Ms. Published Mama? Pinch me, now.

by mssinglemama on September 6, 2010

Something has happened again. Something I was not expecting in the least.

You all know about our soon to be brilliant and dare I say, ground breaking, Single Mom’s Manifesto.

I’m working on my first entry, assembling the mailing list and also am trying to figure out a way to make sure my return address is always, always on the envelope just in case one of the three books ends up at an address one of you have moved from. The Manifesto could be out in snail mail land for 6 months, so if you are planning on moving – please, let me know so I can send it to your first or remove you from the list.

So, back to the unexpected.

After I bought the Manifesto notebooks I noticed this blog post featuring a new, local publishing group. I don’t believe in coincidences and as many of you suggested, the Manifesto would be brilliant published. Like a Post Secret for single moms. Anyway, I reached out to James and Lori and we set up a meeting. When I arrived they agreed that the Manifesto could indeed be a success but they’d been reading my blog and impressed with what they found, they were curious– could they read a copy of my eBook?

Most of you don’t know this but my eBook, Ms. Single Mama Uncensored, is a bit of a sore subject for me.

After spending six straight weeks writing Uncensored–very few of you actually bought and downloaded a copy. To date, I’ve only sold around 300 copies. But, I’ve sold three times as many necklaces. Go figure. My mamas like things in the flesh, including their books. I can’t say that I blame you. I don’t have a Kindle or an iPad. After a day online the last thing I want to do is read online. In fact, one of my favorite things in life is curling up in bed with a new book.

But rather than shopping the book to a publisher, in spite of John Bear urging me to, I buried it along with the 6 weeks I’d lost into my Lesson Learned closet.

But now, here were publishers wanting to read a copy.

“My eBook?” I said, surprised. “Sure, why not?”

I gave them a download and went my merry way.

Less than 24 hours later, they e-mailed asking for another meeting. As soon as I arrived James, a 28-year-old single guy, told me, “I started your book and by page 30 I was hooked. I couldn’t put it down until I finished it and I can’t say that about very many books. And I’m clearly not a single mom.”

Lori said the same. She also couldn’t put it down and read it in one sitting.

This was a first.

I have read compliments on Uncensored from many of you, but to hear it from two live people sitting in the flesh before me, neither of them single mothers… well, you can imagine my face. My mouth was hanging open a bit, my cheeks were flushed and I didn’t know if should believe them or poke them to see if they were real. They couldn’t want to…

“We want to publish your book,” said Lori.

“And we think,” said James, “that it is going to be very, very well-received.”

Their enthusiasm was hard to deny and the book, thanks to my six weeks last summer, is very nearly ready to be published.

“This book,” added Lori, “fills a need. There aren’t many voices like yours out there.” We went back and forth for about 45 minutes. Me with lots of question and Lori and James answering them all without wavering in their conviction that my eBook would and could be a success.

“Okay, let me digest all of this and I’ll have to talk to John Bear.”

“Take your time,” they said. And so the discussing began.


After several talks, largely centered around John’s chief concern–our family’s privacy, namely the privacy of our children (existing and imaginary future children)–we decided that yes, we should publish the book. As for privacy, the title of my eBook, Ms. Single Mama Uncensored: Dating, Sex and Love, is going to change to something that will be suitable on our living room book shelf and as for the content, it’s nothing I wouldn’t let my daughter read as soon as she hit her dating age.


by this Christmas you should all be able to buy my book.


I can’t even say that last sentence out loud.

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  5. And so we shall

{ 52 comments… read them below or add one }

Brittney September 6, 2010 at 10:26 pm

That’s what held me back from buying the e-book is spending the time reading online. I’m so excited you’ll be published and I will buy your book!!


Jamie McCarty September 6, 2010 at 10:29 pm

OMG! How inspirational!!! You have just accomplished anouther dream of mine. Every time I delve into your blog I find yet another reason to hope and to continue with my own dreams. Thank you.


Angela September 6, 2010 at 10:29 pm

Congratulations!!! I have so been wanting to read it, but I am one of those like to feel a book in my hands and turn the pages type person. Cant’ wait to do that with your published work!!


Dharmamama September 6, 2010 at 10:32 pm

Mazel tov, honey! I knew it was just a matter of time. So excited for you!!!!!


singlemama_cc September 6, 2010 at 10:44 pm



Katie Welch September 6, 2010 at 10:54 pm



Natalie Nichols September 6, 2010 at 11:03 pm

Congratulations! How exciting! :)


Christina September 6, 2010 at 11:09 pm

That’s awsome! Congrats!


Elizabeth September 6, 2010 at 11:22 pm

Wow! Congrats! I’ve always wanted to write a book. You are so lucky :)


Jen @ follow my bliss September 6, 2010 at 11:33 pm

Omg! YES! I’m so happy for you. :) This is so amazing. I can totally imagine this being a well-received book and filling a niche. If your readers are infatuated online, there’s no reason they wouldn’t be in the flesh. Congrats!!


Julie September 6, 2010 at 11:38 pm

You know, I’ll look out for it. You single mom champion! Cheers!


Hillyn September 6, 2010 at 11:58 pm

Congratulations! I was visiting to buy the ebook, and read the new entry. Wonderful. It seems that if you keep positive and honest, and reach out to people, everything works out. Hope all the editing and fine tuning goes smooth.
Thank you for your inspiration!


Annie Y September 7, 2010 at 12:51 am

I did purchase your ebook and I too couldn’t stop reading it once I started!
I can’t went to own a physical copy!!
Congrats to you!


Thrifty Vintage Chic September 7, 2010 at 1:00 am

How fabulous … can’t wait to have it on my coffee table!! And, I think it will be under my tree as a present to myself and maybe a couple other single mamas I know!


Robin~ September 7, 2010 at 1:54 am

SQUEE!!! I’m so thrilled for you. I’ll be asking for one as a holiday present!


jen September 7, 2010 at 2:03 am

I’m guilty of not buying your e-book, but I won a copy and I really enjoyed reading it. I hope I told you that earlier and apologies if not. I wonder if e-books do better if they’re reference type books, and not a story like yours is.

Anyway, that aside, congratulations. All that hard work paid off.


mssinglemama September 8, 2010 at 10:12 am

I think so… reference or educational eBooks are more successful.


Poppy September 7, 2010 at 3:15 am



Momma Sunshine September 7, 2010 at 5:56 am

Congrats!! :-)


melissa B. September 7, 2010 at 8:43 am

I can’t wait!!!!! So excited for you and the family.


Sara September 7, 2010 at 9:12 am

I had a feeling this day would happen for you! You deserve all of this! Yay! :)


kate September 7, 2010 at 10:51 am

A huge congrats to you… I can’t wait to buy a copy!


H September 7, 2010 at 11:47 am

Kudos! That’s all kinds of awesome!


MissuinMN September 7, 2010 at 12:07 pm

Yay! Congrats to totally deserve it. I can’t wait to read it. Will it be available at Barnes and Noble? Where can we purchase? Fill us in gurrl.


mssinglemama September 8, 2010 at 10:11 am

I’m not sure… just came to my attention that Barnes and Noble doesn’t even have a shelf for single parents or single moms at my local store. Going to try to do something about that. ; )


noringsattached September 7, 2010 at 1:10 pm


I can’t wait to read it!!!!


GreenInOC September 7, 2010 at 1:55 pm



Alison September 7, 2010 at 3:05 pm

I am so extremely happy for you!!!! My son is one year older than yours and I became single shortly before he was born. Your site has been a constant source of encouragement and inspiration for me. Now your words can reach so many more single moms out there. Way to go!


mssinglemama September 8, 2010 at 10:10 am

Cheers to that!


arscuore September 7, 2010 at 8:24 pm

Karma, Babe. Keep on keepin’ on!! : D


mssinglemama September 8, 2010 at 10:09 am

Gotta love this Karma. I admit though, it scares me because all of the good things mean maybe something bad is around the corner. I’m working on that End of the World mentality, thanks to John Bear.


Robin September 7, 2010 at 10:00 pm

I knew big things were about to happen for you! You defintely deserved this! Congrats!


mssinglemama September 8, 2010 at 10:10 am

Thanks, Robin. ; )


Rachel (Hounds in the Kitchen) September 7, 2010 at 11:07 pm


Did you offer to help them get their website going? I’ve been following news of their opening via CU and metropreneur.


mssinglemama September 8, 2010 at 10:08 am

When we met they had a site in the works… should be awesome when it launches!


ashlea September 8, 2010 at 7:47 am

I was one of the lucky winners of a free copy when you first released the book! I am so proud to be able to say that!!! It is sorta like having an autographed copy or something. Very cool.


mssinglemama September 8, 2010 at 10:10 am

Definitely! Very cool. You have a copy of the original manuscript. It will be neat to compare the before and after.


Glenda September 8, 2010 at 1:56 pm



Abimom September 8, 2010 at 3:44 pm

I printed out my version of the ebook. Had had had to read it but I prefer something physical too. Silly people not wanting to read online: that’s what printers are for! Lol, congratulations though. The book book is going to be beautiful.


Alyssa September 8, 2010 at 9:16 pm

Thats so exciting! I can’t wait to buy it for my own Christmas gift!


Kristin September 9, 2010 at 2:26 am

Am so proud of you, friend. Want one of the first autographed copies to give away on my own blog, hmmkay?


Amanda September 9, 2010 at 12:58 pm

That is wonderful! Congratulations on your accomplishments. It’s time to be proud!


David Rickert September 10, 2010 at 12:59 pm

Can I be an extra when they make it into a movie?


Stephanie September 10, 2010 at 3:16 pm

Wow, congratulations!! You totally deserve this. Can’t wait to buy your book, and maybe on big screen one day :-)


Dawn September 10, 2010 at 11:21 pm

This is the part where I tell you that I have shared your eBook with so many single mamas who needed encouragement. How in the world did I overlook writing to you and letting you know that it has made such an impact.

The world awaits!


Speedgirl September 11, 2010 at 3:26 pm

That is amazing! I can’t wait to have a copy in my hands :)


Lisa September 12, 2010 at 1:08 pm

You are SO exquisite! I am SO happy for you!


Baby September 15, 2010 at 2:18 pm

Amazing, this made my day!


Kim September 16, 2010 at 6:58 am

AWESOME!!!!!!!! I bet you do the happy dance EVERY TIME you think about it!!!!


Sindy September 17, 2010 at 4:12 pm

Congratulations! I am definitely looking forward to having a copy of my own.


Soontobesinglemom September 21, 2010 at 10:13 pm

Congratulations!! I just found your blog a few months ago (when I was deciding whether or not to separate) and it has helped me tremendously! Can’t wait to buy the book!


Jamie September 24, 2010 at 10:24 am

That is amazing!!! I can’t wait to get my hands on your book. I loved it! I printed out the e-book, but I do believe an actual book will fit much better on my bookshelf! Congratulations. :)


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