Love, true and sure.

by mssinglemama on July 12, 2010

On Friday afternoon, after we’d dropped Benjamin off  at his father’s we headed uptown for lunch. I had completely forgotten about the potential proposal, at mercy to my growling stomach. John found a parking spot in front of Casa Nueva and O’ Betty’s on one of Athens’ brick-lined streets. The same streets he and I had crossed countless times as Ohio University students while missing each other for years before finally meeting in Columbus. These streets and this town mean so much to both of us. But John wasn’t thinking about the streets or the town, he was thinking about pulling off a surprise.

And he did.

As I was gathering up my purse to get out of the car he leaned over, locked his eyes on mine and said, “I was wondering if you were in the market for a hairy, Irish husband?”

“You’re doing it in the car?” I screeched.

Then he pulled out a ring box and opened it with a snap that sent the ring on a spiral, deep down underneath the car seat.

“It’s under the seat!” I said.

“Oh my God. You’re kidding me,” John said as he plunged his arm underneath, searching for the ring. He found it a few seconds later and then between laughs and tears and kisses, I said “Yes.”

Without a doubt. Yes.

Yes to the man of my dreams who I never expected to find.

Yes to a man who is also my best and dearest friend, my confidant and the person who I trust with everything.

Yes to the man who my son has also completely fallen in love with.

Yes to love.

And to the sweetest man on Earth. I love you my John Bear.

[P.S. If you want to check out the ring – it’s ridiculously beautiful and custom designed locally by Worthington Jewelers, see it here.]

Read the beginning, how John Bear and I met here.

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terri July 12, 2010 at 12:24 pm

I cannot comment at this time because I cannot see my screen or keyboard due to happy, happy floods of tears blinding my face.



singlemama_cc July 12, 2010 at 12:24 pm


Congrats you two!


Kerry July 12, 2010 at 12:24 pm

Congrats to all three of you! I’m so happy to (finally) hear this news! 🙂


Tomi July 12, 2010 at 12:29 pm

Sooo glad – for you and your adorable son!!


Gitte Gorzelak July 12, 2010 at 12:32 pm

If it wouldn’t seem kinda weird, I would be jumping up and down and screaming out loud! I am so happy for you both! This is awesome news!! Wooohooooo congratulations and I wish you all the best!


noringsattached July 12, 2010 at 12:36 pm

OMG!!!! Congrats to the both of you!!!!! Wishing you all the best in your new life together ♥


jen @ follow-my-bliss July 12, 2010 at 12:36 pm

I’m crying!! SO HAPPY FOR YOU. So perfect. Omg, I love this. Congratulations!!! 😉


Annie Y July 12, 2010 at 12:38 pm

I’m sooooo happy for you guys!
If it makes you feel any better, my hubby proposed to me while we were laying in bed watching tv!


Caryn July 12, 2010 at 12:39 pm

Congrats! I teared up just a little with happiness for you both!


Melissa July 12, 2010 at 12:41 pm

I am seriously sitting here crying like a baby. I am so happy for you. Congrats!


Melissa July 12, 2010 at 12:43 pm

And I just have to say that the ring is gorgeous.


Sheila July 12, 2010 at 12:44 pm

Congrats, again, Alaina and John. Your story is so beautiful and hope inspiring. 🙂


Amanda July 12, 2010 at 12:45 pm

Unbelievably happy for the both of you!! Congratulations!


mssinglemama July 12, 2010 at 12:52 pm

Don’t cry! You’re all making me cry, even though I can’t even see you crying. Jeez.


Samantha July 12, 2010 at 12:55 pm


I think your readers can all agree that we’re just so happy you never shut down your blog because we’ve all been waiting to read about this moment for such a long time!

So happy for you 🙂


Jennifer July 12, 2010 at 12:59 pm

Funny! I knew it was coming (you gave many hints). I got engaged in March….and your proposal sounds a lot like mine. I knew it was coming and I kept wondering when and tried not to make it too hard on him. We ended up going to Portland and he took me back to the same spot he first told me he loved me – a parking garage! It was perfect. Our wedding is next month! Have you guys set a date?


mssinglemama July 12, 2010 at 1:04 pm

No date set… but thinking about December. Love that story! A parking garage, yes, very close to a parking spot. ; )


Jim Brochowski July 12, 2010 at 1:14 pm

Congratulations Alaina and John!

What an awesome love story! So happy for all 3 of you!


LJ July 12, 2010 at 1:20 pm

I’m so happy for you both!


Bobbi Janay July 12, 2010 at 1:25 pm

How exciting, it seems like the perfect moment in the car. It is a great moment to be able to tell others.


Random Esquire July 12, 2010 at 1:42 pm

AHHHHH!!!!! BEST WISHES TO YOU! And a big Congratulations to John Bear!

(I believe the custom is to congratulate the groom as if to say, “Nice job for getting her to agree to marry you!” and you say ‘best wishes’ to the bride-to-be as a way of saying, “oh man. Good luck with that joker.” 😉 )

I am very, very happy and excited for you!



Lori July 12, 2010 at 2:01 pm

#1, The ring is breathtaking. What a lucky lady you are to wear that on your finger FOREVER!!!
#2, Of course, CONGRATULATIONS! I’m so very happy for all 4 of you, couldn’t leave out the dog = ) I’m glad life has given you this path to live because you seem so damn happy. That’s what we need out of life, happiness and love, and you have it all! Yay!


Mary July 12, 2010 at 2:09 pm

YAY! Congratulations! 🙂


Suzanne (Crunchy green Mom) July 12, 2010 at 2:31 pm

OMG!!! I got goosebumps!!!


So happy for you.. I knew it wouldn’t take long! You helped me on my road to my Mr. Right…. I knew your karma would send you on the path to yours.

Love to you both… I’m elated!


Restless Mama July 12, 2010 at 2:32 pm

Incredible. Congratulations! I love how you were proposed to, beautiful and comical.

Three cheers to you, John Bear and Benjamin! Three cheers to a lifelong journey of happiness, laughter and love.


Allison in the MN July 12, 2010 at 2:51 pm

Congratulations!!! I love how he proposed to you. My husband proposed to me at the top of our stairs leading into the kitchen as I was bent over at the bottom looking for my missing flip-flop. Sometimes they have to do stuff like this to actually take us by surprise. Congratulations to you, John & Benjamin! I am so happy that you found each other! It is possible… 🙂


Juli Ruffing July 12, 2010 at 2:57 pm

OMG! Congratulations to the three of you!!! I’m expecting my own proposal soon!


lyzzette h July 12, 2010 at 3:13 pm

A thousand congrats!!! I die for your ring its gorgeous! And I love how its has a leaf detail on the side !! Perfect for you! Again congrats!


Melissa B. July 12, 2010 at 3:13 pm

OMG! I am so happy for you three!!! Congrats! BTW, is it just me or does the side of the ring kind of look like a leaf. Beautiful!!!!


arscuore July 12, 2010 at 3:55 pm

At long last… So happy for you both (for all three of you!)!! You rock! : )


Momma Sunshine July 12, 2010 at 4:08 pm

Congrats to you both. I’m so happy for you. 🙂


Jess July 12, 2010 at 4:39 pm

Congratulations!! I am so happy for all three of you!!


Courtney July 12, 2010 at 4:53 pm

I am so incredibly happy for you, John Bear, and Benjamin. Many blessings on your lives together.



Barb July 12, 2010 at 5:04 pm

Congratulations to you three!


ashlea July 12, 2010 at 5:43 pm

I’m officially a believer and it has taken a LONG time for me to say it and your story has so often been a “nagging” inspiration : ) So….ok, ok!! I’m a believer and I am smiling right now….smiling at a love story and the idea of marriage???? What have you guys done to me??????
from someone so profoundly grateful for the window into your life and love for a single-mama-no-more


G July 12, 2010 at 5:54 pm

CONGRATULATIONS !!!! to the three of you.

I hope to one day find my Mr. Right as well.


jen July 12, 2010 at 6:23 pm

That’s fantastic news, congratulations to you both.


Jamie July 12, 2010 at 6:32 pm

I am crying like a little baby! CONGRATULATIONS! This is wonderful news. Your ring is gorgeous! I wish you three nothing but the best!


Cintia February 4, 2015 at 11:35 am

My dear Jayme!!! Thank you so much for such an amazing eeeprixnce. Words can hardly describe how special these photos are to me and Jeremiah. You are truly talented and I cannot wait to capture more memories with you in the future! Much love, Rachael & Jeremiah


Bear July 12, 2010 at 6:32 pm



Naturally Single Mom July 12, 2010 at 6:42 pm

SO happy for both of you!! Congrats!!


Cat July 12, 2010 at 6:52 pm

CONGRATULATIONS!!! I wish you three so much happiness. I’m so excited for you. 🙂


Diana Mulkern July 12, 2010 at 7:28 pm

CONGRATS!!!!!!! Gives me hope that maybe one day someone will love me and my kids perfectly!!!!!!! Girl from Chillicothe is thinking of you both!


Christina July 12, 2010 at 7:30 pm

You give hope to all us single mama’s. Congratulations 🙂


Angela G July 12, 2010 at 9:10 pm

My heart is swelling with happiness for you( and Benjamin)! Thank you for giving your fellow single moms the hooe that second chances do exist and they can be just as wonderful.


becca July 12, 2010 at 9:25 pm



laura July 12, 2010 at 10:54 pm

Oh, how lovely. Congratulations.


Cleo July 12, 2010 at 11:16 pm

YAAAAAY!!!! many many congratulations. You deserve such happiness and your exit from one life story into a fabulous new one will continue to inspire all us single moms out here!


mommybella July 12, 2010 at 11:42 pm

AHHHHHHHH so, so, so happy for you. It gives me hope. I wish to find some one like John one day soon!


Danielle July 13, 2010 at 12:18 am

I have been waiting to read this! Congrats!!!! I was also proposed to in a car, well it was a truck..and we just celebrated 12 years..again big congrats to you all!


mommietopearl July 13, 2010 at 2:53 am

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww congrats!!!!! I just teared up thats got to be the cutest engagement story ever so excited for you both!


Kaitlin July 13, 2010 at 9:11 am

Congratulations!!!! Though I don’t often comment I do check your blog pretty regularly and I am so happy for you, John and Benjamin!!!!


Pretty Mama July 13, 2010 at 10:46 am

BEST WISHES!!! It’s just breathtaking and inspiring. Very well deserved too. congrats!! 😀


Sarah July 13, 2010 at 11:06 am

Congratulations!!! Beautiful ring, too. I just wanted to write and say that the detail on it looks identical to my own antique, my grandmother’s set from the 1920s. So excited for you both, and can’t wait to continue to follow your adventures:)


Lori D July 13, 2010 at 11:17 am

Congrats!! What wonderful news!!


Sara July 13, 2010 at 11:17 am

Miss Single Mama no longer! Yay!!! Congrats to both of you what beautiful thing.


lauren July 13, 2010 at 11:51 am

lots and lots of love to the three of you!


Jamie July 13, 2010 at 12:47 pm

CONGRATS CONGRATS CONGRATS!!! From one single mommy to another, yayyyyyy!!!!


MeiMei July 13, 2010 at 1:36 pm

I came across your blog today, and I am so touched by your story and contratulations!! As a single mom myself, I wish all the single mom will have happy story like you do !!


Emily July 13, 2010 at 1:46 pm

Many many congrats! I’ve been lurking for a while now (found you through Matt’s blog) but had to post as I’m just so happy for you and adore his proposal. In fact last night I told my husband he was finally off the hook for proposing to me when we had first woken up in the morning! Best wishes for the amazing time together being engaged.


Whoa July 13, 2010 at 4:20 pm

I’m happy and sad all at once. I don’t read your blog religiously, but I read it. I’ve linked to it. I remember when JohnBear came along, and now you are MOVING FORWARD with such a shared happiness that I’m green.

My John Bear is ‘Mijn’, and I see no ring in the near future and likely the farther future – and I don’t realize it often, only when I see things like this that I might actually want it. Be glad. Enjoy. He sounds like a sweet and wonderful person.

All the best.


Leah July 13, 2010 at 7:44 pm

I just did a girlie squeal! Thank you for sharing your journey with all of us and reminding those of us who are skeptics (ahem) that it is possible. I wish you both much love.


Valerie July 13, 2010 at 11:15 pm

Congrats, Woman!

Wedding planning time! 🙂

I love that the ring fell under the car seat. Perfectly imperfect.


Aspiring Napper July 14, 2010 at 3:55 am

WOW!!!!! Yaaayness!!!


Winecountrymom July 14, 2010 at 10:36 am

And to think, you were about to end the story before the pinnacle – perhaps the finale? – ever happened! Congratulations Ms. Engaged Mama! It has been a joy to watch your story unfold from scared single mama, to strong single mama, to dating single mama, to in love single mama, to now – riding off with Prince Charming into the sunset. John sounds like a wonderful man who will make a loving husband and a great stepfather for Benjamin. I am so happy for you! Thank you for letting us be a part of your happiness!


Amy July 14, 2010 at 12:16 pm

I have been reading your blog for many months…finding it while I was pregnant with my little girl and sure that I was going to be a single mom by the time she was born. While my husband and I did work things out, your blog gave (and still does) me hope and strength. I never commented before, but had to after reading this because 1. Congratulations! 2. Athens is near and dear to my heart. In fact, that is where my husband proposed and where I have so many happy memories. 3. I am guessing you got to celebrate at Casa after?? It is my all time favorite place to eat. 🙂 I am so very happy for you.


Hillary July 14, 2010 at 1:53 pm

Amazing! Congrats!


Glenda July 14, 2010 at 3:43 pm

Congrats to the 3 of you! One happy family! Can’t wait to hear all about the wedding details. So happy for you! The ring is oh so beautiful! Good taste John Bear 😉


Michelle July 14, 2010 at 4:22 pm

Great news! So happy for you. You deserve this big time! Many, many blessings to you.


maureen July 14, 2010 at 7:35 pm

LOVE IT!!!!! Congratulations Alaina, John Bear and Benjamin!!! xoxoxoxo All the best in the future


Jenny July 14, 2010 at 8:24 pm

Congrats! Many exciting years lay ahead for your little family….


Gina July 14, 2010 at 11:38 pm

WHAT !?, I had nooooo idea. I couldn’t be more happier for the two of you. I can’t wait to hear all about it in person. The ring is absolutely beautiful! I wish you both so much happiness.
Congratulations, on your new journey together


Connie July 15, 2010 at 1:21 am

Congrats! Best wishes to all three of you. I stumbled across your blog after googling “single parenting blogs” (because I have my own blog and wanted to see if mine was similar to other peoples’ and I’m happy to report I think I’ve carved out my own niche!) But it is so hard to get people to read it. How long did it take you to get a following?


mssinglemama July 15, 2010 at 11:49 am

Good question. I think about one year… one year of blogging consistently and actively commenting on other blogs in the single parent blogosphere. We’re all really a big family – so welcome!


Arielle July 15, 2010 at 11:47 am

CONGRATS CONGRATS CONGRATS! I’ve loved reading your blog, but have yet to comment, until now upon hearing this wonderful news! and that ring is AMAZING!!! 🙂 🙂


Robin July 15, 2010 at 12:30 pm

Amazing … So thrilled for you and your little one!! You must continue to feel a level of pure elation and fulfillment! Congrats & best wishes!!! (hugs!!)


Maggie July 15, 2010 at 5:31 pm

I don’t know if I’ve ever commented on here before, but what better time than now? CONGRATULATIONS!! After everything you’ve been through, the demons you’ve faced, you deserve this–and so does Benjamin! Seriously just so happy for you all!


Steph July 15, 2010 at 6:28 pm



Christina July 16, 2010 at 6:47 am

It was perfect, it mixed the emotions….and by the way congrats Alaina I am so happy for you…


G July 16, 2010 at 10:46 am

Wow! Congratulations! 😀 I am really happy for you… – from a fan in The Philippines


Single Dad Laughing July 16, 2010 at 11:18 am

“I was wondering if you were in the market for a hairy, Irish husband?” That’s the best line I think I’ve ever heard!

Congratulations, and AWESOME!


Dating With an STD July 16, 2010 at 2:04 pm

I always wished my man proposed me in an unusual way but no luck here! Your post makes me laugh and if I was proposed that way, I would have been rolling on the floor laughing 🙂



Misty July 16, 2010 at 4:43 pm

Im soooo happy you finally found the man of your dreams. I am a single mom of 3 and I have yet to date anyone and Im sooooo lonely. My entire life consists of work, cooking and cleaning. I have 2 jobs , one is a professional Mon-Fri and when Im off on the weekends I wait tables for xtra cash. Its hard to do anything


Charity July 16, 2010 at 11:35 pm



Yuka February 5, 2015 at 3:00 am

Wow! Thank you very much. I will email you my shipping addsers po using the email addsers that you used in my comment box. Salamat po ulit. Karla recently posted..


ali July 17, 2010 at 2:29 pm
Neenah Pickett July 18, 2010 at 2:27 pm

It reminds me of the episode of the Office where Jim pretended several times to propose. How fun for you both. Congrats.


Debbie July 18, 2010 at 2:50 pm

Congratulations….so happy for all of you!


Carrie July 19, 2010 at 11:51 am

Such great news!! Your story is very inspiring to me. Congratulations to all three of you!


Jen July 19, 2010 at 12:08 pm

Yay, so happy for you three!


eb July 21, 2010 at 9:05 am

Congratulations!!! And just wanted to say I think you should keep your blog title the same if it’s still a question in your mind. My thought is… once a single mama, always a single mama (as in, you will ALWAYS remember what it’s like, understand it and relate to other single mamas).


MaNiC MoMMy July 21, 2010 at 5:22 pm

I haven’t been here in MONTHS because we’ve recently moved from Chicago to Scottsdale AZ and I was going through Twitter cleaning up today and found your twitter account and I’m like, “No way am I getting rid of Ms. Single Mama!” and I had to come over here and see what was going on, and right away I said to myself, “I wonder if they’re ENGAGED yet!?!?” and sure enough — YAAAAY!!!

So thrilled for ALL THREE OF YOU!!! You will make a beautiful Mama Bear, John Bear and Ben Bear family! Congrats! xo


Amanda July 22, 2010 at 11:51 am

I am not a single mom but I LOVE your blog. Also, I am a fellow Columbus-ian. Congratulations to both of you! The ring is absolutely gorgeous. Good job, John Bear.


Mughal February 4, 2015 at 3:52 am

I would really arcpepiate more pictures that show how to do some of the trimming. I am knew at this and am having a difficult time knowing what it means use the triangle square-up ruler and trim each block to 2 . Line up the 2 marking on the ruler exactly on top of your sewn seam


Kathleen July 26, 2010 at 11:17 pm

Congratulations to all three of you!


Abby Carter July 26, 2010 at 11:50 pm

I am so out of the loop! Just reading this now. Congrats to you all! Perhaps you will be the first to conduct an online wedding? We all wanna come.


Melissa August 6, 2010 at 3:04 pm

You’re one lucky girl. I’m somewhat old friends with John…he found me in Athens via a web site I created. (He sat in our web design classes and learned all about what I was paying to learn for free haha…) We instantly became good friends just based on our common interests. I’m so glad he found a someone to share his life with. Seems like you two are really good together. Best wishes 🙂


Cheryl August 9, 2010 at 5:34 pm

OK, seriously? That totally made me

Best wishes to you mama, and congrats to John Bear! Once again, you’ve given this single mama so much to hope for.



Savored Life August 10, 2010 at 10:06 am

How da heck did I miss this announcement? ::slapping forehead::
Words cannot convey how truly happy I am that you have found “The One”. Much happiness to all three of you! Yay for Love. Yay for happy endings…



DMK August 13, 2010 at 2:39 am

I am so lucky. I am madly in love with my new boyfriend. Wow. I never imagined it could be this good.

Carl Jung says– love makes one crazy. It’s true.

I will try and compose the best part of myself.

Wish me all the best


Brittany October 9, 2010 at 12:13 am

Congratulations!!! I just read this, started crying (and felt a close connection I used to eat at Casa Nueva when my cousin worked there) then texted my boyfriend to let him know your engaged, just like he knows you!! hahaha your personal story has been so empowering to all single mother’s alike. Regardless if they are currently single, in love, or at this point married. You are amazing!


Kaori February 3, 2015 at 4:55 am

For more help you can check the tutorial here: . The tgarnile square-up ruler just has a diagonal line that helps you make sure the tgarnile is directly in the middle when you trim. If the tutorial doesn’t help you out, let me know and I will try to clarify for you!! Or you can always stop by the shop and they can demonstrate in person whatever is easiest for you!


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