In bed…

by mssinglemama on July 11, 2012

Sleep has always been a touchy subject for me. I never get enough of it and I am jealous of people who do. I envy well rested people like most women envy dewy, perfect skin or thin thighs. You can have your thighs and your skin, I just want sleep.

I used to dread sleeping.

During college sleeping proved to be a difficult task for a girl who loved to party nearly as much as she loved getting an A+ on her anthropology test. And after college I went and got myself a job in morning radio which means I had to wake up at 4:00 AM every morning. Very healthy for a 20-something who was staying out until 2:00 AM.

Needless to say, I would make a fantastic candidate for a sleep clinic studying the long term effects of sleep deprivation or irregular sleep patterns.

When I quit the day job back in 2009, I was in total denial at the time, but I had a few months there of full blown insomnia. Even during good years, steady jobs and good boyfriends, it would still take me at least 30-45 minutes every night to fall asleep.

Before we were officially living together, Seth would come over nearly every night.

No matter how late it was and no matter how tired we were–he would make his way to my house. But only after the kids were tucked in and asleep. They were living with Seth’s parents, a very fortunate situation for all involved. Fortunate that they could help while Seth recovered from the divorce and selfishly fortunate because he could escape every night to come to my house.

After we would relinquish and exhaust all waking moments together, I would lay my head on his chest, listen to his steady breathing and then, just minutes later, I would fall asleep. After checking his pockets for sleep drugs he could be slipping into my drinks and after he convinced me he was not a sorcerer or practicing some kind of black magic voodoo, I accepted the impossible that was now possible.

I had found my cure. Sure, he’s a six foot three hairy biker, but I’d take it.

As soon as he was sure I was out he would slowly roll out from under me. I would always wake up and through half open eyes whisper him a good-bye. I hated to see him go but completely understood why – he had to be there in case they woke up and when they woke up. And I loved him for it.

When they moved in Seth didn’t have to leave anymore but he did have terms. In exchange for my sound sleeping machine (him) I would have to fit a King sized bed (his) in our room. We made it work with lots and lots of purging. I made fun of him about the sheer size of the thing for weeks before I found out he has to sleep in a King or else his feet hang off the end of a Queen. I shook of the guilt and sucked it up but his bed was atrocious for other reasons. I would fall asleep fine but wake up tossing and turning because it was so uncomfortable.

So when Sleep Number emailed us asking if we’d like a new bed in exchange for a blog post (this post is sponsored by the way) I said, “Ummmmmm. Yeah.”

I’m a total bed sell out. Completely and totally.

So, we all drove to the nearest Sleep Number store and got fitted for our new memory foam bed. Seth went first and clearly took his 3D body scan very seriously.

At some point, Benjamin pirated the camera.

And wouldn’t leave us alone.

He even caught us attempting a cuddle. Just habit, I suppose.

There are plenty of other shots from other angles you will not be seeing.

And finally, the photographer, taking a well-deserved break.

Thank you Sleep Number. We love the bed, of course! How couldn’t you with the custom sides and everything and the remote control action to boot? Essentially, Internet, we each choose our level of firmness and both Seth and I are sleeping like babies.


I received a free Sleep Number m7 Memory Foam  Bed to review for Select Number/Sleep Number for this post. And it is AMAZING. Please visit them on Facebook here.

{ 14 comments… read them below or add one }

Sara July 13, 2012 at 1:20 am

I have the same sleep problems, but I haven’t found my cure yet! It usually takes me about an hour to fall asleep, although I do blame college (online)-since I have 2 kids, the best most “peaceful” time to do school is at night. Maybe I should get a Sleep Number…


Alex July 13, 2012 at 5:38 am

I’ve had similar problems in the past, although luckily for me after a few weeks I naturally seem to get my sleeping pattern back.

The key thing for me is to make sure I have a routine. I don’t go to bed at exactly the same time each night, but it’s always between 11pm-1am and I always get up at 7am (except for the occasional weekend when I’m not working). If I do that then I’m OK. If my sleep pattern gets messed up for any reason then I suffer for a while.

Very jealous of your new bed!


Lee July 15, 2012 at 9:42 am

Well I see that you are just writing blog posts for compensation now and what you can get out of it. Free trips. beds, furniture etc…Too bad you have turned this blog into an advertisement, but I guess you can’t really write a blog for single mothers when you are so happily married now.


Stac July 16, 2012 at 8:39 am

Hey Lee, If I could write a blog post for a more comfortable bed I would, and I’m sure there are many others as well. Trade and barter…my favorite economic system by far! 🙂


Lee July 16, 2012 at 6:55 pm

Just so you know, it ceases to be a blog when it’s reported that money/goods exchanged hands for the piece. It’s now considered ADVERTISEMENT and should be considered as such.


Stac July 16, 2012 at 7:56 pm

It a very common practice in the blog world to write an entry based on sponsorship or receiving an item or service. Just so you know. Yes I am well aware of the ethical controversy over it; however, I am not one of those bothered by it. It’s the writing and content of the blog as a whole that I base my readership on, so what if every few weeks there is a sponsored entry. You will be hard pressed to find a blog that doesn’t do such entries.


Sarah@SarahLyallHome July 17, 2012 at 9:04 pm

Im glad you found the perfect mattress. I know how important sleep is…unfortunately b/c I have decided to go for a doctorate…I am late 20’s and still doing the sleep deprivation thing!


Chris R July 18, 2012 at 12:21 am

Great Post! I love reading your post. Its funny we can spend all night trying to fall asleep then that one person comes along and its just so perfect. Im so happy your sleeping.

Now i gotta up my blog to get sponsors! lol
~Chris R


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Basically every people loves their bed. Because a bed can increase energy. But if you need to share your bed with someone who has no idea about friendship. Then your bed can be so painful. However, Thanks for your nice post.


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Kanako December 7, 2012 at 3:42 pm

I wish my son had wanted to suck on a dmmiue! I use to be so jealous of parents that could put the dummy in the kids mouth and they would straight away stop crying! That photo is so cute! x


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