I know it’s hard. But try… for the kids. I think you can. I think you can. I know you can.
You are all single mothers, so I know you don’t have to look far for inspiration. Your children are right there, inspiring you every day with their energy for life, their pure belief that anything is possible. That all little girls are really fairies or princesses, of course.
And that all little boys are princes of light, or darkness, or where ever their mood takes them.
They dance and they sing and they laugh endlessly, as easily as they cry and shout and scream. Their emotions are always on the surface, honest and raw. They have little to fear. Our children, the children of single parents, are unique in that they have lost. They have lost their parents being together. They have… and it hurts, but with our support, they can re-build their hearts.
They can dance again.
We are everything to them. Their heroes, their knights in shining armor – we lift them up.
We guide them and show them that we can make mistakes, but most of all, that we can survive our grief. We can actually pick things up and recover and find happiness again. We are busy in our happiness, finding the right balance for us all. And there are definitely moments when we want to kick and scream ourselves because it’s so frustrating. But those moments leave as quickly as they come and for every one we survive, we grow a bit wiser. I find comfort in knowing we are definitely not the first blended family on the planet.
A few issues we are facing right now:
- The dynamic between Lily and Benjamin. Both being the oldest or only siblings, there are some turf wars.
- The odd number of three sometimes leaves one of them feeling left out.
- Benjamin is calling Seth “Dad” and Benjamin also wants to change his last name. We’re not sure how his father will feel about that…
Any advice is always appreciated.
We took these pictures at the Nelsonville Art & Music Festival a few weekends ago. It was absolutely spectacular. Next week we are all flying via Vision Airlines directly to Myrtle Beach from Columbus. We’ll be staying here, which is kind of hard to believe. The trip is sponsored (must disclose). It will be the first time all five of us are together for five days straight without any interruptions like work and school. We owe it all to you, my readers. So, thank YOU!
To see my entire photo gallery from the Nelsonville Music Festival, click here. We were camping, we were gross, we were dirty, and… for some reason, I thought it would be cool if Seth shaved his beard.