Different Shoes

by mssinglemama on May 5, 2011

This morning I forced Benjamin to watch Mr. Rogers. He had a rough day at school yesterday and Mr. Rogers seems to help. Mind control, brain washing, whatever you call it – it works. Especially when there’s a need to counter a weekend filled with Transformers and Star Wars Clone Wars – guilty. (we slipped up, it was raining for the 20th day in row).

Mr. Rogers went shoe shopping and asked all of the children (his viewers) to imagine being in someone else’s shoes for a moment, to be in the shoes of a friend or a neighbor.

I find being a mother the most difficult and most rewarding job I’ve ever had. Teaching lessons like empathy and understanding of each other… that’s up there in my “How in the heck do I do that?” file. Thank God for Mr. Rogers.

After Mr. Rogers and some play time, Benjamin got dressed for school and put on his sandals because he’s outgrown his tennis shoes.

“He needs some new shoes,” I said to John Bear.

“Okay, today then – we’ll go and get you some new shoes, Buddy.” John Bear says to Benjamin. The two of them are completely bonded again. It’s as if John and I were never apart and that completely terrifies me and excites me at the same time. We are a family. Thick with love and bonds that we can’t even break ourselves. Not that any of us are trying.

Instead of running from our issues John and I are now working through each of them as they come. One by one. Checking them off and growing as we move forward. There will be no running anymore.

“New shoes for my little guy. Again?” I say in shock. Benjamin is looking up at both of us, still blissfully unaware of the fact that his life is just beginning, that there is so much more after this. He is the Now.

And it’s so hard to believe his feet were this size two years ago.

His feet may have changed but this tough, little exterior of his is still exactly the same.

But inside of that little guy is the biggest, sweetest heart.

When I picked him up from school after his morning of Mr. Rogers Benjamin’s teacher said he had a “very good day” and said Benjamin had gone out of his way to comfort two injured comrades on the playground. He hugged them and even made them laugh through their own tears to cheer them up.

The Mr. Rogers full episodes are all here.(Thanks to my Mom for that tip).

As for the shoes, we got him another pair of Chuck Taylors.

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