Comments on: Trippin’, Part 2 http://mssinglemama.com/2009/08/13/trippin-part-2/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Thu, 24 May 2012 13:52:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Betty Smorgashttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/08/13/trippin-part-2/#comment-15303 Betty Smorgas Mon, 18 Jan 2010 18:58:55 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4278#comment-15303 Hey I know that guy! He has a small pee pee. Dumped him. Hey I know that guy! He has a small pee pee. Dumped him.

]]> By: Elliehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/08/13/trippin-part-2/#comment-13907 Ellie Sat, 31 Oct 2009 04:47:19 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4278#comment-13907 Famejane you obviously have not gone through anything that all of the other single moms have gone through who are reading this blog. Your arrogance in saying that maybe "they've been smart enough not to make mistakes" shows that you have no idea what it would be like to go through single motherhood. I don't think people like you should be given any credit or be dishing out any advice because you obviously are speaking to an audience of single mom's that you have no experience with. Thank you for coming to a website that we find support and encouragement and telling us that you think you should be giving us advice. I think you are in the wrong place. Famejane you obviously have not gone through anything that all of the other single moms have gone through who are reading this blog. Your arrogance in saying that maybe “they’ve been smart enough not to make mistakes” shows that you have no idea what it would be like to go through single motherhood. I don’t think people like you should be given any credit or be dishing out any advice because you obviously are speaking to an audience of single mom’s that you have no experience with. Thank you for coming to a website that we find support and encouragement and telling us that you think you should be giving us advice. I think you are in the wrong place.

]]> By: Elliehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/08/13/trippin-part-2/#comment-13906 Ellie Sat, 31 Oct 2009 04:38:49 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4278#comment-13906 I can relate to this article completely because I am a single mom, and I guess it might have a different tone to anyone who isn't one. This is in response to Melissa's comment, I see how you might have taken this post the wrong way, but in no way is this article about looking down on single women who do not have children. If anything, i think it's common for a single mom to just want to protect other women who have not been pregnant yet to choose wisely! This is not a generalization that all "childless women" are superficial by any means. All we (single moms) are trying to say, is that we may have fallen for men that we thought were perfect for us at the time, but never thought about how they would do in hard situations. The fact that you already do not choose boyfriends based on aesthetics is just one more step ahead for you to choosing a great man. I think we all know a girl who has/is/was dating a guy that is a total loser, but she ended up with him because she was attracted to his looks, status, etc. but didn't really think about what's on the inside. That's who we want to have a talk to, a lot of times it was us in the past. I know that there were so many guys that I passed over and wouldn't even give the time of day because I didn't find them attractive by my standards at the time. After my experiences, now I wish I would've given some of those "nice guys" a chance. I can relate to this article completely because I am a single mom, and I guess it might have a different tone to anyone who isn’t one. This is in response to Melissa’s comment, I see how you might have taken this post the wrong way, but in no way is this article about looking down on single women who do not have children. If anything, i think it’s common for a single mom to just want to protect other women who have not been pregnant yet to choose wisely! This is not a generalization that all “childless women” are superficial by any means. All we (single moms) are trying to say, is that we may have fallen for men that we thought were perfect for us at the time, but never thought about how they would do in hard situations. The fact that you already do not choose boyfriends based on aesthetics is just one more step ahead for you to choosing a great man. I think we all know a girl who has/is/was dating a guy that is a total loser, but she ended up with him because she was attracted to his looks, status, etc. but didn’t really think about what’s on the inside. That’s who we want to have a talk to, a lot of times it was us in the past. I know that there were so many guys that I passed over and wouldn’t even give the time of day because I didn’t find them attractive by my standards at the time. After my experiences, now I wish I would’ve given some of those “nice guys” a chance.

]]> By: JenFreehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/08/13/trippin-part-2/#comment-12477 JenFree Sat, 29 Aug 2009 06:36:35 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4278#comment-12477 I love it. Famejane has no clue what she's talking about. Or more importantly, what you're talking about. I think you said it perfectly. I love it. Famejane has no clue what she’s talking about. Or more importantly, what you’re talking about. I think you said it perfectly.

]]> By: The Trip Story: Part 2http://mssinglemama.com/2009/08/13/trippin-part-2/#comment-12105 The Trip Story: Part 2 Thu, 20 Aug 2009 02:43:21 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4278#comment-12105 [...] Trippin’ Part 2 [...] [...] Trippin’ Part 2 [...]

]]> By: FameSuehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/08/13/trippin-part-2/#comment-12048 FameSue Mon, 17 Aug 2009 20:08:29 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4278#comment-12048 Fame Jane: I recommend you find another blog to read, pronto. You just insulted me beyond words. Fame Jane: I recommend you find another blog to read, pronto. You just insulted me beyond words.

]]> By: famejanehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/08/13/trippin-part-2/#comment-12042 famejane Mon, 17 Aug 2009 16:19:26 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4278#comment-12042 I get tired of the anti-man sentiment on this blog. Whether a guy is rich, 6 feet tall, has blue eyes, whispers sweet nothings in your ear or not, is no indication one way or another how decent of a person he is. I've had my heart broken by all sorts of men. How can you or anyone claim to have the keys to what kind of man is good for someone, or for making those kinds of judgments. I found this post rather obnoxious. Give some credit to the single girls. Maybe the fact that they are still single and childless is because they've been smart enough not to make mistakes. Maybe they should be the ones dishing out advice. I get tired of the anti-man sentiment on this blog. Whether a guy is rich, 6 feet tall, has blue eyes, whispers sweet nothings in your ear or not, is no indication one way or another how decent of a person he is. I’ve had my heart broken by all sorts of men. How can you or anyone claim to have the keys to what kind of man is good for someone, or for making those kinds of judgments. I found this post rather obnoxious. Give some credit to the single girls. Maybe the fact that they are still single and childless is because they’ve been smart enough not to make mistakes. Maybe they should be the ones dishing out advice.

]]> By: Emilyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/08/13/trippin-part-2/#comment-11965 Emily Sat, 15 Aug 2009 12:51:56 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4278#comment-11965 Some men just can't be good at playing Dad. I don't know, maybe my experience has made me too negative, but I think there are very few men out there who are cut out for monogamy and fatherhood. I have come to accept that it is just me and my son for now. I would love to provide him with siblings in the future but I will have to see if a trustworthy man comes along. In the meantime, my son doesn't NEED a father figure, because he is lavished with love. Any relationships I have are conducted entirely separately from him because I don't want him to introduce him to a man and then it all fall apart. I suppose it is more delicate because his father has never and will never be in his life. I used to want a Daddy for Tom more than anything else: Now I think we just live our life the way we do and if someone decent enters the picture, then that would be a huge bonus. I'm not holding my breath though... Some men just can’t be good at playing Dad. I don’t know, maybe my experience has made me too negative, but I think there are very few men out there who are cut out for monogamy and fatherhood. I have come to accept that it is just me and my son for now. I would love to provide him with siblings in the future but I will have to see if a trustworthy man comes along. In the meantime, my son doesn’t NEED a father figure, because he is lavished with love. Any relationships I have are conducted entirely separately from him because I don’t want him to introduce him to a man and then it all fall apart. I suppose it is more delicate because his father has never and will never be in his life.

I used to want a Daddy for Tom more than anything else: Now I think we just live our life the way we do and if someone decent enters the picture, then that would be a huge bonus. I’m not holding my breath though…

]]> By: Starhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/08/13/trippin-part-2/#comment-11964 Star Sat, 15 Aug 2009 12:49:19 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4278#comment-11964 In response to Kristen & Kelly...I do mean the bigger personality traits...I have always been a person that believes in truth and honesty, I have always been my authentic self no matter how uncool it may be, I have always stuck up for the wronged even if it goes against the grain, I make the decision that is morally "right" even if it means I will never "get rich quick," I have always been generous to a fault, trusting beyond when I should be, those are the things I am talking about. Through the years, those traits have made me Very Uncool but I can't help but be who I am. I went through my party days, trying out different lifestyles, made stupid decisions, but through it all, I have always been this person and I always will. I kept "looking for the potential" in my life partners and believing in the possibility of them achieving their "best self." Now, I see that a person's inner self is always there, it's just hard to see what that is when you haven't known a person their entire life. It's really hard to see through the person that they want people to think they are... In response to Kristen & Kelly…I do mean the bigger personality traits…I have always been a person that believes in truth and honesty, I have always been my authentic self no matter how uncool it may be, I have always stuck up for the wronged even if it goes against the grain, I make the decision that is morally “right” even if it means I will never “get rich quick,” I have always been generous to a fault, trusting beyond when I should be, those are the things I am talking about. Through the years, those traits have made me Very Uncool but I can’t help but be who I am. I went through my party days, trying out different lifestyles, made stupid decisions, but through it all, I have always been this person and I always will. I kept “looking for the potential” in my life partners and believing in the possibility of them achieving their “best self.” Now, I see that a person’s inner self is always there, it’s just hard to see what that is when you haven’t known a person their entire life. It’s really hard to see through the person that they want people to think they are…

]]> By: Kellyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/08/13/trippin-part-2/#comment-11952 Kelly Fri, 14 Aug 2009 20:04:43 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=4278#comment-11952 To the "whether people can change or not" point: As we grow older our behaviors and habits change, we mature into looking for more internal aspects of people and life than the superficial. However the basic personality of a person rarely changes. If the person is selfish and totally self-centered that probably will never change. Those people that everything happens TO them and it's never their fault will always be the victim in their own mind. On the flip side, those that are considerate of others, pleasant to be around will always be so. People grow out of the party stage (usually) and most of us come to grips that the world does not revolve around us at some point. Very, very few people are able to change their basic ingrained personality and those usually take a traumatic event. Sorry about the soapbox- just my two cents. I do believe that the right person is out there for everyone- you have to be willing to search without losing yourself in the process. Enjoy yourself and the life you make for yourself and the right person will fit in. To the “whether people can change or not” point: As we grow older our behaviors and habits change, we mature into looking for more internal aspects of people and life than the superficial. However the basic personality of a person rarely changes. If the person is selfish and totally self-centered that probably will never change. Those people that everything happens TO them and it’s never their fault will always be the victim in their own mind. On the flip side, those that are considerate of others, pleasant to be around will always be so. People grow out of the party stage (usually) and most of us come to grips that the world does not revolve around us at some point. Very, very few people are able to change their basic ingrained personality and those usually take a traumatic event. Sorry about the soapbox- just my two cents. I do believe that the right person is out there for everyone- you have to be willing to search without losing yourself in the process. Enjoy yourself and the life you make for yourself and the right person will fit in.

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