Comments on: Co-Parenting and Mrs. Brady http://mssinglemama.com/2010/01/11/co-parenting/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Fri, 25 May 2012 05:13:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Nikkihttp://mssinglemama.com/2010/01/11/co-parenting/#comment-15548 Nikki Mon, 25 Jan 2010 15:42:19 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5172#comment-15548 Awesome post! I'm in the midst of a 30 y/o man-4 y/o boy battle right now. Maybe it's time to sit down and have the family discussion. Awesome post! I’m in the midst of a 30 y/o man-4 y/o boy battle right now. Maybe it’s time to sit down and have the family discussion.

]]> By: Speedgirlhttp://mssinglemama.com/2010/01/11/co-parenting/#comment-15276 Speedgirl Sat, 16 Jan 2010 04:36:40 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5172#comment-15276 It is hard to admit that you just aren't ready for - or comfortable with - another person jumping into the parenting game. (It seems many of us unconsciously believe what society whispers all around us: single moms are just waiting for someone to come and help them, so we should be happy to hand over part of the job.) AND on top of admitting your own feelings, you were able to stick up for those that Benjamin cannot express. I am really proud of you for allowing all three of you to step back and reassess the way things were going. Kudos! It is hard to admit that you just aren’t ready for – or comfortable with – another person jumping into the parenting game. (It seems many of us unconsciously believe what society whispers all around us: single moms are just waiting for someone to come and help them, so we should be happy to hand over part of the job.) AND on top of admitting your own feelings, you were able to stick up for those that Benjamin cannot express. I am really proud of you for allowing all three of you to step back and reassess the way things were going. Kudos!

]]> By: mama-pastahttp://mssinglemama.com/2010/01/11/co-parenting/#comment-15248 mama-pasta Thu, 14 Jan 2010 03:02:35 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5172#comment-15248 Interesting! It totally makes sense your son would react like that - so glad you were able to get something positive flowing! 3 years olds, as lovable as they are, are still self-centered egotistical little beings :) I enjoy reading, your a little of ahead of me in your single mommy journey - so I LOVE getting a peak at what may be in store for me! Interesting! It totally makes sense your son would react like that – so glad you were able to get something positive flowing! 3 years olds, as lovable as they are, are still self-centered egotistical little beings :) I enjoy reading, your a little of ahead of me in your single mommy journey – so I LOVE getting a peak at what may be in store for me!

]]> By: Laurahttp://mssinglemama.com/2010/01/11/co-parenting/#comment-15243 Laura Wed, 13 Jan 2010 19:40:07 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5172#comment-15243 what a great post. I wondered how you guys handled that. I'm not in the situation, I'm married to my kid's dad, so we obviously have it worked out (huh?). I think relationships like yours are tricky and it takes people with some insight to make them work. i've watched my friend really struggle with her 2 kids, her boyfriend and his 2 kids. At times it's painful to watch. I'm not an expert, but I work in a social worky field so I have some experience with it. Anyway, I'm glad you wrote about it. Sounds like you're all doing so well. what a great post. I wondered how you guys handled that. I’m not in the situation, I’m married to my kid’s dad, so we obviously have it worked out (huh?). I think relationships like yours are tricky and it takes people with some insight to make them work. i’ve watched my friend really struggle with her 2 kids, her boyfriend and his 2 kids. At times it’s painful to watch. I’m not an expert, but I work in a social worky field so I have some experience with it. Anyway, I’m glad you wrote about it. Sounds like you’re all doing so well.

]]> By: mssinglemamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2010/01/11/co-parenting/#comment-15234 mssinglemama Wed, 13 Jan 2010 03:09:34 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5172#comment-15234 I love you guys. I truly have the best, most inspiring group of readers EVER. Just wanted to say that. Thank you all for these awesome comments. I love you guys. I truly have the best, most inspiring group of readers EVER. Just wanted to say that. Thank you all for these awesome comments.

]]> By: kids and summer | Parenting help in Puertoricohttp://mssinglemama.com/2010/01/11/co-parenting/#comment-15233 kids and summer | Parenting help in Puertorico Wed, 13 Jan 2010 03:05:36 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5172#comment-15233 [...] Co-Parenting and Mrs. Brady [...] [...] Co-Parenting and Mrs. Brady [...]

]]> By: Katehttp://mssinglemama.com/2010/01/11/co-parenting/#comment-15232 Kate Wed, 13 Jan 2010 02:36:53 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5172#comment-15232 You are right on about this. John is not Benjamin's parent and therefore should not be disciplining him. As a child of divorce (speaking from experience) it is hard to accept your mom's new boyfriend in a parental role, even at three years old, apparently. I personally think the new boyfriend should do just what John is doing, being a friend to the child. You are right on about this. John is not Benjamin’s parent and therefore should not be disciplining him. As a child of divorce (speaking from experience) it is hard to accept your mom’s new boyfriend in a parental role, even at three years old, apparently. I personally think the new boyfriend should do just what John is doing, being a friend to the child.

]]> By: Dawnhttp://mssinglemama.com/2010/01/11/co-parenting/#comment-15230 Dawn Wed, 13 Jan 2010 01:25:19 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5172#comment-15230 It makes a world of difference if men are parents already ... also, it makes a world of difference if significant others are open hearted. It makes a world of difference if men are parents already … also, it makes a world of difference if significant others are open hearted.

]]> By: Erinhttp://mssinglemama.com/2010/01/11/co-parenting/#comment-15229 Erin Tue, 12 Jan 2010 21:19:10 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5172#comment-15229 FABULOUS! What an interesting perspective. I had never thought about what it would feel like to have to co-parent with someone else once I finally found a special someone good enough to keep around. John Bear is such a keeper - to listen to your heart and respect what you said.... BRAVO. I have to admit, though... I'm still laughing at "butt picker". I might have to use that myself sometime. FABULOUS! What an interesting perspective. I had never thought about what it would feel like to have to co-parent with someone else once I finally found a special someone good enough to keep around. John Bear is such a keeper – to listen to your heart and respect what you said…. BRAVO.

I have to admit, though… I’m still laughing at “butt picker”. I might have to use that myself sometime.

]]> By: kristenhttp://mssinglemama.com/2010/01/11/co-parenting/#comment-15227 kristen Tue, 12 Jan 2010 20:23:16 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5172#comment-15227 Interesting. It's almost like Benjamin was testing your authority over him through John Bear, if that makes any sense. You handled it well and came out as the alpha mom! Interesting. It’s almost like Benjamin was testing your authority over him through John Bear, if that makes any sense. You handled it well and came out as the alpha mom!

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