Comments on: Bikini Wearing Waitresses http://mssinglemama.com/2009/09/16/bikini-wearing-waitresses/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Tue, 14 Feb 2012 00:59:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Anonymoushttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/09/16/bikini-wearing-waitresses/#comment-16599 Anonymous Thu, 25 Mar 2010 21:45:07 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4585#comment-16599 Who are you to say what a real woman is??! You think you are a real women because you judge those women?? Before you judge, know their story. Who are you to say what a real woman is??! You think you are a real women because you judge those women?? Before you judge, know their story.

]]> By: Vijay Eswaranhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/09/16/bikini-wearing-waitresses/#comment-13349 Vijay Eswaran Tue, 13 Oct 2009 07:28:24 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4585#comment-13349 That's a really cool post. The title caught my attention for sure.:) That’s a really cool post. The title caught my attention for sure.:)

]]> By: Arugula rosehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/09/16/bikini-wearing-waitresses/#comment-13133 Arugula rose Fri, 02 Oct 2009 06:02:46 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4585#comment-13133 Nobody's talking about forbidding anyone from doing anything. I think the conversation is about taking your own values seriously. If you believe that it is sexually humiliating to women then you probably don't want to date a guy who has no problem with it. It's about respecting your own values, not about imposing them on someone else. Nobody’s talking about forbidding anyone from doing anything. I think the conversation is about taking your own values seriously. If you believe that it is sexually humiliating to women then you probably don’t want to date a guy who has no problem with it. It’s about respecting your own values, not about imposing them on someone else.

]]> By: Melissahttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/09/16/bikini-wearing-waitresses/#comment-13119 Melissa Thu, 01 Oct 2009 14:44:17 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4585#comment-13119 This little pep talk was EXACTLY what I needed to read and I am so glad I read it yesterday -- the day before the guy I've been talking to cancelled on me for a THIRD time. "Want to reschedule?" "No. Enjoy your day." And I don't care if it was unfair because maybe he did have a valid conflict today. But, once, maybe even twice, but three times? Sorry, my friend. I have listened to enough excuses to last me a lifetime. This little pep talk was EXACTLY what I needed to read and I am so glad I read it yesterday — the day before the guy I’ve been talking to cancelled on me for a THIRD time. “Want to reschedule?” “No. Enjoy your day.” And I don’t care if it was unfair because maybe he did have a valid conflict today. But, once, maybe even twice, but three times? Sorry, my friend. I have listened to enough excuses to last me a lifetime.

]]> By: Jimmy Ricehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/09/16/bikini-wearing-waitresses/#comment-13084 Jimmy Rice Sun, 27 Sep 2009 22:24:03 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4585#comment-13084 Go girl. Love this blog. It's strangely heart-warming. Though I am not sure I'm the kind of fan you are looking for as two weeks ago I got a waitresses number on a first date. Eek. In my defence, the woman I was with had just told me she suffered from depression. It's not the depression I'm against - it's her judgement for telling me on a first date. I blogged about it anyway, check it out if you get a min: http://plentymorefishoutofwater.blogspot.com/2009/09/date-with-depression.html Go girl. Love this blog. It’s strangely heart-warming. Though I am not sure I’m the kind of fan you are looking for as two weeks ago I got a waitresses number on a first date. Eek. In my defence, the woman I was with had just told me she suffered from depression. It’s not the depression I’m against – it’s her judgement for telling me on a first date. I blogged about it anyway, check it out if you get a min:
http://plentymorefishoutofwater.blogspot.com/2009/09/date-with-depression.html

]]> By: Rayhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/09/16/bikini-wearing-waitresses/#comment-12935 Ray Mon, 21 Sep 2009 17:53:39 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4585#comment-12935 This is exactly what I needed to hear..thank you SO much for putting this out there. In my mind I *know* I should walk away, but it's one thing to know it, and another thing to actually do it. Thank you thank you! This is exactly what I needed to hear..thank you SO much for putting this out there. In my mind I *know* I should walk away, but it’s one thing to know it, and another thing to actually do it. Thank you thank you!

]]> By: Limey6http://mssinglemama.com/2009/09/16/bikini-wearing-waitresses/#comment-12927 Limey6 Mon, 21 Sep 2009 04:38:46 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4585#comment-12927 Well now there might very well be degrees of involvement in the adult entertainment industry, but the bottom line is that a Hooters waitress is involved in the same industry as a lap dancer or adult film star, and they are not very different. If you think it just happens to be somewhere you hang out, i am sorry but you are sadly mistaken. The adult entretainment industry is huge, and very interested in maximising profits by targeting customers, that means you, through subtle and some not-so-subtle means. Obviously this advertising is aimed at you, not your ex girlfriend, and she might have trouble with you going to a Hooters bar, because she might just see it for what it is, part and parcel of the same industry as porn and prostitutes. Having had interactions myself with many women in this line of work (if you must know, it was of the "place your hands behind your back" veriety of interaction) most of them would not choose to be doing it if there was a viable option to get out of it, unfortunatly by the time they realize their options to get out are limited, they quite often have a nasty dose of something which won't go away, or reguarly enjoy a dose of something, which becomes a problem which won't go away. So while you and your buddies are having a good time, someone, probably your waitress, is not. Well now there might very well be degrees of involvement in the adult entertainment industry, but the bottom line is that a Hooters waitress is involved in the same industry as a lap dancer or adult film star, and they are not very different. If you think it just happens to be somewhere you hang out, i am sorry but you are sadly mistaken. The adult entretainment industry is huge, and very interested in maximising profits by targeting customers, that means you, through subtle and some not-so-subtle means. Obviously this advertising is aimed at you, not your ex girlfriend, and she might have trouble with you going to a Hooters bar, because she might just see it for what it is, part and parcel of the same industry as porn and prostitutes. Having had interactions myself with many women in this line of work (if you must know, it was of the “place your hands behind your back” veriety of interaction) most of them would not choose to be doing it if there was a viable option to get out of it, unfortunatly by the time they realize their options to get out are limited, they quite often have a nasty dose of something which won’t go away, or reguarly enjoy a dose of something, which becomes a problem which won’t go away. So while you and your buddies are having a good time, someone, probably your waitress, is not.

]]> By: lisa the waitresshttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/09/16/bikini-wearing-waitresses/#comment-12918 lisa the waitress Sat, 19 Sep 2009 17:21:35 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4585#comment-12918 amen! amen!

]]> By: Yvonnehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/09/16/bikini-wearing-waitresses/#comment-12917 Yvonne Sat, 19 Sep 2009 17:02:06 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4585#comment-12917 That's simple for me...I'd have to go with him!!! And if he were ALL those things, he wouldn't have a problem with it. Let me just say this....and I know I'm going to come across as stuck-up but hell, I don't care. I'm 5'9...120lbs...34d-24-34...even after having 2 kids, I look just as good as I did before kids (granted my boobs are fake, so what!! lol) Anyway, I'm not insecure or jealous, it's a matter of respect. However, if it is that important to him and he is that great...I will have no problem tagging along on his boy's night out. I can be just as fun as one of the guys...hell I'll even get dances and buy the first round. And you know what, if he is the man of my dreams...he will be satisfied with that solution. That’s simple for me…I’d have to go with him!!! And if he were ALL those things, he wouldn’t have a problem with it.

Let me just say this….and I know I’m going to come across as stuck-up but hell, I don’t care. I’m 5’9…120lbs…34d-24-34…even after having 2 kids, I look just as good as I did before kids (granted my boobs are fake, so what!! lol) Anyway, I’m not insecure or jealous, it’s a matter of respect. However, if it is that important to him and he is that great…I will have no problem tagging along on his boy’s night out. I can be just as fun as one of the guys…hell I’ll even get dances and buy the first round. And you know what, if he is the man of my dreams…he will be satisfied with that solution.

]]> By: Kathttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/09/16/bikini-wearing-waitresses/#comment-12916 Kat Sat, 19 Sep 2009 15:56:17 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4585#comment-12916 I'm really curious about something now. For those of you who say it's about respecting your wishes, that you wouldn't settle for a man that went to places like Hooters, a bikini bar, or a strip club with his friends on guy's night out, if you asked him to stop or not go to those places, did you know before you started officially dating him, that on guy's night out, these were the types of places that he went to? For example of what I'm trying to get at, let's say that you have a large circle of friends, there have been some big friend parties, a bbq maybe, a 4th of July party, or a New Years party with this big circle of friends, and this guy is 1 of the guys in the circle of friends, you do know him, maybe not super well because you only see him at these big parties and get-togethers, but you do know that most of the guys in the circle of friends have a guy's night out like once a month, and that on that night, they either go to Hooters to eat wings and watch the game, or to a bikini bar for drinks and just general guy hanging out time, or they go to a strip club when it's 1 of their birthdays or something, and then either he asks you out, or some of your friends in this circle thought the 2 of you would be good together, would you agree to a date with him if you knew that he went to these places on guy's night out? Would it make any difference to you if say for example, 1 or 2 of your really good girlfriends was dating some of these guys that he's friends with, and the guys that your girlfriends are dating go to these places together and your friends don't think it's a big deal because their guy always comes home to them at night, they have a great relationship? I'm just super curious if it's all or nothing with those of you who said things like "Any man who wouldn’t walk through hell to have me wasn’t worth having" ? What if this guy was absolutely amazing? What if every other detail about him was everything that you have ever wanted and desired in a man, what if he treated you and your kid(s) like gold? Like they were his own kids? What if the guy was the kind of guy who would take his coat off and lay it on a puddle and help you walk across it so that your shoes didn't get wet and ruined? Really, what if this guy is absolutely perfect for you and your kid(s), like absolutely so stinking perfect and your heart practically stops when he says your name, if his kiss sends you to the moon, if he loves every inch of you flaws and all, if this is the truest and most pure love you have ever known and he says to you that you are the one, wants to spend the rest of his life with you, what if he wants to take you home to meet the folks, what if he would take a bullet for you and your kid(s), what if he would lay down his life for you? What if he's all of those things and going to these types of places on guy's night out is the ONLY "thing" he does that you don't like? Would you really tell him to stop doing it and if he doesn't, it's over? I’m really curious about something now.
For those of you who say it’s about respecting your wishes, that you wouldn’t settle for a man that went to places like Hooters, a bikini bar, or a strip club with his friends on guy’s night out, if you asked him to stop or not go to those places, did you know before you started officially dating him, that on guy’s night out, these were the types of places that he went to?

For example of what I’m trying to get at, let’s say that you have a large circle of friends, there have been some big friend parties, a bbq maybe, a 4th of July party, or a New Years party with this big circle of friends, and this guy is 1 of the guys in the circle of friends, you do know him, maybe not super well because you only see him at these big parties and get-togethers, but you do know that most of the guys in the circle of friends have a guy’s night out like once a month, and that on that night, they either go to Hooters to eat wings and watch the game, or to a bikini bar for drinks and just general guy hanging out time, or they go to a strip club when it’s 1 of their birthdays or something, and then either he asks you out, or some of your friends in this circle thought the 2 of you would be good together, would you agree to a date with him if you knew that he went to these places on guy’s night out?

Would it make any difference to you if say for example, 1 or 2 of your really good girlfriends was dating some of these guys that he’s friends with, and the guys that your girlfriends are dating go to these places together and your friends don’t think it’s a big deal because their guy always comes home to them at night, they have a great relationship?

I’m just super curious if it’s all or nothing with those of you who said things like “Any man who wouldn’t walk through hell to have me wasn’t worth having” ?

What if this guy was absolutely amazing?
What if every other detail about him was everything that you have ever wanted and desired in a man, what if he treated you and your kid(s) like gold? Like they were his own kids? What if the guy was the kind of guy who would take his coat off and lay it on a puddle and help you walk across it so that your shoes didn’t get wet and ruined?
Really, what if this guy is absolutely perfect for you and your kid(s), like absolutely so stinking perfect and your heart practically stops when he says your name, if his kiss sends you to the moon, if he loves every inch of you flaws and all, if this is the truest and most pure love you have ever known and he says to you that you are the one, wants to spend the rest of his life with you, what if he wants to take you home to meet the folks, what if he would take a bullet for you and your kid(s), what if he would lay down his life for you?
What if he’s all of those things and going to these types of places on guy’s night out is the ONLY “thing” he does that you don’t like?
Would you really tell him to stop doing it and if he doesn’t, it’s over?

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