The Honeymooners

by mssinglemama on May 2, 2012

“What do people without children do on the weekends?” Seth asks. His legs are extending over the ottoman.

“I have no idea.”

It’s been one week since our spontaneous back yard wedding and we still have the honeymoon glow. We’re both so happy, in spite of a few external forces that have presented themselves–a change in the team at Cement, a shift in employment for Seth. But now here we are with an entire weekend free from the kids, from work, from any obligations whatsoever.

And here’s what we did. Rather than going out to breakfast at Skillet or North Star (our two favorite spots), we chose to stay in and make some of our own. I made this hash with potatoes (boil them for 10 minutes first), bacon, sausage, canned fire roasted red peppers from Trader Joe’s, onions and garlic,.

We were both in absolute heaven.

And believe me, it tasted even better than it looks.

Yum. Then, after breakfast, we relaxed. It was a rainy day and we decided to spend most of it watching Mad Men and drinking whiskey. Saturday night we spent with friends and ended up back in our living room writing songs until the early morning hours. On Sunday, the weather was perfect. So, I set to gardening – a massive job, as evidenced by my wedding pictures – and Seth went to work in the garage, where he has set up a leather workshop.

He came home one day with a raw cow hide and a bunch of tools and said, “this is for a bag.” And now, it’s starting to take shape and am in awe watching it unfold.

That’s the front of a briefcase. The cuff looks like this.

We’ll be posting them to Etsy soon, of if you are interested in buying one for your man, just email me and we can arrange something. Then, for dinner, it was Seth’s turn to cook. He went with ribs and some homemade sauce.

I would share the recipe but it was so delicious, we are plotting now on bottling it for the masses or at the very least, for a ribs and taco truck we’ve been dreaming about.  Archer even had some… he’s now been completely trained to be leash-free.

Things are truly awesome in happy honeymooner land. Both of us have found our life partners in each other, our best friends, and our co-parents. When I talk about our relationship to some of my single girlfriends the reactions vary. There are those who are shocked and filled with doubt, others who are inspired, those who look at their own relationship and see the same, and those who shrug it off as if Seth and I won the lottery in finding each other with a “it will never happen to me” attitude.

Where do you fall?

If you are in the “it will never happen to me” camp, I can say with certainty, that it won’t. You are your own self-fulfilling prophecy. In the months leading up to meeting Seth, I had opened my heart again and believed, truly, that I would meet him someday. My symptoms included lots of Lifetime TV movie watching and an announcement to my single girlfriends at dinner one night that I knew exactly what I wanted, and that I wouldn’t settle for anyone less so. I remember their faces, I was determined and I tried to describe him – he’s passionate about life, he’s active, he’s a father, he’s a man with a tender heart, he’s incredibly intelligent and incredibly kind.

He is my partner and I will find him. And I won’t settle for anything less.

Say it out loud. Try it. See if it comes true…

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  1. A letter to my future husband.

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ed May 2, 2012 at 1:24 pm

Leather workshop!!!! Kinky!!!

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mssinglemama May 2, 2012 at 1:59 pm

HA!!!! I didn’t even think about that. ; )

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Honeybee Mama May 2, 2012 at 3:08 pm

i’m with you! weeks before i met my love, i was in a very strange and weird relationship with a firefighter who was everything BUT mr. right. i even wrote blog post after blog post about wallowing in breakup land, and didn’t stop crying for a month. then something snapped me out and i became strong again, knew the things i wanted, who i wanted and set about looking for him. my friends gave me that same look when i told him i was taking on a third job (one being mom, two being paying the bills) to look for my future husband. i got online and told people to set me up and decided that every weekend the kids were with their dad i wanted a different date friday and saturday night. i figured the faster i lined ‘em up and sorted through them, the faster i’d find mine. i got through only one date before meeting my marc. after a week he told me he loved me, and within three he told me he had every intention of marrying me. but i knew that long before he told me :) . i love your story, sister! and i need one of those bags for my love!

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Joelle May 2, 2012 at 3:36 pm

Random question, but did you guys get a marriage license/certificate? I’ve just been wondering that…so is it officially official?
I may have been a skeptic in the past, but I am true believer that if you don’t know in the first few weeks then it’s probably not meant to be. My friends and I call them “just add water” relationships…that when you find them, it’s so easy. The second time I was out with my husband I knew I was going to marry him…he made some corny joke and I remember thinking, “Oh god, this is the one, isn’t it?” and it was :)

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Anna May 2, 2012 at 3:53 pm

I am somewhere in between all those thoughts. I am cynical and guarded and have a hard time letting go. I wish I could, but it just doesn’t happen that easy. I am in a relationship now. We are great friends and enjoy each other; but I have to be honest, I don’t think it is anything near like the magic you describe. One day at a time!

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Anna May 2, 2012 at 3:54 pm

Although I would love to know how you got Archer leash trained. I have 2 little idiots I can’t seem to train to do anything.

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Robin @ThrftyVntgChc May 2, 2012 at 4:19 pm

This is awesome!! All of it is a mindset … and when there are so many naysayers about your (my) hopes and dreams for “him”, that Mr. Right, Mr. True Love … it is hard not to doubt that vision. Thanks for the reminder of staying the course, not settling & pursuing what will be THE Happiness of a Lifetime!!

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Angel May 2, 2012 at 4:53 pm

I said those same exact words this morning when I was chatting with my mom! I refuse to settle! I called to tell her I finally ended things with my last relationship. Which has been over for months but my ex hasn’t let me go.
I was telling her how I will not settle for someone who isn’t exactly what I need a man to be. Right now life is just too damn good as a single mom to be with someone who doesn’t complete my list in my mind as my dream man.
But I’m certain he’s out there, I have a second date with someone who might just be him. :)

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Anna May 2, 2012 at 6:52 pm

I’m a believer, but I can understand the doubters. After my divorce, I thought I would maybe have a series of relationships for the rest of my life, but wasn’t even interested in finding any ONE who might be THE ONE. Lo and behold, I already knew him, and we’re going on three years together. It isn’t without any difficulty, but it truly is a breeze compared to any other relationship I’ve been in. I wish I had known this kind of love was possible in the midst of my horrible marriage. I would have left sooner.

And it’s not all about me, either. The Man is a better father to my boy than his own dad is or could ever hope to be. He doesn’t replace him, but he actually supports him, teaches him, engages him, and makes him laugh.

You are right MSM. Have an open (& brave) heart, and good things will happen.

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Jomo May 2, 2012 at 8:20 pm

Im a believer in the healing powers of love, 4 years ago I wrote you asking how can I be a single mom? How did you do it ? I was in such a low place with no self confidence left as it had all been stripped away by a verbally and physically abusing man I felt trapped. Somehow I found the courage to walk away and now I’m married to my soulmate , ironically my hs sweetheart as well, who has done nothing but lift me up, support me, has been my best friend , and amazing father to my son for the last 2 years. Everyday I think how lucky and fortunate I was that I never stopped believing in love or I may have never been willing to let my now husband in, and I would not have found complete and utter happiness ! I don’t care what anyone says when you stop looking for happiness, happiness stops trying to find you too.

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Chris R May 2, 2012 at 9:16 pm

Perfect weekend! Sometimes rainy weekends, movies and whisky is all you need to unwind and relax. The breakfast looked amazing! I will have to make it some time. Topped off with an egg, very nice…

The ribs looked so good, cooking, movies, little drinking… Sounds like a honeymoon to me…

I think its amazing Seth can work with leather like that. What a talent! The pictures are beautiful. What an amazing guy you have there!

I’m so happy for you and think a lot of other single parents out there are also opening up their hearts like you did. I sharing your story like you are doing is so helpful to many. Thank you..
~Chris R

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Little Miss Mummy May 2, 2012 at 11:02 pm

Looks like a divine weekend. Great thoughts on making sure that you’re open to finding love and believing that it can happen. I’m not at that stage yet but you give me hope!

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Kate May 3, 2012 at 1:28 pm

I try not to make those judgments about people’s relationships because who can really say how it works from the inside out when you’re looking from the outside in?

I say “try” because my immediate reaction to your situation would be skepticisim. But it wouldn’t last. I know too many real love stories. Example: An older couple who are close family friends met at a party in the the early 50s. 1950s that is! Two weeks later, he asked her to marry him. Two weeks after that, they got married. They have been happily married for 65 years.

Another: my parents dated for 3 months, my dad popped the question and three months later , they got hitched. They’ve been married (happily) for 40 years.

My story: I knew I would marry my husband before we even dated. We had been close friends for years and I always knew there was something special about him. In fact, I knew we had such a deep connection I was actually scared to date him because I knew how serious it would be. I was right.

Moral of the story: When you know, you just know. I wish you and Seth every happiness!

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joelle May 3, 2012 at 2:54 pm

Your relationship seems great and so does Seth but I say half jokingly and half seriously–don’t go and tempt fate by spouting off relationship rules again. They may come back to bite you. Enjoy being newlyweds but remember to be humble. THere are plenty of single woman who have their head on straight about men and relationships and themselves who have yet to meet someone and there are plenty of people who have made every mistake in the book and found love. Just like there are many stories about people whom have met someone and just “knew” in a short amount of time that they were meant to be life partners and have then gone on to be together long term. Just like there are people who “just knew” whose relationships soured in time.

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Glenda May 4, 2012 at 1:56 am

Have you gone back to read the letter to your future husband? The part where he may be reading, creating, and writing?! Pretty cool. Sounds like Seth!! So happy for you guys!!!

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Tracy May 4, 2012 at 9:07 am

Amazing weekend! :) So happy that you were able to relax and bask in each others glow :) As for me, in 2 months we’ll be celebrating our 2 years…2 wonderful basking years.

Never forget to bask in that glow….

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Sheila May 5, 2012 at 8:30 pm

Sniff. I love it and I’m so happy for you. :)

But, sigh … after all these years of single mother hood and hoping and hoping and hoping … he still hasn’t arrived. I’ve resigned myself to this belief – it will happen in due time.

Here’s a message that’s helping me keep the faith – I think some other mamas could benefit from it, too.

“God proves to be good to the man who passionately waits,
to the woman who diligently seeks.
It’s a good thing to quietly hope,
quietly hope for help from God.
It’s a good thing when you’re young
to stick it out through the hard times.
When life is heavy and hard to take,
go off by yourself. Enter the silence.
Bow in prayer. Don’t ask questions:
Wait for hope to appear.
Don’t run from trouble. Take it full-face.
The “worst” is never the worst.”—Lamentations 3:25-30(Message)

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Emma's Mommy May 9, 2012 at 1:25 pm

I am sooo happy for you! You really inspire me and make me believe in love. I hope I will one day be able to have a partner too. Bets of luck to you and your beautiful family!

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Stacia May 10, 2012 at 8:48 am

Thanks for the little bit of inspiration! Happy for you and look forward to seeing where this new path takes you!

xoxo

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mssinglemama May 14, 2012 at 10:01 am

Thank you, Stacia!

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Hello

I am Sharon used every single spell worker on the internet, spent untold
amounts of money and discovered they are all fakes…i was the fool
though; doing the same thing over and over again and expecting
different results. In the end, I decided that I wanted a tarot reading
to know what my future held for me; I contacted a woman who lives
locally to me and she told me about a man named (priests
sangojagaban); he does not advertise on the internet, has another job
for income, has no set prices, makes no false promises and refuses to
help anyone that cannot be helped and even helps for free sometimes,
he will give you proof before taking money. He is a wonderful man and
he was the only person who actually gave me real results. I really
hope he doesn’t mind me advertising his contact on the internet but
I’m sure any help/ extra work will benefit him.contact him as
sangojagaban@gmail.com,He travel sometimes.love marriage,finance,
job promotion ,lottery Voodoo,poker voodoo,golf Voodoo,Law & Court
case Spells,money voodoo,weigh loss voodoo,any sicknesses
voodoo,Trouble in marriage,it’s all he does Hope this helps everyone
that is in a desperate situation as I once was; I know how it feels to
hold onto something and never have a chance to move on because of the
false promises and then to feel trapped in wanting something more.

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I stumbled upon your website and I could not keep my eyes off that meal you had. I can’t cook but I’m posting this picture up for anyone who wants to make it for me. Lol

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