Sick Entertainment

by mssinglemama on February 27, 2010

Benjamin came home with a headache on Tuesday.

Which turned into a fever on Tuesday night.

Which turned into puking on Wednesday night.

Which turned into… ahhh, never mind.

The sick fairies spared John Bear and I the vomiting but left us with severe headaches and congestion.

Benjamin pukes like a champ by the way. It frightens me. It’s like the kid is built or designed for college parties. As soon as he feels a squirm in his stomach he runs to the bathroom, puts both hands on the toilet seat, braces himself and then…

Like a pro.

I can hear his future friends cheering him on now as he emerges from the bathroom and declares, “Give me another one!”

I can sit here and hope that’s just a vision, but I’m bracing myself for a time in Benjamin’s life when he’s working hard and playing hard, like his mother used to be. Used to be. Now I can’t have more than two beers without wanting to call it a night and head home.

Last weekend – probably the reason why we were vulnerable to Benjamin’s latest virus – John and I went out and stayed out because we had to meet my Uncle out for an 11:00 pm reading from his book – the Zen of Beer. When I go out like that I can’t help but get excited, thinking I’m still my 20-something self. One shot of tequila is all it takes to make me forget my limits. And then boom – I wake up with a hang over that lasts 48 hours. I’m a light-weight now, what can I say? Drinking and I just don’t get along anymore.

At some point this week, being stuck in the house with my little sick, puking goblin I tested out a new camera lens on my fridge. In this winter darkness of never ending snow and flu, my refrigerator is the brightest thing in the house.

My fridge is my impromptu scrap book; where I stick memories I find while cleaning or dusting in odd places.

There’s the photo of my sister and I. Our faces warm from spending days by the pool at our apartment in Texas. We were in the back seat of a friend’s car when I took that, moments away from hitting a bar in Austin.


My Athens block is holding us up, near some notes Anna sent me just a few weeks ago. Love my sister. So much.

To the right there’s the picture of John Bear and I, the one I tore it out of a scratch copy of Ms. Single Mama Uncensored. I look like I’m going to maul him or something but I still like that picture. Taken on such a good weekend.


On the bottom right is a picture of my father’s family – my dad is one of the little guys in the front. My grandmother, a single mother to four boys during the 50’s and 60’s is on the top right. I never met her. Like my father, she died of cancer when she was 50. Damn the cancer.


And on the front is Mr. Germ Doctor, always packing a new illness to infect Mommy with.


He hides them so well. The germs. But they’re in there…

[BTW: Those cute Lois Lane magnets are on Amazon.]


{ 26 comments… read them below or add one }

jen_k_ February 28, 2010 at 6:59 am

“Say golden poo!” The joys of 4 year old boys. Love it.


AprilFresh February 28, 2010 at 11:27 am



Gitte February 28, 2010 at 2:31 pm

You have such a beautiful, sweet son and he’s already a star in front of the camera!


Juli February 28, 2010 at 3:03 pm

That’s awesome. I’m making a conscious effort to get more video of my boys this year. At six and four, they have similar goofy fun all the time and I don’t want to forget it.


Courtney February 28, 2010 at 5:17 pm

I loved the video!! Benjamin is so adorable.
And the John Bear cameo was hilarious


Pippi March 1, 2010 at 8:44 am

And the Oscar goes to….Benjamin! I need (want) a MacBook Pro too. What fun.


christine March 1, 2010 at 11:07 am

LOL! does john bear regularly chase murphy through the house on all fours?


Tashina March 1, 2010 at 2:50 pm

Who doesn’t chase their dogs through the house on all fours?

I love Benjamin’s description of the Death Star.


~Monica March 1, 2010 at 4:06 pm

That was the best Benjamin – thanks for the inspiration : ) – I think my little man would LOVE to make some movies too (now that I’m taking a whole year off work and actually have the time to do this kind of thing!!!)

Loved John Bear’s non-chalant expression whilst walking on all-fours ; )


arscuore March 1, 2010 at 4:46 pm

Can I have an autograph, please!!



Megan March 1, 2010 at 11:24 pm

gorgeous kiddo!


Clarity March 4, 2010 at 12:33 am

Hey – what a cutie! You should get him to Hollywood right away! They grow up too fast, enjoy his adorableness now!

I am hoping to connect with other single parents through my blog. I hope you’ll take a look. Any advice would be helpful. I am new at the blogging thing. Trying to make connections, spill my heart, and earn a few extra bucks too. Take care – Clare


Erin March 4, 2010 at 1:19 am

Alaina…. I am seriously laughing hysterically at John Bear and the dog…. he made my night! Please thank him for me… that’s mighty embarassing but provided some excellent comic relief for someone in need of it! 😉


Michelle March 4, 2010 at 5:59 am

Alaina, you’re a smart marketer. You know how to appeal to an audience and take them for a ride. And what a ride it is. You’ve created an online persona that is bigger than life. Brilliant. I’ve read your blog for a long time, and I’ll be signing off for good after this post, which I’m sure will make your loyal readers happy. You have developed such a degree of self-importance and command, it’s nausiating. You’re a fraud. Benjamin is indeed adorable. So are all children. The way you exploit him will prove harmful to him someday. It’s disturnbing to watch. Your continued, “look at how cute Benjamin is, isn’t he the best, what an actor, what an athlete…and oh, I’ve raised him all by myself because his father is an uncaring, irresponsible pig…” At some point, you will crash again, like before, and be humbled. Until then, good luck. When that happens, God bless you, and God bless Benjamin.


mssinglemama March 4, 2010 at 1:03 pm


This is a valid point. And an issue many and most popular mom bloggers have to address. This is the first video I have posted of Benjamin since Halloween. I wanted to share with all of you how much he has grown.

Exploitation? It can be argued. Sure. Why not? Maybe I am exploiting you by commenting and reacting to your comment, which I will share with my Twitter and Facebook friends in a moment. This will drive more traffic to my site and more eyes will be on my son and my life.

Look, I am a marketer. At one point (last summer) I set out to make this blog a primary source of income for myself. It wasn’t fun. At all. I felt like everything in my life had to be documented and Benjamin’s … and that felt like exploitation.

Now, thanks to the formation of my own social and search marketing group, this blog is not at all a primary source of income. The money made from this blog goes directly to pay for Benjamin’s A-mazing and ridiculously expensive montessori education.

I started this blog for one reason – to help other single moms and myself find our way, advice, companionship. I think when single moms see a video like the one here – it is not about Benjamin and his cute acting – it is about us coming into our own with a man and his dog in our lives as well.

If you’re not a single mom, I guess the importance and significance of a little moment like this one doesn’t make sense.

I do appreciate your comment. I do. Also for the record, I have never called my ex-husband an uncaring, irresponsible pig. Ever. He does care about Benjamin. Tremendously.


karen March 4, 2010 at 1:20 pm

That was so adorable! I thought the dog in the hall was a stuffed animal for some reason and jumped when he moved! Good movie 🙂


Jen @ follow my bliss March 4, 2010 at 1:22 pm

Michelle, you’re entitled to your opinion. And I’m entitled to mine. And Alaina’s entitled to hers. You’re right, I, as a loyal reader of Alaina’s, am happy to see that you’ve decided to stop reading. That’s all you can do, isn’t it? If you disagree with how she puts herself out into the world, all you can do is stop reading. I’m not sure why a critical and somewhat insulting comment was necessary, but we all choose to comport ourselves in different ways.

I, for one, don’t find Alaina’s photos or videos or stories about her son to be exploitative. I also don’t think she’s exploiting anyone when she writes about her boyfriend, her job, her family, her city or her best friend. I’m sure you could argue that she is, but it’s really just a matter of perspective. You have yours.

I blog about quitting my desk job to do something I love. I blog about opening a bakery. I blog about my nighttime career as a comedienne in NYC. I blog about my cats, my boyfriend, my family, and even my dramas. I’m not exploiting anyone, I’m telling my story.

At least that’s how I view it. It’s all a matter of perspective.

Perhaps you’d come over to my side of the perspective if you were telling your story to the world via a blog. (Are you? You didn’t share a link…) Almost all the bloggers I know, read, and love (Alaina included) blog because they want to share their story. Not because they’re desperate to make millions.

But even if they were desperate to make millions – what about book writers who write about their families? And journalists who share their own stories when they write articles? What about movie directors who use things from their real life to make their movies? What about TV talk shows (like Oprah) where the host uses real life examples to share an issue with the world. Is all that exploitative?

Not in my mind. It’s okay with me if it is in yours. But you have to appreciate the other perspective you expect anyone to appreciate yours.

Also, if I were you, I’d be a little kinder in my “constructive” comments. Digs aren’t necessary to make a point.


RobinEsque March 12, 2010 at 4:41 pm

First @ Jen @ Follow My Bliss: Way to have Alaina’s back! Because exploitation is in everything each one of us do everyday in society — it just comes down which ones society accepts as appropriate or not. Similarly, aren’t all lies — straight up or white — all still a lie? It’s the same concept: how can anyone who blogs, writes a movie script, or just works an ordinary 9-5, not be exploiting their own emotions, experiences, family or friends, education in one shape or form — we do it by telling stories that help us relate to a co-worker, to build rapport with a possible client, to interview well to get the job offer, etc. ANYWHO, Jen, since you are in NYC, look me up … and let’s get together!

@Alaina — who are you not going to feed anymore — the boy, the dog or the man? It was a very funny ending! And “golden poo” is priceless — boys have no shame! Reagan likes to “toot” on me … which is fine, because it is our little game now at home … yet, recently he has started to try to ‘toot” on me in public, to my deep red embarrassment! geesh … boys are so not like little girls, or grown-up ones, either!!


Leslie March 4, 2010 at 2:29 pm

Hi – I’m a single mom as well. My son is a little older than Benjamin – he’s almost 12 – but I think no matter how old your child is, all of the moms in this type of situation are facing many of the same problems. That’s how I got here.

I see how Alaina’s posting of her son’s videos and such could be construed as a sort of exploitation. However, I think of things I’ve posted online regarding my own son – his karate belt test video, his artwork, many photos, some of our funny conversations – and the only motive I’ve ever had to post those is to share my son with the world, to show what he has accomplished. I have never had myself in mind – just him and how I want to show what a great kid he is. I believe that the majority of moms, single or not, feel the same when it comes to their kids. Alaina, being more visible than many of us, happens to have a larger platform available to do that. Benjamin is a huge part of her life, plus she’s writing specifically about being a mom, targeting her writing to other moms – how could she leave Benjamin out and still blog effectively?

We’re all entitled to our own opinions and to our own choices, and I’m choosing to stay.


Apryl March 4, 2010 at 2:35 pm

Hey..well all I have to say is that haters will hate. Hating other people is only a reflection of self hatred of oneself. I too am a single mom and this is the first time I am actually commenting. I have started follwing on twitter but its hard to keep up as my boy is only 11mths and I have not found a medium yet.I do think that its great that Alaina shares her life with all single moms.Sometimes we simply need to knw there is someone out there like us that we can relate to. I also have started my blog..again I need to find time to keep up with it as it is also a great way to find peace in such a hectic world, especially when your doing it alone. Kudos to Alaina!!!haters only fuel our passion!!


shellelle March 5, 2010 at 12:17 am

Love your blog, but too many advertisements on it. At first, I thought I had hit


mssinglemama March 9, 2010 at 12:02 pm

Sorry about that… on my to-do list, to eliminate the need for ads. Really would rather not have to bother with them.


Leslie March 5, 2010 at 6:52 pm

Why do you have so many haters, Alaina?


mssinglemama March 9, 2010 at 12:04 pm

Not sure. But it doesn’t bother me. Haters add to the flavor around here. The more the merrier and everything I represent a – gasp – happy, successful single mom – is a bit polarizing for some.


anon March 6, 2010 at 11:26 am

All I have to say is that 100 years from now, no one will give a damn, so
haters you can continue to waste your time and your words, but really, in 100 years will any of it matter. Think about that one. This is not your blog!


Leslie March 8, 2010 at 9:20 pm

I’m a fan. Just curious.


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