Comments on: Flying http://mssinglemama.com/2009/11/05/flying/ Single Mom Dating, Love, and Life Advice Sat, 20 Mar 2010 23:48:20 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: arscuore http://mssinglemama.com/2009/11/05/flying/#comment-14284 arscuore Sun, 08 Nov 2009 19:47:45 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4853#comment-14284 I think some of us carry our anger because we think it makes us more interesting... Just a theory. My difficulty is letting go of the anger I have for my ex over the way he ignores our son (broken promises, the whole deal). It is now, a year later, starting to have a devastating affect on my little boy. I keep reading about forgiveness. Hard to do when the mama bear reflex rears her head. I think some of us carry our anger because we think it makes us more interesting… Just a theory.

My difficulty is letting go of the anger I have for my ex over the way he ignores our son (broken promises, the whole deal). It is now, a year later, starting to have a devastating affect on my little boy. I keep reading about forgiveness. Hard to do when the mama bear reflex rears her head.

]]> By: Amyinbc http://mssinglemama.com/2009/11/05/flying/#comment-14177 Amyinbc Sat, 07 Nov 2009 03:58:35 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4853#comment-14177 With your family history you may want to talk to your doctor about anti-depressants. It seems to me your parents both had depressive tendencies which unfortunately can be passed down. I would know. My parents were also depressive when I was growing up and my brother killed himself at 20. With counseling, medication and a healthy outlook (and the constant need to keep happy) I like to think I have overcome the family curse. I too liked to blame my parents for the person I was until I was older and realized they did the best they could and therefore so should I... Hoping there are brighter days ahead of you :) With your family history you may want to talk to your doctor about anti-depressants. It seems to me your parents both had depressive tendencies which unfortunately can be passed down. I would know. My parents were also depressive when I was growing up and my brother killed himself at 20.

With counseling, medication and a healthy outlook (and the constant need to keep happy) I like to think I have overcome the family curse.

I too liked to blame my parents for the person I was until I was older and realized they did the best they could and therefore so should I…

Hoping there are brighter days ahead of you :)

]]> By: Yvonne http://mssinglemama.com/2009/11/05/flying/#comment-14158 Yvonne Fri, 06 Nov 2009 17:56:32 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4853#comment-14158 I have so much baggage....not just from my failed marriage but from my childhood as well. I grew up with an alcoholic father and a depressed mother. The youngest of four, I pretty much was left to fend for myself. We were very poor but I am grateful for my parents hard work. We were never without the basic necessities-food/shelter. We grew up however, without any warmth-hugs/kisses/words of encouragement. Every weekend was the same for as long as I could remember. Coming home from school on friday afternoon..my dad would be drinking. So friday and saturday would be an all out war on the homefront. Yelling, Fighting, Crying, Doors Slammed and then Sunday morning my mom would spend the day in bed depressed. By Monday it was back to normal...as if the weekend never happened. Except by Friday...it would start all over again. My father is sober now and has been for the past 15 years. My parents are still married. But that way of living affected my siblings and I. We were never exposed to what a normal loving relationship was supposed to be. Suffice to say, my three siblings and I have all been divorced. We all married men who were either alcoholic-mentally/physically/emotionally abusive-controlling. With the exception of my brother who is the aggressor in his relationships. My point..I don't even know if I have one. I guess I'm just overwhelmed by the amount of baggage that I carry. I have yet to be in a healthy relationship...My therapist says that because of my upbringing I don't get close enough to my partners..which was a good thing because I finally did leave my abusive marriage before it could have damaged my young kids. So walls, I have nothing but walls and baggage. And i'm still that scared little girl that hid in the closet every weekend. :( I have so much baggage….not just from my failed marriage but from my childhood as well. I grew up with an alcoholic father and a depressed mother. The youngest of four, I pretty much was left to fend for myself. We were very poor but I am grateful for my parents hard work. We were never without the basic necessities-food/shelter. We grew up however, without any warmth-hugs/kisses/words of encouragement. Every weekend was the same for as long as I could remember. Coming home from school on friday afternoon..my dad would be drinking. So friday and saturday would be an all out war on the homefront. Yelling, Fighting, Crying, Doors Slammed and then Sunday morning my mom would spend the day in bed depressed. By Monday it was back to normal…as if the weekend never happened. Except by Friday…it would start all over again.

My father is sober now and has been for the past 15 years. My parents are still married. But that way of living affected my siblings and I. We were never exposed to what a normal loving relationship was supposed to be. Suffice to say, my three siblings and I have all been divorced. We all married men who were either alcoholic-mentally/physically/emotionally abusive-controlling. With the exception of my brother who is the aggressor in his relationships.

My point..I don’t even know if I have one. I guess I’m just overwhelmed by the amount of baggage that I carry. I have yet to be in a healthy relationship…My therapist says that because of my upbringing I don’t get close enough to my partners..which was a good thing because I finally did leave my abusive marriage before it could have damaged my young kids. So walls, I have nothing but walls and baggage. And i’m still that scared little girl that hid in the closet every weekend. :(

]]> By: Mel http://mssinglemama.com/2009/11/05/flying/#comment-14157 Mel Fri, 06 Nov 2009 16:59:06 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4853#comment-14157 Hi, I am new to you. Yesterday, I was looking for a quote regarding President obama's single mother and your page popped up in the google search. Thank you so much for posting it . I had to tell off this "brotha" because he said the single mother movement failed miserably .I reminded him that we are doing quite fine especially if the first multi-ethnic president came out of single parent household...Before getting off my soap box, I left him with the you-tube clip you provided. I wondered why some men would condemn women for excelling at a job some men obviously didn't want. hmph! Now for the comment for today's post. I currently work as a flight attendant for a legacy carrier - and my motto is this : "if we want to take off and soar we have to leave the baggage behind" :-)...Wonderful thought-provoking blog! Hi, I am new to you. Yesterday, I was looking for a quote regarding President obama’s single mother and your page popped up in the google search. Thank you so much for posting it . I had to tell off this “brotha” because he said the single mother movement failed miserably .I reminded him that we are doing quite fine especially if the first multi-ethnic president came out of single parent household…Before getting off my soap box, I left him with the you-tube clip you provided. I wondered why some men would condemn women for excelling at a job some men obviously didn’t want. hmph!

Now for the comment for today’s post. I currently work as a flight attendant for a legacy carrier – and my motto is this : “if we want to take off and soar we have to leave the baggage behind” :-) …Wonderful thought-provoking blog!

]]> By: Jenna Jean http://mssinglemama.com/2009/11/05/flying/#comment-14156 Jenna Jean Fri, 06 Nov 2009 15:47:32 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4853#comment-14156 I lived in Boulder for 18 years, it was the most beautiful place in the entire world. Trust fund hippies make the world a better place. http://www.ifeelyaophelia.com Jenna Jean I lived in Boulder for 18 years, it was the most beautiful place in the entire world. Trust fund hippies make the world a better place.

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]]> By: Courtney http://mssinglemama.com/2009/11/05/flying/#comment-14150 Courtney Fri, 06 Nov 2009 05:19:25 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4853#comment-14150 I agree completely!! Life is too short to sweat the small stuff and harbor anger. We should all live life to the fullest everyday. I agree completely!! Life is too short to sweat the small stuff and harbor anger. We should all live life to the fullest everyday.

]]> By: T http://mssinglemama.com/2009/11/05/flying/#comment-14149 T Fri, 06 Nov 2009 03:57:27 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4853#comment-14149 Amen to that sister. *off to get some sleep* Amen to that sister.

*off to get some sleep*

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