Comments on: The Trip Story, Part 4

By: Melissa

Melissa — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 13:35:25 +0000

Alaina – I think you do an awesome job of attempting to have balance in your life. I often wonder about these people who leave negative feedback or comments, if they have a life outside their computer. Because those that do, can totally sympathize with you/your life. Your son has been mobile and needing constant engaging because his brain is a giant sponge. This is only going to get worse as they get older, so your time will be spread even more thin than it already is. Keep up the good work, because you are inspiration to all single mothers, or atleast this one.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 04:13:47 +0000

Awesome story! I’m so glad that he didn’t let you push him away — you guys sound so great for each other.

By: Katherine (SOLO dot MOM)

Katherine (SOLO dot MOM) — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 17:18:24 +0000

These are great photos and I love the way you share about the tension and the role it played in your relationship with John Bear.

And umm… did I miss something? What manipulation? I love coming back to hear more…

By: Jen C.

Jen C. — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 15:42:43 +0000

That picture of Benjamin learning his “job” is absolutely precious and hilarious.

By: littlemansmom

littlemansmom — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 14:10:39 +0000

I think that you’ve got a VERY smart man there sweetheartn and I think that you are doing just wonderfully. I know that my road with TBM has been bumpy and a weeeeee bit scary….but totally worth it

ps….Benjamin looks totally ADORABLE!!!!!! and I finally got that care package ready to go…I’m such a slacker!

By: BK Mom

BK Mom — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 13:17:21 +0000

Doesn’t it seem like these kinds of mishaps always occur in some kind of sequential order, within the span of one or two weeks? You’d think that after living our wholes lives with these kinds of stress, we’d have learned how to handle it! The ‘maybe we should just be apart for a while’ tactic is all to familiar, even though my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 yrs. I think it also has to do with the ever-present insecurity that, even though he’s stuck around this long, he still has issue with the fact that he inherited someone else’s (sometimes challenging) child when entering into this relationship. By saying that, I feel like part of me wants him to reassure me by saying ‘no, that’s ridiculous, I’m not going anywhere’ cause that’s what I need to be reminded of. Also, there is some part of me that is repeating the behavior of my son’s father (admitting this is AWFUL!) by splitting just when things get a little tough…in any case, I guess it also takes a long time to figure out that we need to stop playing silly games, and just focus on what we are lucky enough to have in our lives right now. Sabotage never gets you anywhere! Good luck.

By: Steph

Steph — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 10:43:48 +0000

As a single mother of 4, I just love to live vicariously through you! Thanks for giving me hope that there may be a man out there who isn’t afraid of 4 kids and committing to our entire crazy, wonderful life.

By: Jo Ann

Jo Ann — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 06:10:38 +0000

Alaina, you completely draw me in with your eloquent writing. I could read and read all night……John sounds like a wonderful man.
I’m glad things are working out for you. It was so good seeing pics of Anna and the family. Everyone looks wonderful!

By: karen

karen — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 05:11:38 +0000

Oh, he is absolutely great! You all looked awesome, and I’m glad everything worked out.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 03:18:37 +0000

I completely understand the running away conversations! I do the same exact thing with my boyfriend. Am currently doing it, actually. It isn’t good. And it’s part of my subconscious trying to fulfill the failure I feel is imminent for my dating life. It isn’t good. A habit I’m trying to break.