I have spent the entire afternoon drafting this post, deleting it and then writing it again. I can’t find the words so I am just going to tell you… last week I accepted an offer to go back to work full-time.
I would explain but I deleted it all.
This is just such a tremendously personal decision. The men in my life have come and gone and eventually so will Benjamin, but the one thing that has and always will be a part of me is my career and my education. I tried staying and working at home and now I know that I am just not cut out for it… in the end I was spending less time with Benjamin, the stress and pressures of making it work were spilling into my relationship with John and this blog, my favorite thing on the planet even began to feel like a burden.
Then a job offer came from a company moving into the future of new media and led by a creative director who has a vision, clear direction and a tremendous amount of passion. I couldn’t refuse because passing up this kind of an opportunity felt like it would be a huge mistake.
So there it is. My big news.
The day I found out I took Benjamin to visit the best Montessori school in the city and signed him up. Miraculously, they have openings and by enrolling him there I have realized a dream I never thought possible. I will be able to provide him with an education, to give him something no one will ever be able to take away.
Next up… a new apartment or maybe a house?
To all of you who held me up and carried me through the last four months of this adventure by purchasing my eBook and my New Leaf necklaces, thank you from the bottom of my heart – and don’t worry, I’m not going anywhere…
now, back to blogging about the fun stuff!
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Knowing my days of freedom were numbered, Benjamin and I jumped in the car last week and drove seven hours to see his Aunt Anna and Uncle Ryan in Charlottesville, Virgnia.
It was here, in Thomas Jefferson’s treasured town
that Sir Benjamin took his first real poop on the potty. The bribe? An orange cape and a sword.
After spending an entire day terrorizing the people of Charlottesville
storming the walls of their art centers
defeating their playground designed for big kids
and making just about everyone we saw smile, Sir Benjamin spent the night with Uncle Ryan while Anna and I went shopping. On Saturday morning we headed out into the country for some hay bail jumping
That turned into hay bail wrestling.
Some animal petting
That turned into camera training. This is one of Benjamin’s first pictures…
And then it was my turn to get a few of Benjamin who now loves making funny faces at the camera.
And then we nearly lost ourselves in the corn maze.
Finally, a few days and many more little adventures later we were home.
To our little big city that has given us both everything we could ever dream of having.
Thanks to all of you…
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What matters is you are happy! Congrats
Alaina –
CONGRATULATIONS! I’m very excited for you! It sounds by the way things are falling into place that this is a decision that was meant to be. And you are so right, when you give your child an education, no one can ever take that away from him (btw – I have very fond memories of pre-school and Kindergarten at my Montessori, he’s going to love it).
I know this was a hard decision for you to make but it sounds like you’re excited about it and the timing couldn’t be better.
Congrats to you (and Benjamin!)
Congrats on the new job and getting Benjamin into a Montessori School. I sent my daughter to a Montessori Preschool and it was wonderful, she learned so much!
Cheers to changes to come!
Great news! Although, not nearly as exciting or as dramatic that I thought it would be.
Everything will work out lovely.
At least you had the courage to try, most people would not, and always wonder “what if”. They say everything happens for a reason, so perhaps you would not have received this new job opportunity if you had never quit the other one.
Wow. Good for you. Sounds like a fabulous opportunity and looking forward to hearing about it and your new adventure. Inspiration to all us single Moms!
congrats! on the next exciting chapter of your life. thanks for sharing it with us. hugs to you and benjamin!
Congrats!!! Benjamin will love his new school and making lots of new friends. There will be tough days, as always, but you are giving him something that I think is even more important than an education at this age — a little independence. Very important when raising little men! Enjoy these exciting changes!
Only you know what’s right for you! Congrats on making a choice that feels good to you.
Hey, at least you’ve tried it and know that it’s not right for you at the moment. Congratulations on the job.
I must admit, after all the drama, this is kind of a yawner. So you’re going back to work full-time? It”s what the rest of us do everyday.
No. She quit her old job, went out on a limb and worked on her own and then, landed a new job. That is NOT what the rest of us do ever day.
Geez. And you’re the one who told her not to get engaged in the last post.
Just to be clear, I’m not referring to her “going out on a limb and working on her own”. I’m just referring to her announcement that she’s going back to work. Admittedly my expectations were that there was going to be a more grandious announcement, like Carrie pointed out above.
First of all, I love that you used the word “miraculously” when describing the openings at Benjamin’s future school.
Girl, don’t you know things happen exactly the way they’re supposed to?!?
I’m thrilled for you. It sounds like it was too good to pass up!
And of all the fabulous pics above, that first one of Benjamin in his orange cape is TO. DIE. FOR!
You’re good Mama. I’m so excited about you and Benjamin’s new adventure!
xoxo … love you, woman.
Congrats woman!
Congrats!! Soooo happy for you. All the best in your new job
Congratulations! What an awesome new adventure! And it must feel wonderful to be granted the opportunity to open more new doors for Benjamin. Good for you guys, I love good news!!!
awesome, awesome news! i always believe that the best is yet to come!
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This is such an adorable post! I am so glad for you, Benjamin and your future!
Charlottesville is a gorgeous town. I miss it!
I am so happy for you.
so happy for you! you ROCK at whatever you do!
as long as you and Benjamin are happy
sooo excited that you were able to get him into school. and a new apartment/house?! so exciting!!!
much <3
Congratulations Alaina!
You’r amazing Alaina. Keep up the good work, as I’m sure you’ll be great at whatever you do! Much love!
WOw! That’s super! You do what you have to to survive.. We all have to
x
Proud of you.. as it’s not easy
Congratulations Alaina! I hope everything with the transition back to work goes well for you. Good luck!
This is great news. Sounds like it was meant to be.
As long as your happy and Benjamin is happy, that’s all that matters. Good luck!
xo!
In the future, we will all learn about new co-workers via “the social media”. When do you start?
Congrats, sister! If blogging isn’t working as a full-time job, clearly new media is a very good alternative. May you enjoy many years of happy Web 2.0ing!
Congratulations, it sounds like a great opportunity! Very excited for you.
Well the new job sounds so exciting and fantastic for you… how can we not be happy and say congrats!
And next, you were so close and didn’t get this far south in Virginia?
j/k – glad it was such an awesome trip. Good luck with the new adventure… we want to hear all about it, of course!
Congratulations!
HI! Im a brand new fan and very soon to be single mom! (39 weeks pregnant with my first, a boy!)…. I’ve been following your blog for about a month now and love it!
Anyways, its so sad and even sexist that when woman say they have “news”… you automatically think (A) she’s pregnant, or (B) she’s getting married ^_^ Talk about a cliff hanger for a week! However I’m very happy that this is your news and I wish you and that cutie of yours (Benjamin… not that anything’s wrong with Bear) all the best
INSANE! FLIPPING AMAZING! Congrats my friend…
Congrats, Alaina!!!! Soooo excited for you!!
congrats! keep doing what makes you and Benjamin happy! it’s the only way to go!
Congrats on your new job! I’m very happy for you! These are GREAT shots and the entire post made me want to go somewhere like Virginia … where the cornfields roam …
Can’t wait to hear how your new job turns out.
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