Comments on: One Year Later: Mia’s Story http://mssinglemama.com/2009/12/03/one-year-single-mom/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Fri, 25 May 2012 05:13:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Lisahttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/12/03/one-year-single-mom/#comment-19271 Lisa Tue, 17 Aug 2010 15:49:16 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5024#comment-19271 I'm blown away by how much reading all of your posts helps me in my healing process. I mean, I am totally addicted! I too had a nightmare this lat night about my ex-husband and him cheating on me. I remember feeling beyond upset, but wanting him back so much that I could barely breathe. When I woke up from what seems like the deepest sleep I've had in ages, it took me over an hour to finally get out of bed. This was the first post I read this morning and I'm so grateful that I did. I’m blown away by how much reading all of your posts helps me in my healing process. I mean, I am totally addicted! I too had a nightmare this lat night about my ex-husband and him cheating on me. I remember feeling beyond upset, but wanting him back so much that I could barely breathe. When I woke up from what seems like the deepest sleep I’ve had in ages, it took me over an hour to finally get out of bed. This was the first post I read this morning and I’m so grateful that I did.

]]> By: My Comfort Zonehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/12/03/one-year-single-mom/#comment-19073 My Comfort Zone Wed, 11 Aug 2010 22:54:57 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5024#comment-19073 [...] by mssinglemama on August 11, 2010 Here’s the latest from Mia. If you missed the beginning of her story catch up here. [...] [...] by mssinglemama on August 11, 2010 Here’s the latest from Mia. If you missed the beginning of her story catch up here. [...]

]]> By: Single Mommy Makin Ithttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/12/03/one-year-single-mom/#comment-18145 Single Mommy Makin It Fri, 02 Jul 2010 00:49:28 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5024#comment-18145 O God - it's just so hard. I found out my husband was cheating when my little one was 8 weeks old. I discovered the photographs of their recent trip to Costa Rica (the trip he took when my baby was 6 weeks old.) I kicked him out and it took me about a year to get over him (we'd been together 10 years). To be honest I thought it would take me longer. Much longer. But suddenly one day I just made some strange sort of shift and now I just don't care anymore. It's hard to know when that shift is going to come or how it's going to occur - some women never make it. But I can tell you... the other side is just a golden golden place to be. Do whatever is in your power to get there. Meditation and gratitude and whole lot of venting via creativity are great places to start. O God – it’s just so hard. I found out my husband was cheating when my little one was 8 weeks old. I discovered the photographs of their recent trip to Costa Rica (the trip he took when my baby was 6 weeks old.) I kicked him out and it took me about a year to get over him (we’d been together 10 years). To be honest I thought it would take me longer. Much longer. But suddenly one day I just made some strange sort of shift and now I just don’t care anymore. It’s hard to know when that shift is going to come or how it’s going to occur – some women never make it. But I can tell you… the other side is just a golden golden place to be. Do whatever is in your power to get there. Meditation and gratitude and whole lot of venting via creativity are great places to start.

]]> By: Burning Your List | Ms. Single Mamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/12/03/one-year-single-mom/#comment-17882 Burning Your List | Ms. Single Mama Mon, 14 Jun 2010 21:25:06 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5024#comment-17882 [...] by mssinglemama on June 14, 2010 Many of you have been asking about Mia. [...] [...] by mssinglemama on June 14, 2010 Many of you have been asking about Mia. [...]

]]> By: JDhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/12/03/one-year-single-mom/#comment-16044 JD Wed, 24 Feb 2010 03:42:06 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5024#comment-16044 I just found this site, so I'm still going through all the back stories. I am so glad to have found your story Mia. Today is the second month since I found out about my husbands three (3), count 'em, three affairs in two years. The worst part is we were one of those couples that "this never happens to." When I've told friends, they all have the same response. "This isn't a funny joke." - you think? We are still in the same house and talking. We both have therapists and one together (a lot of therapists are getting paid). It's so difficult living with someone that you love desperately, who doesn't love you back. Or at least, doesn't know how he feels about you. We have three boys (twin 6.5 year olds and a 3.5 year old) and they are struggling and I hate that. I feel like I can't do anything well and living in limbo is killing me. I want to be strong and everyone tells me how strong I am to even talk to him, but it feels weak. Mostly, because I can't seem to make myself tell him to leave. I worry what this says about me? The post describing it as one step forward and two steps back is the best description. I don't want to do anything rash - but, seriously, I don't know how long I can do this. I'm afraid that end the end, I'll have to be the one to break my heart all over again by telling him that I'm done. How will I look my boys in the eye when I do? How will I look them in the eye if I don't. It's just a hot mess - JD I just found this site, so I’m still going through all the back stories. I am so glad to have found your story Mia. Today is the second month since I found out about my husbands three (3), count ‘em, three affairs in two years.

The worst part is we were one of those couples that “this never happens to.” When I’ve told friends, they all have the same response. “This isn’t a funny joke.” – you think?

We are still in the same house and talking. We both have therapists and one together (a lot of therapists are getting paid). It’s so difficult living with someone that you love desperately, who doesn’t love you back. Or at least, doesn’t know how he feels about you.

We have three boys (twin 6.5 year olds and a 3.5 year old) and they are struggling and I hate that. I feel like I can’t do anything well and living in limbo is killing me.

I want to be strong and everyone tells me how strong I am to even talk to him, but it feels weak. Mostly, because I can’t seem to make myself tell him to leave. I worry what this says about me?

The post describing it as one step forward and two steps back is the best description. I don’t want to do anything rash – but, seriously, I don’t know how long I can do this. I’m afraid that end the end, I’ll have to be the one to break my heart all over again by telling him that I’m done.

How will I look my boys in the eye when I do? How will I look them in the eye if I don’t. It’s just a hot mess – JD

]]> By: On how to not feel helpless « Mother Appeaserhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/12/03/one-year-single-mom/#comment-15944 On how to not feel helpless « Mother Appeaser Wed, 17 Feb 2010 19:33:21 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5024#comment-15944 [...] , Uncategorized Leave a Comment Tags: Parenting, Single parenting Beautiful words from Mia on her recovery.  How true her words [...] [...] , Uncategorized Leave a Comment Tags: Parenting, Single parenting Beautiful words from Mia on her recovery.  How true her words [...]

]]> By: On how to not feel helpless « Organised Chaoshttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/12/03/one-year-single-mom/#comment-14832 On how to not feel helpless « Organised Chaos Thu, 17 Dec 2009 19:21:49 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5024#comment-14832 [...] http://mssinglemama.com/2009/12/03/one-year-single-mom/#more-5024 [...] [...] http://mssinglemama.com/2009/12/03/one-year-single-mom/#more-5024 [...]

]]> By: wyliekathttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/12/03/one-year-single-mom/#comment-14809 wyliekat Tue, 15 Dec 2009 19:40:48 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5024#comment-14809 Healing happens in it's own time for everyone. Glad you're appreciating your own pace. Healing happens in it’s own time for everyone. Glad you’re appreciating your own pace.

]]> By: nataliehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/12/03/one-year-single-mom/#comment-14793 natalie Mon, 14 Dec 2009 14:34:05 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5024#comment-14793 Mia- Thank you so much for the advice and post, it made my day. I think I will try it out- I need positive things to keep me going forward- I did enroll in an art class, so looking forward to revisiting my childhood love of drawing. I cannot imagine living in your shoes as well, you are an amazing woman and deserve so much more than he could give obviously. I never take joy in others misgivings, but I do know from experience that things that begin out of the spark of deception very rarely stand the test of time. I just entered this crazy weird "longing for my old life back " stage, especially now during the holidays. Argh Lori- Thank you for the post- it means a lot to hear these stories and be reminded there is hope. I wish I could say I have that "done" feeling, I can't even explain to myself why I am holding on even the little bit that I am. I want to feel that wonder and go after what my heart wants so badly at moments and then a memory, song, place, or picture will send me into a tail spin crash. Stay strong. Mia-
Thank you so much for the advice and post, it made my day. I think I will try it out- I need positive things to keep me going forward- I did enroll in an art class, so looking forward to revisiting my childhood love of drawing. I cannot imagine living in your shoes as well, you are an amazing woman and deserve so much more than he could give obviously. I never take joy in others misgivings, but I do know from experience that things that begin out of the spark of deception very rarely stand the test of time. I just entered this crazy weird “longing for my old life back ” stage, especially now during the holidays. Argh

Lori-
Thank you for the post- it means a lot to hear these stories and be reminded there is hope. I wish I could say I have that “done” feeling, I can’t even explain to myself why I am holding on even the little bit that I am. I want to feel that wonder and go after what my heart wants so badly at moments and then a memory, song, place, or picture will send me into a tail spin crash. Stay strong.

]]> By: Cicilyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/12/03/one-year-single-mom/#comment-14792 Cicily Mon, 14 Dec 2009 02:53:37 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=5024#comment-14792 Stac, I totally feel the same way you do. Sometimes it feels like there is no time to cry or you are simply out of tears. My son's father too wants us back after a year of leaving us and me filing for divorce. I miss my "old" family..but love my "new" family I have created with my son. Hugs to you! Cicily Stac,

I totally feel the same way you do. Sometimes it feels like there is no time to cry or you are simply out of tears. My son’s father too wants us back after a year of leaving us and me filing for divorce. I miss my “old” family..but love my “new” family I have created with my son. Hugs to you!

Cicily

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