with the same obstacles, mistakes made, lessons learned, worries, and disappointments. Despite what you have gone through, you remained strong for yourself and Benjamin–and in telling your story, you also give other single moms, dads, and everyone else HOPE. That is truly inspiring.” – Jen C.

“Old posts are mixed with new stories and her insights and revelations fill the gaps, creating a smooth, easy to follow glimpse into her world. Sheer invites you into her world, and while I am not single nor a mother, the underlying themes of trusting and believing in yourself rang true to my heart. Ms Single Mama finds a way to balance romantic optimism with the realities of daily life, all the while ensuring the needs of her son Benjamin are met. As both Benjamin and her confidence grow, she slowly heals from her previously chaotic life.” – Amanda, Stack of Spines




Ms. Single Mama


Find Seth and I on our new blog, or follow me on Instagram @alaina_gray


{ 14 comments… read them below or add one }

Jen September 4, 2014 at 10:06 am

So glad you found life beyond single hood. Will follow you to the new blog, always loved your take on life. I’m sure this new chapter will be wonderful!!


mssinglemama January 21, 2015 at 9:53 pm

Thank, Jen! You are so sweet and were always so supportive and engaged during the blog’s hey day. Will never forget your comments and insights.


Kristine September 11, 2014 at 1:21 pm

Hello A, it’s nice to hear from you again. Partner informed me this past weekend that he is moving out, so at the end of this month I will be single again! I didn’t write a blog post about it yet because I don’t get too personal there, but soon I might write a post about how a single mom buys a house on her own! xoxoxo to you all


mssinglemama January 21, 2015 at 9:54 pm

I am so sorry. Been there done that, as you know… http://mssinglemama.com/2010/12/28/and-then-we-break-up/. I can tell you, all will be well in the end, if not absolutely amazing. And writing about it helps. Publicly or not, get it out of your system.


Suzanne October 22, 2014 at 6:28 pm

I’m going to bookmark this page and check out that book! Great blog!


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Amanda Matheny November 9, 2014 at 7:25 pm

Sounds like things are going well for you and that’s great. It also sounds like you’ve touched the lives of several people with your book. I haven’t written a book myself but I’ve had several people contact me privately and tell me how some of my blog posts have impacted them, helped them, educated them, entertained them, or various other things, and I’ve only been blogging for 7 months so that makes me feel even more amazing. I love hearing feedback from readers, as I am sure you do as well.


Chris R November 14, 2014 at 10:06 pm

Hey Miss Single Mamma! I know it’s been a while I miss your work! I know you branched off with other sites and things and try to keep up. With a 6 year old my self, well you know how that is. I miss leaving comments and just all the comments and discussions with you and the other readers!

I hope all is well.



mssinglemama January 21, 2015 at 9:55 pm

I miss it, too. So very, very much! I wish I had twice as many hours in the day so I could still blog. Thanks for popping back in.


Kati November 20, 2014 at 10:46 am

Hello Ms. Single Mama, my name is Kati, I’m 27 years old and I’m from Chile (so I apologize right away for my bad orthography and all, I hope you could understand me despite of my bad redaction hahaha). I have a 9 month old boy named Daniel. I’m just starting my journey as a single mom, and it has been quite a ride. When I met the father of my baby I fell under his spell immediately. He was so sexy. He is from the UK and for me that was soooo hot, with his cute accent and all that crap. I was in a serious relationship at that time (we were on a bad state, but we had been together for 3 years) but I broke up just to be with him, that insane I was. I started to create an image of him in my mind, daydreaming about him, and before I even met him or even kissed him I was already deeply in love with him (how crazy is that). Then we started dating, and it was amazing, passion everywhere, lots and lots of chemistry, he was so intelligent, funny, we could talk hours about everything and about nothing, I wanted more and more of him every day and every second…but, the big BUT, I started to actually met him, who he really was and no the image I had off him, and right at the beginning I could see that he was so damaged and with so many emotional, and even psychiatric, issues. Instead of running in the other direction I freezed…3 month later I found out that I was pregnant (and I was on the pill!!). Instead of freaking out, I was so happy because, even though I had never thought about being a mom, suddenly there he was…growing inside of me. I felt like I was awaking from a deep sleep, like I hadn’t realized before how beautiful life can be like someone had pulled a bandage that was covering my eyes and now I could see that life was truly a miracle, suddenly I was feeling so complete, so strong, so happy. I knew that It was going to be difficult and I was scared of telling him because we didn’t planed it and we have just starting dating. But, I don’t know why, I had the hope that somehow he would be happy too. When I told him he freaked out, he even tried to convince me to have an abortion….I was so devastated. I want to clear up that he is not a bad person, but he is a difficult person with so many issues. He completely broke down, he cried every day, he fell in this dark place. We try to continue with our relationship and it was the worst thing that we could have done. I was dealing with the pregnancy, the fact that I wasn’t financially prepared to become a mother, the fact that It took me by surprise, the fact that I wasn’t married, and on top of all that, I had to deal with him, I was supposed to pick up the pieces and support him!. I was overwhelmed. Finally after a lot of tears and pain, we broke up when my son was 3 months old. Of course, I was the one that took the decision. He is a super present dad, and he cares about Daniel a lot, and he loves him so so much. But I’m the one that deals with all the day to day heavy work. I’m deeply in love with my son and so happy that he is part of my life, but I’m also so exhausted, and sometimes scared about our future. And confused! I don’t know what I’m supposed to be feeling, I been so focused on being the best mother I could be that I have forgotten that I’m also a women (even a person). Anyway, I just wanted to thank you. I came across your blog on Monday, three days ago! And it has been so inspiring; It has allowed me to realize that I have so much healing to do, and to face the pain in order to let my wounds to heal.
Thank you!!




mssinglemama January 21, 2015 at 9:56 pm

YOU will be alright. I promise… you’re on the right path. And yes, it gets harder before it becomes easier. But you can do this!! Be proud of yourself for surviving him and moving on.


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