A new home.

by mssinglemama on July 19, 2012

Some of you have just discovered Ms. Single Mama, some of you have been here since the beginning.

All along the way we’ve shared our trials and our victories and it’s been an absolutely incredible experience. I think this blog has truly accomplished something magnificent. This is evidenced by the emails I still get every single day from those of you who have found this community and then been moved to leave abusive relationships or flat out just plain bad relationships and others who are single moms who finally feel empowered and proud of how far they have come.

However you slice it, we have moved mountains.

There are over 20, 000 unique visitors to this Website every month. There have been over 3,250,000 page views and there have been over 25,000 comments. All by single moms who, before this blog and the others that were created before it, had very few “real” sources for what it is truly like to be a modern single mom. We don’t fit into traditional stereo types and we don’t have a collective voice. We are hushed by some, but have learned not to be. We are who we are and, by the way, our children will be just fine (gasp).

As my long time readers know I have had a few panic attacks and nearly shut this blog down on several occasions. I have long since accepted the fact that I can’t stop publishing my story. For myself, sure. It’s fun. I love writing, I love publishing, I love creating. But also for my children and their children. I want this story to be somewhere for them to find. And for all of you. For every single parent out there who is just trying to figure this stuff out.

For that reason, this story will continue. In part here. I won’t be abandoning Ms. Single Mama completely. But for the most part, the story will continue here – on a new blog that fits the new chapter in my life, in our life…

I hope you love it as much as we do! And we can’t wait to see you after the hop. Click here.


The winner of the bag is Hollie Barnes (can you email me – at mssinglemama@gmail-dot-com. Congratulations!



{ 19 comments… read them below or add one }

Kandace July 20, 2012 at 3:51 pm

I’m sad…really sad. I JUST found this blog last week. I have been so inspired and I feel a lot better to know what I’m going through is normal. My daughters father left me shortly after I found out I was pregnant. He has been in and out and she’s 10 months now. Its getting easier, and I have accepted that I’m a single mom. I’m content in knowing life goes on. However, now I’m dealing with the dating issue… I said all that to say, I’m happy for you and very proud! I hope to be as happy as you are someday 🙂 Good luck and don’t forget about us.


Ms. Single Mama July 21, 2012 at 8:56 pm


I will never forget about you… please dig back in the archives (over on the left) for oodles and oodles (years and years, in fact) of dating advice for single moms. I hope it helps! And I won’t be completely disappearing. I think we’ll have lots of guest blog posts here and all kinds of fun things. I just won’t be blogging as frequently on Ms. Single Mama.


Suzy July 20, 2012 at 4:38 pm

Beauty? Really? You don’t feel at all weird calling yourself that publicly? You’re attractice but OMG the ego. I would be embarrassed to call myself that without any hint of irony. You narcissists never fail to amaze me.


Ms. Single Mama July 21, 2012 at 8:58 pm

Compared to Seth – the Biker – I am definitely a beauty. ; )


helen July 22, 2012 at 3:23 pm

lovely reply, I am a newby too your site, read your blog and book from start too finish in one night when my 10 yr old daughter had a friends too stay and admired your bravery, zest for life and enthusiasm, long may it continue, the haters always make me smile, add authenticity too how life is for the single mammas ! but you dont have too look if you don’t
like is my motto ! xx best wishes beautiful lady


steph July 26, 2012 at 12:38 pm

Wow Sara and Tara, You know I don’t always agree with everything Aliana says or does. But hey its not my life and I’m trying to figure stuff out just like the next single mama. But I just had to comment on this. How dare you comment negatively on ANY woman calling herself beautiful. You should be ashamed of yourselves. Who are you to determine who gets to use that word and in what way? Narcissism? Seriously? She is beautiful, just like I consider myself beautiful and just like if I ever have a daughter I will tell her she is beautiful every single day. I hope this hypothetical daughter of mine never comes across hateful and spiteful people who tear her down without knowing her and who have no idea what true beauty means.


steph July 26, 2012 at 12:40 pm

*Sorry Tara and Suzy.


Anna July 27, 2012 at 12:16 pm

Beautifully put. Women need to stop tearing each other down, and start lifting each other up.


Lance Soskin July 21, 2012 at 1:41 pm

Hi Ms. Single Mama,

My ex-girlfriend, whom I still friends with, and who is a single mother, told me about this blog – she loves it. We were talking about it and I was wondering if a site like eQuibbly.com would be of use to women who are single mothers and dealing with painful exes and going through a separation and all that goes with it, or even mothers who are considering separation or divorce.

eQuibbly.com is very easy to use. There’s a great animated video on the top right corner of the homepage that explains what the site is for and how to use it.

I hope your readers find it useful.

Lance Soskin


Rachael July 23, 2012 at 1:35 pm

I am so happy that things are working out so well for you! I discovered this blog a year and a half ago, JUST after my first single mom relationship and break up (what a mess!!). I love your views. I love reading your story. It has brought me a little bit of peace every time I needed it.


kelleher International July 23, 2012 at 2:35 pm

I really enjoy your blog and your story is very inspiring!


Glenda July 24, 2012 at 1:45 pm

I’ve been following you since the days at Glamour / Storked! when you were featured on Chrissy’s blog. I tried leaving a comment on your new blog, but kept getting an error?! Best to you and Seth… and the kiddos!


Tara July 26, 2012 at 12:05 am

Nope, not even next to Seth, the hipster wanna be that you’ve known half a year – still wouldn’t say beauty….Narcissism is an understatement. Your poor kid….me, me me, you do realize that there are MILLIONS of single moms out there? You aren’t doing anything amazing. We all just live life, and some of us take a moment to look away from the mirror to enjoy it.


Jenny July 30, 2012 at 6:10 am

Love your blog
come check mine out


Chris R July 31, 2012 at 12:37 am

Well I have to say first, you are right many single moms read your blog and at least one single dad! I have been following you now for some time now and I have to say i’m so happy to read such honest post. We were there for your bad and good days.

You answered our questions and gave us tips, so moving forward i am excited to see what is next!
Talk to you soon,
Chris R


anton August 6, 2012 at 2:39 pm

I really love this one..Looking for partners? Why don’t you try this site? http://1mate.org/


Belcher Empire August 7, 2012 at 1:25 am

nice post I found my girlfriend at Top 10 Sexiest Women and we have been together everysince!


Jay Martin September 3, 2012 at 12:23 pm

Your story is a true inspiration to all bloggers. I am glad you haven’t shut the site down during those moments of stress. Keep up the good work and you’ll keep growing your readership I am sure. Nice facebook page as well!


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