Comments on: Overdue http://mssinglemama.com/2009/11/15/overdue/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Thu, 24 May 2012 13:52:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Thanks, etc.http://mssinglemama.com/2009/11/15/overdue/#comment-14592 Thanks, etc. Tue, 01 Dec 2009 00:03:33 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4897#comment-14592 [...] Just after we finished Benjamin’s dad showed up for weekend #2 of his every other weekends and then – just like that – John Bear and I were alone again. [...] [...] Just after we finished Benjamin’s dad showed up for weekend #2 of his every other weekends and then – just like that – John Bear and I were alone again. [...]

]]> By: Single Native Fatherhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/11/15/overdue/#comment-14573 Single Native Father Sat, 28 Nov 2009 15:50:27 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4897#comment-14573 I totally understand as I love my children dearly and know that the resentment is only temporary and only of the resent that I could not keep the moment of self for just a little longer and not a resent of the love that I have for my children. Thank you for allowing us to share and learn here.... I totally understand as I love my children dearly and know that the resentment is only temporary and only of the resent that I could not keep the moment of self for just a little longer and not a resent of the love that I have for my children.

Thank you for allowing us to share and learn here….

]]> By: thisnewplacehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/11/15/overdue/#comment-14526 thisnewplace Tue, 24 Nov 2009 01:22:09 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4897#comment-14526 I hear ya. I used to have trouble relaxing when the girls were gone and I was no longer a mother, for a few days. Now, I enjoy it and find balance in it and consider it healthy for my relationship. I love girlfriend mode, and being able to sleep naked on those weekends. I hear ya. I used to have trouble relaxing when the girls were gone and I was no longer a mother, for a few days. Now, I enjoy it and find balance in it and consider it healthy for my relationship. I love girlfriend mode, and being able to sleep naked on those weekends.

]]> By: mssinglemamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/11/15/overdue/#comment-14491 mssinglemama Fri, 20 Nov 2009 03:32:47 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4897#comment-14491 Thanks SO much for being here and for being so open. I think resentment goes with the single parent territory. I get exactly what you mean. But Benjamin is a part of me, a piece of me - so I see it as resenting the decisions I made in the past while never, ever wanting to take them back and also resenting myself for not being able to give myself more emotional space. Does that make sense? Thanks for sharing. Thanks SO much for being here and for being so open.

I think resentment goes with the single parent territory. I get exactly what you mean. But Benjamin is a part of me, a piece of me – so I see it as resenting the decisions I made in the past while never, ever wanting to take them back and also resenting myself for not being able to give myself more emotional space.

Does that make sense?

Thanks for sharing.

]]> By: Single Native Fatherhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/11/15/overdue/#comment-14489 Single Native Father Thu, 19 Nov 2009 18:55:04 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4897#comment-14489 I don't know how I can contribute but perhaps seek contribution. I was turned over to your site by a wonderful friend who is actually the 1st cousin of my x wife. She has seen my growth in finding resolve in healing and then forgivness stemming from infidelity committed by my then wife. Since many of you have heard this legacy before, I will not go there. Since my life has taken on a new path and the healing process moving forward. I recently took the risk of getting to know someone in my community a little better. Only realizing that I was way out of my game, showing all the signs the crush, the attachments and the I don't know what I am doing syndrom, only to inevitably chase her off by not knowing how to deal with myself as a single father but also her as a single mother. So with the graciousness of my great friend, I have found myself here on several occasions, peeking into the insight of a single mother. So in relation to this particular feed. I just wanted to say that I am not dating anyone as I feel as if I still have some processing to do. But find that in relation to the story above, I too found my business trips away to be somewhat healing and a time to ponder all that is, and for that am grateful about having that time alone. The hard part and the part I would like some feedback with, as it is something that concerns me is: Does anyone feel resentment when you return from these alone times, whether you are with someone or not? A resentment like you want more and had to return to reality? When I come home, I feel almost saddened by the fact that I my moments of solice were taken from me. Don't get me wrong, I love my children so much and miss them so when we are not together, as I have bonded with them ever more strongly as they all live with me from 16 to 1 year old. But does anyone else get this sense of feeling? Is it wrong to feel this way? A little help and insight would go a long way.... I don’t know how I can contribute but perhaps seek contribution. I was turned over to your site by a wonderful friend who is actually the 1st cousin of my x wife. She has seen my growth in finding resolve in healing and then forgivness stemming from infidelity committed by my then wife.

Since many of you have heard this legacy before, I will not go there. Since my life has taken on a new path and the healing process moving forward. I recently took the risk of getting to know someone in my community a little better. Only realizing that I was way out of my game, showing all the signs the crush, the attachments and the I don’t know what I am doing syndrom, only to inevitably chase her off by not knowing how to deal with myself as a single father but also her as a single mother.

So with the graciousness of my great friend, I have found myself here on several occasions, peeking into the insight of a single mother. So in relation to this particular feed. I just wanted to say that I am not dating anyone as I feel as if I still have some processing to do. But find that in relation to the story above, I too found my business trips away to be somewhat healing and a time to ponder all that is, and for that am grateful about having that time alone. The hard part and the part I would like some feedback with, as it is something that concerns me is: Does anyone feel resentment when you return from these alone times, whether you are with someone or not? A resentment like you want more and had to return to reality? When I come home, I feel almost saddened by the fact that I my moments of solice were taken from me. Don’t get me wrong, I love my children so much and miss them so when we are not together, as I have bonded with them ever more strongly as they all live with me from 16 to 1 year old. But does anyone else get this sense of feeling? Is it wrong to feel this way? A little help and insight would go a long way….

]]> By: Jenna Jeanhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/11/15/overdue/#comment-14481 Jenna Jean Wed, 18 Nov 2009 02:38:32 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4897#comment-14481 That's a great picture of you guys. You got to think of yourself too and anyone who truly reads this blog knows you choose your child over yourself or anyone else every day of the week. Don't let the sideline haters get you down! http://www.ifeelyaophelia.com Jenna Jean That’s a great picture of you guys. You got to think of yourself too and anyone who truly reads this blog knows you choose your child over yourself or anyone else every day of the week. Don’t let the sideline haters get you down!

http://www.ifeelyaophelia.com
Jenna Jean

]]> By: Sharon McMillanhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/11/15/overdue/#comment-14480 Sharon McMillan Wed, 18 Nov 2009 02:10:15 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4897#comment-14480 What a smart way to put it...finding your inner girlfriend. I'm married but you know every now and then I feel the need to be a little special in that "girlfriend kind of way" and stop being the mom-nagging-teen or wife-nagging-husband-to-pick-up-socks person. By the way, I'm not from Cleveland but, due to marriage, left my home town of Toronto to live in Cleveland (Shaker Heights) for 4 years. My friends in T.O. were totally baffled when I'd rant about how much I LOVED Cleveland (and still do). Some of the most enjoyable years of being a mommy and career gal in PR was in Cleveland (loved IABC Cleveland get togethers). Also love Cleveland Institute of Art, Westside Market, Cleveland Parks, Severance Hall, Chagrin Falls...can you tell I love Cleveland? What a smart way to put it…finding your inner girlfriend. I’m married but you know every now and then I feel the need to be a little special in that “girlfriend kind of way” and stop being the mom-nagging-teen or wife-nagging-husband-to-pick-up-socks person.

By the way, I’m not from Cleveland but, due to marriage, left my home town of Toronto to live in Cleveland (Shaker Heights) for 4 years. My friends in T.O. were totally baffled when I’d rant about how much I LOVED Cleveland (and still do). Some of the most enjoyable years of being a mommy and career gal in PR was in Cleveland (loved IABC Cleveland get togethers). Also love Cleveland Institute of Art, Westside Market, Cleveland Parks, Severance Hall, Chagrin Falls…can you tell I love Cleveland?

]]> By: chrissyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/11/15/overdue/#comment-14476 chrissy Tue, 17 Nov 2009 18:23:55 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4897#comment-14476 I'm from cleveland :) love that little gem of the earth! I’m from cleveland :) love that little gem of the earth!

]]> By: momma sunshinehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/11/15/overdue/#comment-14473 momma sunshine Tue, 17 Nov 2009 15:35:26 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4897#comment-14473 CBG and I are almost always alone when we're together (granted, it's only every other weekend, and would be different if we lived in the same city). I love being able to take off my "mama coat" and just be someone's girlfriend and lover for a while. It's made our relationship strong, being able to have that time to just devote to one another. CBG and I are almost always alone when we’re together (granted, it’s only every other weekend, and would be different if we lived in the same city). I love being able to take off my “mama coat” and just be someone’s girlfriend and lover for a while. It’s made our relationship strong, being able to have that time to just devote to one another.

]]> By: Haleyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/11/15/overdue/#comment-14467 Haley Tue, 17 Nov 2009 05:46:48 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4897#comment-14467 awww.. cute! awww.. cute!

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