Just married!

by mssinglemama on April 19, 2012

And in which, our little cupids plan the entire thing.

This Saturday, between soccer games and a birthday party for the boys, the kids asked us the same question they ask us every day, “When are you guys going to get married?”

Seth, Lily and Cohen moved in one month ago. It felt right. It is right. And there’s no question that this is where all five us are supposed to be–with each other.

“September,” Seth and I answered.

We had it all planned out. A Court House wedding, then a ride on Seth’s bike to Athens for a party at Jackie O’s or Smiling Skull. Jackie O’s for the fresh, brewed beer and Smiling Skull its perfect imperfections.

“Why do we have to wait that long?” One of them asked quietly. I turn my head and look into the back seat where I see three pairs of eyes staring at me quizzically. They don’t understand and why should they? Us adults make no sense most of the time. We love each other, we want to be married – so why aren’t we? The children had all, in their own ways, expressed fears that Seth and I would break up. Like he and their mother did. Like John and I did. Children, as it turns out, have baggage, too. So, to rid them of their baggage, I proposed an idea.

“Let’s have a pretend wedding this weekend! We can do it in the backyard. And then we’ll be married!”

“But you won’t really be married, will you?” They asked.

“Well, why not? If we say we’re married then that’s all that matters.”

Seth loved the idea. The kids agreed and started clapping and bouncing out of their seats. Seth and I exchanged smiles and he squeezed my hand. Feeling like we’ve been married since the moment we met, knowing with everything that we are meant to be, the wedding itself – whenever it happened- would be a mere formality.

On Sunday the kids woke up with the pretend (but to them real) wedding on their minds. Lily’s cousin has spent the night and the two girls were antsy to start planning. The girls and the boys had crowded around me, demanding to know what their roles would be.

And so it began…

“Can we be the flower girls?” asked the girls.

“Yes! Of course,” I said.

“Can we be the ring boys?” asked Benjamin and Cohen.


“Who will marry you though?” asked Lily. Far from the average seven-year-old she is the smartest most beautiful little girl I’ve ever known. Her spirit is uncrushable and her determination, in this case to have a wedding, is equally so.

“Benjamin could marry us,” I suggested. And then, cued by his clear ‘no’ face, “Or, Lily, you could because you can read. We can write the lines out.”

Lily was also completely disinterested.

“My Mom could do it,” Seth chimed in with a smile. His mother is a pastor and an officiant of the state or whatever. “But,” he paused, “If she does it, it will be real.”

“Oh, right.”

We both shrug. When there are four children around it’s hard to think or plan anything, and we typically survive by planning out a big activity for the day. In this case, a wedding.

“I’ll text her.”

“Does this mean it will be real or fake?” The children asked again.

“Well, we’re not sure. I guess we’ll just have to see.”

I gave the girls some streamers, some baskets and pointed them to the art room. Then Seth and I headed upstairs to clean our room. We’d been putting it off, getting the rest of the house in order after the move. But today while the kids were busy we decided to tackle my mountain of misplaced clothes and a monstrous basket of unmatched socks.

Sometime in the afternoon Seth’s Mom texted that, yes, she would love to come for our imaginary wedding and would be there at 5:30 PM.

By 5:00 PM, Lily was all dressed up in a beautiful Easter dress and I was still in my scrubby cleaning clothes. Deciding I better get dressed, Lilly and I start hunting through the closet. She picked a short white t-shirt dress first, which I quickly vetoed based on the length. Too short. Instead I proposed a fluffy purple skirt and a white top. She shook her head, “Nope, that’s not it.”

Then we spotted my red dress. I’ve had it for at least 10 years, but I’ve never worn it. Instead, because it’s so beautiful, I’ve had it hanging in my room. It’s just the perfect red, the most beautiful raw silk and it looks so cool on a hanger. I had tried to wear it out several times. But each time it just didn’t fit quite right. I dress with my mood and the dress had never made the cut.  But today, with Lily there beside me, it fits. Perfectly.

“Rings, Alaina, we need rings!” Lily dutifully points out. It’s now 5:15.

Oh yeah, shoot. Rings. I hand her one I had found in a jewelry box while cleaning the day before. I had no idea where it came from, but it was a tiny, little gold band. After Lily ran downstairs to deliver the goods and make her final preparations to the decorations, I decided it might be a good idea to do my make up. Downstairs Seth was waiting and had picked out a ring of his own, a ring he bought when he was 17  from a street vendor during a trip to Jerusalem.

At some point around this time, maybe as I put on the dress, it turned into a real wedding. We didn’t discuss it. It just happened and it was magical.

When Seth’s mother, Dale Ann arrived I could hear the excitement in her voice. This was definitely a much better option than the Court House. She, Seth and his Dad started calling in the troops–all of Seth’s brothers and sisters. I texted my friend, Monica, who had promised me months ago she would be a bridesmaid,”I think Seth and I are getting married in the back yard in 20 minutes. Can you get here?”

Twenty minutes later they were all there. Seth’s brother Ben, who had received his text while mowing the lawn, had managed to get some champagne on the way

and their brother, Nathanael with his beautiful wife Sara and their beautiful sweet peas.

Monica had miraculously checked her cell phone while riding her scooter on High Street and also made it just in time. Seth’s siblings from Chicago and California were online via a Google Hangout. Dale Ann entertained them with a virtual tour of the house. It was literally a surprise real wedding for everyone involved, even us.

Note the plucked flowers. We’ll get to that.

Dale Ann had brought a not-so-pretend wedding cake, gluten-free (for me) and sugar-free (for Benjamin). Our little wedding planners helped her find a topper. And yes, that’s toilet paper on the bride.

The flowers on the cake are from a bunch of wild flowers we had picked up at the grocery that week.

The flower girl petals came from the rest of them.

Lily, of course, had the bouquet covered.

The boys were waiting patiently.

And with all of those pieces and parts in place, the ceremony began. That’s Lily’s cousin leading and Lily behind.

I just want to pause for a second to point out my nasty, nasty yard.  Had I even thought I would have guests and a real wedding I would have perhaps cleaned up the pile of sticks or shut the shed door. Or, weeded the bricks. And another side note, the reason my yard looks like that is because I spend every weekend cleaning the inside of the house.


Clean house.

Okay. Back to my unkempt yard and my perfectly perfect wedding.

My bridesmaids went first. La dee da.

And then moi.

No one missed a beat. Grandpa Gary, the meticulous Architect, made sure of that.

And then Benjamin walked me the rest of the way to my soon to be husband. The most beautiful, amazing man in the universe.

We’re not religious so Dale Ann delivered a non-denominational ceremony with prayers from various religions – Buddhism, Christianity and she even added a Native American prayer. And then we went ahead with our incredibly enjoyable formality.

Ben manned the video camera and fist pumps with some “Hell, yeahs!” at all of the right times.

Nathaneal took all of these amazing pictures.



Then the vows…

Then the candles…


Then the rings… or did they come before the candles? I can’t remember.

Then the kiss…

And finally the send off…

and more kisses

Then a toast.

A post party light saber, flower war.

And a very, very happy group of guests.

I’ll post more pictures when I can to the photo album.


Wish you all could have been there, too. You were in my heart.

P.S. Our total wedding cost was $40 for the pizza we ordered after… hell, yeah! We’re still planning on a party in Athens in the Fall, but until then the children can sleep easy.




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{ 118 comments… read them below or add one }

Amanda April 19, 2012 at 6:08 pm

Congratulations! It looks like it was a wonderful experience!!


Terri April 19, 2012 at 6:12 pm

My eyes have leaked all over my cheeks, my shirt… probably even my elbows by the time I get this comment written.

I am so in love with your love – congratulations to you all. I cannot find the words to express how delighted I am for you.

Thank you for being a real life fairy tale. <3


Laura April 19, 2012 at 6:15 pm

I’m a lurker but I have to say…Awesome. Congrats.


Sarah April 19, 2012 at 6:20 pm

Amazing – looks like you had the perfect wedding! Congratulations!


Steph April 19, 2012 at 6:27 pm

Awesome! Congratulations!


Darcy (Mommypie) April 19, 2012 at 6:30 pm

Oh, my long lost bloggy friend, I’m SOOOO happy for you! HUGE congratulations — wishing you a lifetime of love and happiness! xoxox


mssinglemama May 2, 2012 at 2:02 pm

Darcy? Is that you!!! My long lost love. I miss you! Thanks for leaving a note here.


B April 19, 2012 at 6:39 pm

So…was it a real wedding in the end, or is still a pretend one until September?

I am so happy for you. I look forward to all your post and you have given me amazing hope, that one day, i too (and my lil guy) will find my prince charming.


mssinglemama April 19, 2012 at 6:44 pm

Real. ; )


B April 27, 2012 at 6:48 pm

What a wonderful experience! its the littlest things that matter most. I absolutely loved your pictures and all you shared. :)


orangek8 April 19, 2012 at 6:41 pm

How EXCITING!!! I love it. Congratulations!!


Courtney April 19, 2012 at 6:45 pm

Tears! Congrats! What a journey, momma.


eb April 19, 2012 at 6:47 pm

CONGRATS!!!! Was your mom there? Or did I miss her? So happy for you. What a perfect day.


mmm619 April 19, 2012 at 6:47 pm

Sooooo Awesome! Love it! Congratulations to you all!


Liz April 19, 2012 at 6:51 pm

CONGRATS!!! What a beautiful day!!! I’m so happy for all of you!


melanie April 19, 2012 at 7:08 pm

Absolutely the cutest wedding ever!! I think I got something in my eyes;)


Mallisa April 19, 2012 at 7:09 pm

I have been reading your blog on and off for a good couple of months and never felt the need to post a comment. This however is very different. I am truly very happy for you and your family. This is wonderful and a great blessing. Thank you for sharing. Congratulations!!!!


Lisa April 19, 2012 at 7:17 pm

Big smiles reading about your amazing day, gorgeous family and beautifully perfect wedding.


Kellie April 19, 2012 at 7:26 pm

That is the best wedding story ever :) So happy for you all!!


Leslie April 19, 2012 at 7:32 pm

I can’t wipe the grin off my face. This is the perfect wedding!
Congratulations to all of you!


Rachel (Hounds in the Kitchen) April 19, 2012 at 7:33 pm

Awww, that is the sweetest wedding story!! Congratulations!


Skye April 19, 2012 at 7:40 pm

Yup I cried! So happy for the both of you. Many blessings to your precious new family!! :)


Hillary April 19, 2012 at 7:44 pm

What an amazing story. It brought tears to my eyes. Congratulations. May you all enjoy a lifetime of happiness. It truly is amazing how things come together when they are what is meant to be


Momma Sunshine April 19, 2012 at 7:49 pm

Congratulations! Wishing you all a lifetime of love and happiness.


Savored Life April 19, 2012 at 7:51 pm

Oh. Hell. Yeah!

It’s been wonderful sharing this journey of single mommy-hood & chaotic dating scenarios to marrying the loves of our lives via the Blogosphere.

Much love and happiness to you and your FAMILY. xoxo

I can’t wait to read about a(nother) wee one in the future… ;)


Anna April 19, 2012 at 8:07 pm

Wow. And that’s the way it should be, in my book. When the act is secondary to the love it inspires.

BTW, your hair and dress/boot combo are fabulous!

Congrats, MSM! So happy for you all!


jen April 19, 2012 at 8:08 pm

I reckon this must be about the best way to do it. Congratulations all.


Ms. Design Mama April 19, 2012 at 8:29 pm

Absolutely amazing……you two give me hope!


charity April 19, 2012 at 9:00 pm

What a beautiful wedding


Brittni April 19, 2012 at 9:00 pm

This is absolutely beautiful and completely inspiring! Congrats!


Rachael April 19, 2012 at 9:12 pm

HAHA! YAY! So fun and still romantic, loved it! Congrats Everyone!


Pam Castle April 19, 2012 at 9:34 pm

Absolutely beautiful, exciting, fun, inspired, totally embracing. Someone needs to call the TODAY SHOW.
Love to all the family,
The Castles


Sheila April 19, 2012 at 9:35 pm

What a beautiful way to tie the knot. :) Soooooooooo thrilled for you!


wondermomma April 19, 2012 at 9:38 pm

ohmigosh, that is the most awesomist thing ever!! Love the light saber salute =)

So many blessings on a wonderful life for all of you!


Sunny April 19, 2012 at 9:43 pm

CONGRATULATIONS! I’m so happy for all 5 of you. What a beautiful day and beautiful way to solidify your family! Hugs all around.


zlata myr April 19, 2012 at 10:18 pm

Congrats! You’re a beautiful family!!


Bobbi April 19, 2012 at 10:23 pm

I am so happy foynyouband your little family.


Jamie April 19, 2012 at 10:30 pm

You look absolutely beautiful! That is the coolest wedding story! Congratulations to all of you!!!


Mandy S April 19, 2012 at 11:02 pm

Hey Congrats! We just got married in a public library and had a small reception upstairs at Barrio and I thought WE did it right. Your small wedding was even more perfect. Good for you guys. Let me know how it feels different- because it does, somehow…though I can’t put it into words yet.


Chris R April 19, 2012 at 11:03 pm

I loved IT! Im so happy for you!!! As one of the “single dads” that loves your work I have to say I feel the same way. A cute back yard wedding with your kids and family and friends… I totally agree if you say your married, you are… Who cares about the sate! Love and marriage come from the heart.

The pictures are so cute and you both look very beautiful! I can’t wait to read more. Congrats again! Now when’s the honeymoon!!!????


kate April 19, 2012 at 11:22 pm

OMG! I’ve been following your post for ages..and usually don’t comment..but CONGRATULATIONS! I love spontaneity! May your marriage by an ever fulfilling journey!!!! CONGRATS!:)


Samantha April 20, 2012 at 1:18 am

Congratulations, Ms. Married Mama! So so happy for you. What a beautiful new chapter to this story you’ve shared with us. :)


Sharon April 20, 2012 at 1:52 am

This post is what marriage is truly about and you, Seth and all your family demonstrate it so well — love. Wishing you a lifetime of happiness!


Anna April 20, 2012 at 7:33 am

That is so beautiful. You look so amazingly happy! You give us all hope.


KQ April 20, 2012 at 8:29 am

What an amazing story — for you both, and for your children! You are so blessed that the family jumped right in, too, and everyone seems to be so very happy for you and supportive of your marriage!

Congratulations! It sounds like the perfect start to a marriage filled with good times and great adventures!


Lara K April 20, 2012 at 8:41 am

Beautiful. Congrats! And oh, the way you tell a story. The moment where it turned from a make-believe wedding into a real one? I got goosebumps. May all of your problems be make-believe, and all of your joys be real. :)


Monica April 20, 2012 at 8:44 am

This was your best entry yet! Congratulations! You looked amazing and the wedding was beyond adorable…


Gigi April 20, 2012 at 9:37 am

This was awesome! :) Congratulations and looking forward to the one in September. :)


Alanna April 20, 2012 at 9:46 am

That was awesome. You made me cry. SO happy for you.
Just Perfect.


Tracy April 20, 2012 at 9:59 am

Those are seriously some of the sweetest, best wedding pictures I have ever seen. With so much heart in your wedding, what a kick-ass family life you have in front of you. Congratulations!


Kim April 20, 2012 at 10:24 am

Congratulations!! Wishing you and your new family a lifetime of health and happiness together. :)


Cibele April 20, 2012 at 10:49 am

When it is right… it is just effortless! Congratulations!!!


Farrell April 20, 2012 at 10:52 am

I LOVE this story. I LOVE this post. I LOVE the red dress and please don’t think I’m copying you but I had often thought about wearing a red dress in my imaginary wedding #2. THIS is how I want my wedding #2 to go.



Mary April 20, 2012 at 11:16 am

Holy macaroni! This is so very awesome! Congratulations to the lovely couple and the adorable kiddos! They did a fantastic job!


Kristin April 20, 2012 at 12:09 pm

The love & joy oozing from your words brought tears to my eyes. So happy for you & Seth and all of your kiddos.


Jane April 20, 2012 at 12:41 pm

I don’t think I’ve ever commented here before, but love reading your words, and wanted to say congrats. So happy for you and your families!


Nikki April 20, 2012 at 12:52 pm

So overjoyed for you! :o ) I sure do love love. :) And I knew it was him for you since the first hint. Yay! and Congratulations!


T April 20, 2012 at 1:08 pm

Best. Wedding. EVER!

This post made me smile so big. What a perfect day. Congratulations to you and Seth!


Hydrangea April 20, 2012 at 1:24 pm

I echo someone else’s sentiment that I’m in love with your love!! It’s wonderful when everything falls into place and just feels so right, so perfect. Congratulations- wishing you and your new family all the best! xoxo


Glenda April 20, 2012 at 1:27 pm

congrats to you and Seth…and the children too!!!


Stac April 20, 2012 at 1:36 pm

This is the most amazing wedding I’ve ever seen! Loving the light Sabers! The dress! The Cake! The smiles! Congrads!


Kim Moore April 20, 2012 at 4:48 pm

The most unplanned things are usually the best! Congrats on your new life, your new love and your new family! You deserve all this and so much more- in which I am sure will come soon!


Sarah April 20, 2012 at 4:53 pm

Yay!!! I can’t wait til approx 2015 to read the divorce sob story and how you’ve continued to F up all these kids. Nice!!!


Amy April 21, 2012 at 11:15 am

I’m sorry, but I agree with Sarah. I honestly think that marrying someone after 6 months of knowing them when there are 3 children involved is way too fast. I’m a bit shocked to see that only one other person on here so far has agreed with these sentiments. I don’t want to rain on your parade, but it’s clear that you’re not thinking about these kids at all. The kids of course were excited about a wedding and a fun party. They are children and have no idea the place that someone should be in their relationship in order to take this huge step. I really thought you had learned from your past relationship lessons. I’m really disappointed to see that you have not. I will pray that this relationship works out, but this is just way too fast. You barely know this man, truly know him. I feel sorry for the mother of Seth’s children. She must be feeling quite upset right now. Perhaps you should consider seeing a family therapist to talk about how moving so fast is effecting all 3 of these children. Good luck to you all.


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Nikki April 23, 2012 at 3:46 pm

Sadly I have to agree. I am extremely happy you have found your happiness, but it all sounds too familiar. Too fast/too soon. Especially when there are 3 young children involved.


steph April 25, 2012 at 3:51 pm

Agreed. Your love is great but yup way too fast. I know it seems unromantic but I would never consider a huge step in less then a year. Been there done that and learned my lesson.

Aimee May 2, 2012 at 3:06 pm

I agree with Amy and the others. I’m a single mom, and my fiancée met my son after we dated for 3 months. We got engaged at 6 months, and are halfway through a year of engagement before the wedding. We talked with family and friends, did 6 full weeks of premarital counseling, and talked to my sons father about our relationship. Marriage is a big deal, not just romance. We both only want to do this once, so we’ve been as patient as we can get, and have been lining all our ducks up before we officially take the plunge. Spontenaety kind of goes out the window when you have children. Especially with big important decisions like this. I hope it works out, but given the track record here, I’m quite skeptical.


Danielle April 26, 2012 at 9:58 pm

I was raised by a single mother, and I take offense at this comment. My mom dated and brought men “in and out of my life,” and you know what? I think she did a fine job raising me. If he’s a good man and you make each other happy, I say do what you want to do.


Lara April 20, 2012 at 7:35 pm

Congratulations! Single mama no more, but always an inspiration!


Lara April 20, 2012 at 7:35 pm

Congratulations! Single mama no more, but always an inspiration!


Carol April 21, 2012 at 9:30 am



Autumn April 21, 2012 at 9:51 am

Yay! Wishing all the best for you & your sweet newlywed family :-)


Laura April 21, 2012 at 9:58 am



Amy April 21, 2012 at 12:24 pm

You looked absolutely beautiful! That is the most perfect wedding – if you had planned it, it would have been beautiful as well but somehow, this seems so right. Maybe it is the huge smiles on everyone’s faces. Congratulations and wishing you all the best.


April April 21, 2012 at 4:34 pm

Congratulations, That’s AWESOME!!! I love the spur of the minute, why not, let’s do it plan. I’ve recently started seeing someone special after several years and I’m nervous, me with child, him with none but wanting, so I scramble through your past blogs trying to remember what all you have said through the past years I’ve been following. It truly makes me happy to see your happiness and I hope for the same in myself with my someone special


Pgoodness April 21, 2012 at 8:51 pm

Absolute perfection. Congrats!


Amanda April 21, 2012 at 9:53 pm

Absolutely perfect! So happy for you and your family!!


nicole knowlton April 21, 2012 at 10:47 pm

Congratulations to you both!!


Elizabeth April 21, 2012 at 11:11 pm

This is the best wedding ever! I love how it all came together! So sweet to hear how his family dropped everything to be there spur of the moment. They seem like an amazing crew. I have to ask – did your family get to share on google hangout too? There was no mention of them your mom or siblings. And where is Mia? Your long time best friend wasn’t mentioned either! I hope they all got to share in the excitement. Congratulations to you!!!!


mssinglemama April 22, 2012 at 8:38 pm

Elizabeth – it happened so quickly and my family is so hard to actually catch on the phone. I texted my sister, but didn’t hear back until after. They are all incredibly happy for us and excited for the party in September. As for Mia, I just didn’t have time to text/call friends. The point from putting my dress on to the vows was about 20 minutes, tops.


Elizabeth April 23, 2012 at 9:45 am

Wow, that makes seths family being there all the more wonderful. Like they say you don’t just marry the man, you marry his family – looks like you won the lottery!! Congratulations and like I said before, best wedding EVER! In retrospect I bet there are a lot of people out there (first wedding, children or not) who wish their weddings happened like this. Stress free!


Joanna April 23, 2012 at 12:15 pm

Geez…so your mom didn’t even get to be there? And your best friend? Hope that it was worth the rush, because you left some really important people out of this momentous day. And I can’t help but think that you acted really impulsively…hope that you don’t regret it later.


Kym April 23, 2012 at 4:58 pm

Maybe you thought your mom or best friend wouldn’t approve of the quick timing of the wedding. It seems a shame that you left out two such important people. I agree with other readers in that six months seems too soon when there are three children involved. I do wish you the best of luck though!


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Steph April 22, 2012 at 5:54 am

Great news, Congratulations to you both!


Honoree Corder April 22, 2012 at 10:14 am

Yay! Big congrats, cheers, and a lifetime of happiness from a fellow townie.


Racheal April 22, 2012 at 10:45 am

Reading about your wedding day was an amazing blessing. You look beautiful in your red dress!! Congratulations!!!!


Emma's Mommy April 22, 2012 at 5:56 pm

Congrats! So incredibly happy for you! You give me, and lots of other single moms, so much inspiration and hope. I believe in a happy ending!!! I do!


Sarah April 23, 2012 at 10:30 am

Oh my goddess!!! I am tearing up as I sit at my desk and read this. I am sooooooooooooo happy for you and in love with your being in love xo


Cam April 24, 2012 at 5:44 am

I am a 25 year old about to become a mommy.. and I am single….. I keep thinking I will never find love being a single mom….Your wedding and story has made me believe in hope & love.. absolutely stunning family.. thank you for sharing… now i need to get a tissue


Linda April 24, 2012 at 8:02 am

That is one of the most beautiful stories I’ve ever read! I truly wish you and your husband all the best! And your kids are great, valuable lesson there that we complicate things :)


Jaime Rose April 24, 2012 at 5:39 pm

Wedding looks amazing. Great job planning it!!


Suzanne (Crunchy Green Mom) April 24, 2012 at 10:29 pm

I love it… THIS is what it’s supposed to be like.


Tracy April 25, 2012 at 11:57 am

Blink….a year has gone by and I’m back only to find you blissfully married! I’m sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo happy for you luv….what a journey our lives have been on :) A great BIG congrats to you!


Andrea April 25, 2012 at 2:57 pm

You know, I totally get where the naysayers are coming from, I do. But with that said, why is so much based around “it’s only been six months!”? I’ve known people who dated for years before getting married and you know what? It didn’t work out! How long two people have been dating before they get married isn’t EVER an indication of whether or not their marriage will work out. Here you have two single parents with similar values, dreams, parenting styles, etc… who is anyone to say that it’s not going to last? I wish you both the very best of luck :)


Jessica June 5, 2012 at 4:12 pm

Andrea – I totally agree. I was with my husband for 5 years before we were married. I did, and still do know him better than anyone does… and that didn’t matter. We had kids, and it got hard. He couldn’t handle it. No amount of time together would have told me that was going to happen. He is a wonderful person, he just couldn’t handle it. These two have been through a lot, and they are parents. They are wiser and more able to make decisions with the knowledge of their past. Who are we to judge??


Cat April 26, 2012 at 12:49 pm

So fun. Super sweet to be spontaneous. What a wonderful way to create a family–I’m so happy for you!


Mia April 28, 2012 at 1:47 pm


Best post I have seen/read yet. I am so happy for you and your family.


David Rickert May 2, 2012 at 12:47 pm

That was one of the coolest stories ever. The picture with the crossed light sabers cracked me up.

(BTW, we ended up ditched the social media part of that project I asked you about a few months back and that’s why I didn’t follow up with it. Maybe next year!)


Karissa (Kristine) May 2, 2012 at 1:05 pm

I’m jealous :) Congratulations. It’s perfect.


Sara May 2, 2012 at 1:45 pm

I won’t lie…won’t lie at all – I was skeptical about the relationship when I first started reading about it (i’ve read you forever)…but NO WAY – the looks on all of your faces are amazing and tell the honest truth. That is love and you have found it. Maybe you’ll make a believer of me and soul mates yet. That is the MOST amazing wedding story ever. Seriously. God. I’m beaming for you. Congratulations to all of you!


mssinglemama May 2, 2012 at 2:00 pm

Thank you so much, Sara! We are over the moon happy. And I was right there with you when I met him. Borderline skeptic, but still open to the idea… I hadn’t completely given up. Believe! It exists.


Nica May 4, 2012 at 7:11 am

Been reading for 3yrs. I am so shocked and happy for you :) last time I had a chance to pop in was around Jan 2011…

I agree that this is your best post so far. Perfect.

Your wedding definitely made me smile and a little teary eyed. I would like to share it on my new blog. Hope you don’t mind. It is my personal little keepsake box of things that bring me hope, joy, inspiration, laughter, and encouragement.
I am definitely encouraged and hopeful.

Congratulations and Blessings to the happy family!


Roxanne May 4, 2012 at 7:43 pm

I’m totally crying. After four years of following your blog, this is just so fitting of you and yours. I love it. Congratulations on your pretend/real perfect wedding. And as always, thank you for sharing. xoxo


Kelley May 6, 2012 at 1:13 pm

I’ve been following your blog for a while now but never left a comment. I’ve gotta say, that is the sweetest wedding ever! You know no one will ever forget it. Congrats!!


Stephanie May 9, 2012 at 12:19 pm

Omg I’ve read this post around five times and I think I forgot each time to say CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU BOTH, may you have long and happy marriage!


Elle May 15, 2012 at 7:24 pm

Congratulations… LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the pictures… my kind of wedding. Love the red wedding dress :)


Umm Abdullah May 21, 2012 at 2:45 pm

Congratulation o you Seth, your children and both of your families. This was a beautiful and someone above said I reckon its the best way to do it. Nevermind the naysayers who wish you ill God guides you to whomever is best for you at that time in your life and if your marriage comes to an ill fated end then that is what was meant to happen and if it ends in good that then that is what was meant to happen. Both paths have lessons that can be learned from. I met my husband in April 5 yrs ago and we married in August. This year will be our 6th year of mariage God willing. For us we asked all the questions we could before our hearts were too tied and our eyes too blinded. But the truth of the matter is you can never know everything about a person as every experience forms who you are on a daily basis. Memories fade and then one thing happens and you recall your past.

So as long as you put it all on the table and are honest and truthful it doesn’t take 5 years of dating and another 5 yrs of engagement. Congrats again and Peace.


LeslieAnn May 29, 2012 at 9:01 am

AHAHAHHAHAHAHHA……. why am not surprised? You took your wedding about as serious as you’ll take the marriage. You left out important people who would have loved to take part in your special day, because you just couldn’t wait….because it “felt right” and because the kids wanted you two married. OF COURSE THEY DID! They’re kids. They want the security they THINK will happen with a marriage. They don’t understand the complexities of a marriage….all the hard work that goes into a marriage to make it work. They just think if you get married they’ll be “family”. Hell, those kids have only witnessed the “honeymoon” part of your relationship — they have no clue, and obviously either do you. In a few short months you’ve met a guy, blended families, and then got married. Really? What was the hurry anyway? Oh, my bad, it was the KIDS who wanted you to get married………and you were gonna do it anyway so why not just go ahead and bite the bullet — let a group of six year olds plan your wedding day. Lets not give it any thought at all — lets just get married because, well, because we’re gonna get married anyway. So lets do it in my unkempt back yard without my best friend and my mother and siblings. Lets do because the six year old kids want the feeling of family again…… lets do it because today is as good a day as any. AND who says I’m not responsible — I OWN a business. See how smart and responsible I am? Oh. my. hell.

That whole fiasco looked like one big JOKE with the kids in CHARGE. Oh. my. hell. Who does that. Less than two years ago you were buying a wedding dress, had a hall booked for your wedding reception with John Bear…… because this time you were gonna “do it the right way”. Heck, you weren’t even gonna introduce Seth to Benjamen until you were certain he would be around for awhile —- you couldn’t even do that; you two blended families before you even knew each other because “it felt right”. Really?

John Bear is the luckiest one in all of this — he got out before it was too late.


Abby June 1, 2012 at 10:42 am

Wow such an inspiring story. So glad to have discovered your blog. I found it looking for dating advice and watched your little clip on living room dates. I just have to say you seem like an amazing person who has not let life’s stumbling blocks get in your way, but has created love and beauty around your self. Its great encouragement for me facing the daily battles of raising three small kids alone. Any way best of luck and I hope to be visiting here again soon!


Amy in Sedona June 19, 2012 at 7:44 pm

It has been about 3 years since I was last on your blog. I used to read it every week. Your life inspired me to be stronger and live without thinking twice about everything. Slowly I took a step back and stopped reading blogs, books etc about being a single mom. I lived it myself. Ive been engaged and then ended that relationship. I know that I need to be whole and happy and grown into myself and my daughter before I can open my life and love to a man.
I want to thank you for inspiring me. And congratulate you on your marriage. It makes my heart swell with joy for you that you have this happiness. You deserve it!


Azad July 16, 2012 at 11:04 am

Whoa, congrats! Haven’t been on your blog in a few months and looks like I’ve missed a lot. I’m really happy for you. I’ve only met weirdos on okc so it’s nice to hear you met someone amazing on there. Now I’m running out of single mom blogs to read as the three I used to read most all got married! :)


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Amy February 24, 2013 at 10:26 pm

I don’t know how many times I have visited this post. Love it. So spontaneous and real! Yours is a very memorable and beautiful wedding story :)

Hubby and I eloped to HI some 20 years ago and it was perfect for us, no regrets whatsoever. To those who dream of planning a wedding and all the stresses that come along with it have fun with that. Not my thing and obviously not to you two :)


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