Out of order

by mssinglemama on May 28, 2010


The reason I have been so quiet lately has a little something to do with this…


And, yes, that is a white picket fence you’re seeing.

A white picket fence dividing the front yard from a perfect sidewalk that leads to a park, an elementary school and hiking trails. This house is, quite possibly, the most adorable little house you’ll ever see.


We started looking a few weekends ago, just looking… because there are still a few things that need to happen (eh-hem).  Anyhow, then we saw this place and – boom – we were sold. Perfect neighborhood, right price, not much square footage but we could manage. Then John Bear made an offer, and after a few rounds of negotiations we had a deal. Now we’re one day away from a home inspection and if all goes well, we’ll be moving in mid July.

I must admit I’m feeling a bit of shell shock right now.

My life as a single mom is going to end and Benjamin and I will no longer be just Benjamin and I. The memories will always be mine, but will they be his? Will he remember the past four years? So, there is a sadness as well.

I will miss just the two of us.

But I am embracing the excitement of what’s to come – all of it is so surreal and bursting with this potential that we are already living. Now we’re just going to put it all under one roof. And when you have a guy like this leading the charge, determined to lay the foundation for our future together as a family,


it makes everything feel that much better.

Onwards and upwards my friends… and into the next chapter.

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Third times the charm
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Sang D May 28, 2010 at 10:34 am

Great news and Congratulations!


Jen @ follow my bliss May 28, 2010 at 10:34 am

I love this!!! CONGRATS. So happy for you. Adorable little home. 🙂 🙂


lauren May 28, 2010 at 10:38 am

home is where your heart is. your heart is with benjamin and john bear and together, your hearts will reside in that adorable little house!! congratulations!! 🙂
my best to the three of you!!!


Ricci May 28, 2010 at 10:39 am

YAY FOR YOU!!!!! We all yearn for that, and happy when one of our follow member(of a club no one plans for), gets great news and happiness. Best wishes to you both!


melissa May 28, 2010 at 10:41 am

I am so happy for you. You deserve it! And I think benjamin will always remember how much his mom love and supported him. Besides, you have tons of pictures and stories you could tell him.


Tansy May 28, 2010 at 10:45 am

Oh wow – gorgeous!! Congrats and good luck!


Lori May 28, 2010 at 10:51 am

That is wonderful, great, amazing and very exciting for all of you!


Jen May 28, 2010 at 10:52 am

Yay! Life’s going to feel so good!


Lori May 28, 2010 at 10:56 am

Pardon my language, but I have to say- that is fucking AWESOME!!!! I hope the inspection goes well and you have a date to move in July. Having your own home is indescribable, especially when you get to make it a home with the people you love most. I love it!!! And Benjamin might not specifically remember but he will always, always know it’s his momma who loves him most in this world. And you will remember and share with him, more than what we know in this blog, which he’ll have to look back on = )
Also, since you’re around the area and I know you guys do little trips- NEXT weekend June 5th and 6th there is the Lancaster Old Car Club car show at the fairgrounds. There are tons of beatuiful cars to admire, vendor (mostly with car parts but some have misc items (knick knacks, glassware, etc.) AND there is always Woman’s World for the ladies. Crafts galore. I figure John and Ben would love it and you might really enjoy photographing. The fairgrounds are just beautiful alone, but all the vendors and old cars really make it a unique atmosphere. AND right behind the fairgrounds is Rising Park which is EXCEPTIONAL. I love it there. And of course my son Kaleb (5) will be there with me to keep the tradition alive. I’d love to run into you there = )


Lori May 28, 2010 at 10:57 am

PS Sorry to sound like a travel agent = )


Sheila May 28, 2010 at 10:58 am

That is awesome — congrats!


Kim May 28, 2010 at 10:59 am

Whatg a precious home! I am so happy for you! You deserve the best and it looks like you are finally getting the full package you deserve!


Annie Y May 28, 2010 at 11:04 am

I am so excited for you guys!!


angela g May 28, 2010 at 11:14 am

how delightful! happy endings even better than could be imagined are possible, thanks for giving the rest of us hope!


Heidi May 28, 2010 at 11:18 am

Congrats! That’s awesome news. And a great house!


TwinCitiesLynn May 28, 2010 at 11:28 am

Congrats! But I have one question: who is going to get custody of the cats???


Bobbi Janay May 28, 2010 at 11:31 am

How exciting, it is amazing how much can change.


Amanda May 28, 2010 at 11:42 am

Congratulations! I wish your family years and years and years of bliss!


jaredvork May 28, 2010 at 11:49 am

Congrats! I’m so happy for you. We just bought our first house, and it’s really exciting.


Single Mom in New England May 28, 2010 at 11:54 am

OH, that brought tears to my eyes!!! That is the cutest house in the whole wide world, next to mine! 🙂


mysti May 28, 2010 at 12:01 pm

Wishing you the best of luck, love and happiness !!!!


mommybella May 28, 2010 at 12:02 pm

so, so, so happy for all you. I totally understand you feeling about B not knowing the last 4 years, I feel the same, but we all need to embrace our future with a no fear attitude so that we may feel that happiness that we deserve and long for. Those tough days as a single mother I dream of finding ” the ONE” and the whit picket fence!
Good luck!


Stac May 28, 2010 at 12:22 pm

Yay!!!! The house is super duper adorable!


J-Fo May 28, 2010 at 12:36 pm


It seems like just yesterday….

This is just awesome, exciting news. Cheers to you guys!


Canadian Bald Guy May 28, 2010 at 12:51 pm

Wow…that’s tremendous news, Alaina! Congrats!!


Cat May 28, 2010 at 1:43 pm

That is such a cute house. Congratuations!


Jess May 28, 2010 at 2:53 pm

So very happy for you, Alaina!! You and your son deserve this!!! And John Bear is such a lucky man!!


arscuore May 28, 2010 at 3:57 pm

Wow! *smiling for you*


Kyelie May 28, 2010 at 5:50 pm

Congratulations 🙂


jen May 28, 2010 at 8:56 pm

What fantastic news. The house looks adorable and I’ll bet you can’t wait to move in.


Naturally Single Mom May 28, 2010 at 9:30 pm

Congrats! 🙂

P.S. The house is adorable!


Glenda May 29, 2010 at 1:32 am

Congrats! So happy for you, Benjamin and John! The house is beautiful!


Charity May 29, 2010 at 1:53 am

that fence just about sums everything up. there is something very photo op and very “perfect final chapter” about it.
I told someone last night that every relationship is a brief chapter in a person’s life, until they find the one that becomes the book.
I truly hope this is the book. 🙂


Erin May 29, 2010 at 10:31 pm

I’m so extraordinarily thrilled for you, Benjamin and John! Congrats! I wish you all the very best. What a gorgeous little house for a wonderful little family 🙂


Abimom May 31, 2010 at 2:25 am

July 21st, 2008. I just read this blog of yours. And if you and John Bear haven’t gone over it together yet, you might want to! 🙂 Congrats. But promise me you won’t destroy the site! I’m a new single mom and I still need it! lol 😉


K May 31, 2010 at 6:51 am

Never impose any particular order. When does that ever work?? 🙂



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Misty May 31, 2010 at 8:16 am

How cute!! So happy for you


Just D May 31, 2010 at 4:37 pm

Gives the rest of us hope that we can all find our “picket fence.” Congratulations!


Gitte May 31, 2010 at 6:29 pm

Great news! Congratulations !!!!!!!


Momma Sunshine June 1, 2010 at 5:34 am

Congratulations! I’m really excited for you. 🙂


Sara June 1, 2010 at 9:39 am

Wow, what an exciting time for You, Benjamin, and John! I’m truely happy for you!


lauren June 1, 2010 at 9:50 am

The house is cute and all but I got totally distracted by picture of the hot guy at the end


Christina June 15, 2010 at 8:38 am

Congratulation that is a nice little house I LOVE IT…


Carlos January 29, 2015 at 2:48 am

Congrats!!! Beautiful couple and piructes .i wanted to ask the bride where she found the blue dress from..i am in love with that dress if possible can you please tell me where can i find it.Thanks


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