Comments on: Shedding http://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/21/shedding/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Thu, 24 May 2012 13:52:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Lizhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/21/shedding/#comment-10548 Liz Tue, 23 Jun 2009 22:21:36 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3839#comment-10548 It's very hard to slow down or pause and wait to get better instead of driving yourself into the ground, especially if for survival in the past you've just had to do that with no other choice. Or, if with chronic pain or disability, you have to learn how to function normally even through pain and to ignore those signals. which I say, with a raging sinus and ear infection from my office... this is a gentle reminder to me that I should go home and have some soup! 8-) I hope you feel better soon, and hang in there. one thing i find helpful is to plan little events to happen at particular times. There are only so many popsicles one can eat or baths one can take but if you kind of build up expectation then it gives something to look forward to. Another good event for me with bronchitis is checking the mail or walking outside for 2 minutes to pick a couple of flowers. the outside world becomes so amazing after having been cooped up and miserable! It's very hard to slow down or pause and wait to get better instead of driving yourself into the ground, especially if for survival in the past you've just had to do that with no other choice. Or, if with chronic pain or disability, you have to learn how to function normally even through pain and to ignore those signals.

which I say, with a raging sinus and ear infection from my office… this is a gentle reminder to me that I should go home and have some soup!
8-) I hope you feel better soon, and hang in there. one thing i find helpful is to plan little events to happen at particular times. There are only so many popsicles one can eat or baths one can take but if you kind of build up expectation then it gives something to look forward to. Another good event for me with bronchitis is checking the mail or walking outside for 2 minutes to pick a couple of flowers. the outside world becomes so amazing after having been cooped up and miserable!

]]> By: wyliekathttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/21/shedding/#comment-10546 wyliekat Tue, 23 Jun 2009 18:58:42 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3839#comment-10546 Forever is a notion we should never consider. Human brains aren't meant to understand it, because we try to quantify it - and quantifying forever is a good way to make things seem either boring or scary or scarily boring It's the emotional/mental equivalent to standing at the edge of the precipice and staring down into it to imagine what it'd feel like to jump. Nobody and nothing lasts forever, and not too many people are going to jump from the precipice. Forever is a notion we should never consider. Human brains aren't meant to understand it, because we try to quantify it – and quantifying forever is a good way to make things seem either boring or scary or scarily boring It's the emotional/mental equivalent to standing at the edge of the precipice and staring down into it to imagine what it'd feel like to jump. Nobody and nothing lasts forever, and not too many people are going to jump from the precipice.

]]> By: mssinglemamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/21/shedding/#comment-10535 mssinglemama Tue, 23 Jun 2009 02:33:04 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3839#comment-10535 This is so sweet, thank you so much for sharing. This is so sweet, thank you so much for sharing.

]]> By: mssinglemamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/21/shedding/#comment-10534 mssinglemama Tue, 23 Jun 2009 02:28:04 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3839#comment-10534 That is quite possibly the most accurate and insightful comment yet... you're absolutely right. Was thinking the same thing myself. Already - today, just no coming out of it - I am feeling a million times better. Can't wait until I'm 100%. That is quite possibly the most accurate and insightful comment yet… you're absolutely right. Was thinking the same thing myself. Already – today, just no coming out of it – I am feeling a million times better. Can't wait until I'm 100%.

]]> By: this new placehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/21/shedding/#comment-10533 this new place Tue, 23 Jun 2009 01:53:57 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3839#comment-10533 Until recently, the whole "forever" thing has freaked me out, after going through a horrid marriage and divorce. I figured I could just have someone in my life but keep up boundaries and stuff. Apparently, my plan didn't work because we now live together, with my two little ones. We can't imagine being apart. It's a feeling, one without fear for once, that is priceless and well worth giving up past plans. Until recently, the whole "forever" thing has freaked me out, after going through a horrid marriage and divorce. I figured I could just have someone in my life but keep up boundaries and stuff. Apparently, my plan didn't work because we now live together, with my two little ones. We can't imagine being apart. It's a feeling, one without fear for once, that is priceless and well worth giving up past plans.

]]> By: Rachelhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/21/shedding/#comment-10532 Rachel Tue, 23 Jun 2009 01:44:18 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3839#comment-10532 Maybe your illness is a test to see how John Bear handles you at your worst self? Get better soon! Maybe your illness is a test to see how John Bear handles you at your worst self?

Get better soon!

]]> By: Modern Married Mommahttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/21/shedding/#comment-10530 Modern Married Momma Mon, 22 Jun 2009 22:57:10 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3839#comment-10530 Rest. Sleep. Soak in a bath. We are so honored to have you as our first guest on Single Mom Revolution Blog Talk show-- can't wait to talk a tomorrow (Tues June 23) 1pm EST. Rest.
Sleep.
Soak in a bath.

We are so honored to have you as our first guest on Single Mom Revolution Blog Talk show– can't wait to talk a tomorrow (Tues June 23) 1pm EST.

]]> By: rawwebdesignhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/21/shedding/#comment-10529 rawwebdesign Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:13:40 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3839#comment-10529 Haha. You are going to blast out of it with a new vigor. And it's impossible to even imagine you as helpless... you are still going strong even now. Haha. You are going to blast out of it with a new vigor. And it's impossible to even imagine you as helpless… you are still going strong even now.

]]> By: Greyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/21/shedding/#comment-10527 Grey Mon, 22 Jun 2009 04:17:55 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3839#comment-10527 Sometimes I think the past comes around to bite us, not only to keep us sharp, but to remind us to be grateful for these moments and what we have. But I've been toeing that fine line...between wanting more with TallDark&Smokin', and being afraid to move forward....especially when I look at the disaster that was my previous marriage. Rest up and I hope you feel better soon. Sometimes I think the past comes around to bite us, not only to keep us sharp, but to remind us to be grateful for these moments and what we have. But I've been toeing that fine line…between wanting more with TallDark&Smokin', and being afraid to move forward….especially when I look at the disaster that was my previous marriage.

Rest up and I hope you feel better soon.

]]> By: Tishia Leehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/21/shedding/#comment-10526 Tishia Lee Mon, 22 Jun 2009 02:22:43 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3839#comment-10526 Like one commenter already said about sickness being our body's way of telling us to slow down, I totally agree! I absolutely love what your friend Brad said about being in cocoon. Hope you start feeling better SOON! And I love the single moms forum! Like one commenter already said about sickness being our body's way of telling us to slow down, I totally agree! I absolutely love what your friend Brad said about being in cocoon. Hope you start feeling better SOON! And I love the single moms forum!

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