My concern is for their working kids. Don’t think for one minute that those kids aren’t on a tight production schedule where filming and getting footage is the most important thing in their life….they are directed, forced into a TV show that they may or may not want anything to do with. Not only that, but every single thing about their lives is public, including a DIVORCE which, in my reality, should and would remain a private thing. Kate and Jon’s children make a fine living for their parents — do you think those kids give a rats ass if they live in a 1.3 million dollar compound? NO. All they care about is the love of their parents and having them together to parent them. Not many marriages could withstand pubic scrutiny week after week of filming and meeting production deadlines and trust me, this is not fun and games, this is business, BIG BUSINESS. Kate and Jon have an organic chef, maids, nannies — they take care of the kids with a LOT OF HELP — help most families would only dream of. Those children are walking advertisements — everything is free for them. EVERYTHING. Do you think those kids give a rats ass if they’re dressed alike in designer clothing? NO. But I bet they care when they’re put to work and filming all day long into to night….and that is their schedule. Trust me.

Anybody who thinks that this is reality TV is sadly mistaken — this is scripted TV and those kids are working kids. Again, making a very fine living for their parents. Jon moves in to a million dollar apartment on the Upper West Side of NYC — think he could have found a cheaper place closer to the family compound? Those folks are LOADED….as in BIG $$$$$$. WHY? BEcause they chose to have a BIG family and then put their kids to work. Their POOR choice. Remember Kate is an RN, she knew what she was getting into with regards to fertility. Look at all the other big families in the USA — who’s helping them? What about all the single Mothers who struggle every single month — who’s helping them? IF Kate and Jon wanna be on TV and talk about raising kids, let them, but leave the kids to live their life out of the public eye. NOTHING good can come from this for them, nothing. Already they are living a very public divorce from the two people they love most — their Mom and Dad. Shame on Kate and Jon. Shame on TLC for producing a money making show off the backs of those innocent children who DON’T have a voice.

http://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/23/a-letter-to-the-other-woman/

My heart goes out to all of you. And no, you are not responsible for his actions. Cheaters are the Kings of denial.

I read Kate’s book. She admits to being controlling and at times evil to Jon, even before they had children, even before marriage problems set in. In her own words. So of course the scenes where she’s verbally abusing and belittling him are ‘real’. You could film my husband and I for 10 years straight and never hear one bit of that kind of verbal lashing. So I don’t buy that somehow their interactions were edited to appear as if Kate was verbally abusive. She just was.

I think the main issue isn’t who cheated first or worst – or even why – but that their marriage is in trouble, their kids’ emotions are in trouble – and yet they can’t even give up the money the network gives them long enough to help their kids in private, quietly, without fan fare. They turned their separation into a circus and they made this choice for their kids, too. I don’t buy that Kate is a noble, hardworking martyr of a single mother struggling along bravely. She’s still selling her children’s privacy for money. It’s just so fame-whorish I just feel ick inside every time I see her working on her own publicity and honing her image. Clearly she was told how to behave by either attorneys or her PR firm. It makes me so angry for those children who deserve so, so much better.

I’m so SICK of people trying to say “it takes two to tango” If I wanted to keep him from cheating, should I have had sex anyway – and then I could be held responsible for hurting my baby or miscarrying.

I took him back – and yes, I because quite the nagging, controling Kate. Why? Because after taking him back, he continued to act like a jerk, continued to keep other women on the sidelines. So…. according to him, and sadly, WOMEN with the same attitude, it’s my fault he cheated again, because I was such a bitch. Yes, I am resposible for taking him back…. I could have kicked him to the curb when he cheated the first time. Of course, then, I’d be accussed of not being capable of forgiveness, not being willing to work on things…. not understanding marriage is a committment, and that I need to – say it with me – take responsiblity for my part – you know – getting fat and pregnant and having complications, leaving me unattractive and unable to have sex.

Was I perfect? No. Did I deserve to be lied to, cheated on, decieved, and then BLAMED for it? HELL NO.