Comments on: On Weddings http://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/05/on-weddings/ Single Mom Dating, Love, and Life Advice Fri, 19 Mar 2010 04:18:51 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Unreal http://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/05/on-weddings/#comment-14519 Unreal Sun, 22 Nov 2009 18:02:21 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3397#comment-14519 [...] by mssinglemama on November 22, 2009 On Friday afternoon I got a phone call from my little sister, Anna. [...] [...] by mssinglemama on November 22, 2009 On Friday afternoon I got a phone call from my little sister, Anna. [...]

]]> By: When you know http://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/05/on-weddings/#comment-10868 When you know Wed, 08 Jul 2009 13:07:40 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3397#comment-10868 [...] would be getting married in her back yard in just a few days and I was frantically planning a wedding to beat an INS [...] [...] would be getting married in her back yard in just a few days and I was frantically planning a wedding to beat an INS [...]

]]> By: Manic Mommy http://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/05/on-weddings/#comment-10131 Manic Mommy Sun, 07 Jun 2009 20:46:10 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3397#comment-10131 I remember being led up to the altar by my father and meeting my very-soon-to-be husband. As we stood at the altar, I just kept repeating to him, "This is sooo easy. This is sooo easy." I guess that pretty much meant it was the right thing, 16 years and three children later. And it's still sooo easy. That's how marriage should be. Your sister is absolutely right. Have fun at all those weddings, and I can't wait to see pics of you! I remember being led up to the altar by my father and meeting my very-soon-to-be husband. As we stood at the altar, I just kept repeating to him, "This is sooo easy. This is sooo easy." I guess that pretty much meant it was the right thing, 16 years and three children later. And it's still sooo easy. That's how marriage should be. Your sister is absolutely right.

Have fun at all those weddings, and I can't wait to see pics of you!

]]> By: Liz http://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/05/on-weddings/#comment-10129 Liz Sun, 07 Jun 2009 16:53:42 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3397#comment-10129 I almost married the wrong guy...in fact, when I read Mia's post I got a strange feeling in my stomach that she was talking about my ex - it sounded SO like him and the way she because the super adult in the relationship because he refused to and then made her feel like she sucked even though it was him that wouldn't step up to the plate - all that was creepy familiar - add that although we lived in Tx, he was from Ohio...really strange. We planned the wedding without formalizing an engagement. The whole time I kept thinking "before I go thru with this I'm going to ask Stephen (my best guy friend) if there is a chance anything more might develop between us because I think there might be and I can't not know". Things started falling apart with the other but I loved so much as unhealthy as it was. Tried to keep it together, until he cheated and got so messed up one night he accidentally told me. I'm so glad he did because I'd have married him. 6 years down the road without me ever saying anything, that friend finally said to me "the night I first met you was the most amazing night I've ever had and I've almost watch you get away twice but I was too afraid to say anything - but I love you." I was right - there was something there that we both felt but never acted upon. We've been married 7 years and have two amazing daughters. He's still the best man I've ever met and I can't believe I'm married to him. I almost married the wrong guy…in fact, when I read Mia's post I got a strange feeling in my stomach that she was talking about my ex – it sounded SO like him and the way she because the super adult in the relationship because he refused to and then made her feel like she sucked even though it was him that wouldn't step up to the plate – all that was creepy familiar – add that although we lived in Tx, he was from Ohio…really strange. We planned the wedding without formalizing an engagement. The whole time I kept thinking "before I go thru with this I'm going to ask Stephen (my best guy friend) if there is a chance anything more might develop between us because I think there might be and I can't not know". Things started falling apart with the other but I loved so much as unhealthy as it was. Tried to keep it together, until he cheated and got so messed up one night he accidentally told me. I'm so glad he did because I'd have married him. 6 years down the road without me ever saying anything, that friend finally said to me "the night I first met you was the most amazing night I've ever had and I've almost watch you get away twice but I was too afraid to say anything – but I love you." I was right – there was something there that we both felt but never acted upon. We've been married 7 years and have two amazing daughters. He's still the best man I've ever met and I can't believe I'm married to him.

]]> By: Joule http://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/05/on-weddings/#comment-10128 Joule Sun, 07 Jun 2009 15:51:24 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3397#comment-10128 My husband and I met the first week I was in college in my home state at the University of Georgia (he'd been there a year)...now, 15 years later we are so very happy! We lived together (bought a house together during year 4) for almost all of the 10 years that we were together before we got married on our 10th anniversary (New Year's Eve) in Las Vegas. I was 7 months pregnant with our son when we went to our little white chapel so everyone must have thought 'oh dear, THAT is a quickie wedding!' but that wasn't so! Now, 3.5 years later, we have two beautiful babies (Our big boy Aiden 3 and our sweet little girl Emmerson 1) and we will celebrate our 14th/4th anniversary this New Years Eve. Our Families were a little peeved that we didn't do the BIG wedding thing. But, we wanted it to be simple and intimate. It was our version of perfect! My husband and I met the first week I was in college in my home state at the University of Georgia (he'd been there a year)…now, 15 years later we are so very happy! We lived together (bought a house together during year 4) for almost all of the 10 years that we were together before we got married on our 10th anniversary (New Year's Eve) in Las Vegas. I was 7 months pregnant with our son when we went to our little white chapel so everyone must have thought 'oh dear, THAT is a quickie wedding!' but that wasn't so! Now, 3.5 years later, we have two beautiful babies (Our big boy Aiden 3 and our sweet little girl Emmerson 1) and we will celebrate our 14th/4th anniversary this New Years Eve.
Our Families were a little peeved that we didn't do the BIG wedding thing. But, we wanted it to be simple and intimate. It was our version of perfect!

]]> By: ALICIA http://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/05/on-weddings/#comment-10126 ALICIA Sun, 07 Jun 2009 05:10:42 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3397#comment-10126 My 1st "wedding" was spur-of-the-moment. At a Notary's house, who officiated. It was at 10:20 p.m. because it took us all day to decide to go ahead and go thru with it. I wanted the date and the last name more than anything. The date was 09-09-1999. I was 20. We had no rings, but the Notary's wife was kind enough to let us borrow some jewelry from her junk drawer. There was no dress. We both wore pants actually. I clearly remember this Notary, an older kind gentleman, sitting us both down and asking us to ask ourselves if we could imagine growing old with each other. If the answer was Yes, then he'd marry us. Well, of course we said yes, what else would we say? Immediately after we were pronounced man and wife, we all did a shot of the Notary's tequilla. Oh yah, I forgot: the very next day, I flew home to FL and my husband flew home to Wisconsin! We had a long-distance relationship for the prior 4 years, and I think total we only spent maybe 10 whole days with each other in those 4 years.... very odd. Hence, the divorce 2 years later. But, hey! I kept the last name I so wanted!!!!!! My 1st "wedding" was spur-of-the-moment. At a Notary's house, who officiated. It was at 10:20 p.m. because it took us all day to decide to go ahead and go thru with it. I wanted the date and the last name more than anything. The date was 09-09-1999. I was 20. We had no rings, but the Notary's wife was kind enough to let us borrow some jewelry from her junk drawer. There was no dress. We both wore pants actually. I clearly remember this Notary, an older kind gentleman, sitting us both down and asking us to ask ourselves if we could imagine growing old with each other. If the answer was Yes, then he'd marry us. Well, of course we said yes, what else would we say? Immediately after we were pronounced man and wife, we all did a shot of the Notary's tequilla. Oh yah, I forgot: the very next day, I flew home to FL and my husband flew home to Wisconsin! We had a long-distance relationship for the prior 4 years, and I think total we only spent maybe 10 whole days with each other in those 4 years…. very odd. Hence, the divorce 2 years later. But, hey! I kept the last name I so wanted!!!!!!

]]> By: missy Flynn-Coffield http://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/05/on-weddings/#comment-10123 missy Flynn-Coffield Sun, 07 Jun 2009 00:04:07 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3397#comment-10123 I actually still enjoy weddings, in fact, i just told my mom today i was bummed because i didn't have any to attend this summer. Just a lot of baby-showers! Sounds like you are busy with weddings this summer...enjoy yourself I actually still enjoy weddings, in fact, i just told my mom today i was bummed because i didn't have any to attend this summer. Just a lot of baby-showers!

Sounds like you are busy with weddings this summer…enjoy yourself

]]> By: christeen http://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/05/on-weddings/#comment-10122 christeen Sat, 06 Jun 2009 23:31:50 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3397#comment-10122 My wedding....yuck....just cringed My wedding was my biggest mistake.....turns out divorce is pricey! I was married at the local courthouse at about 6 months pregnant and after the 10 minute ceremony I went home and took a nap.......LAME..... On a plus note.....the most beautiful wedding I have ever seen and was honored to be a part of was my bestie....shes the sister I never had! I remember a moment at her wedding when her husband looked at her and she looked at him and there was no doubt in my mind that she....rather....they...had found LOVE....... My wedding….yuck….just cringed
My wedding was my biggest mistake…..turns out divorce is pricey!
I was married at the local courthouse at about 6 months pregnant and after the 10 minute ceremony I went home and took a nap…….LAME…..

On a plus note…..the most beautiful wedding I have ever seen and was honored to be a part of was my bestie….shes the sister I never had! I remember a moment at her wedding when her husband looked at her and she looked at him and there was no doubt in my mind that she….rather….they…had found LOVE…….

]]> By: Andrea http://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/05/on-weddings/#comment-10119 Andrea Sat, 06 Jun 2009 21:05:26 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3397#comment-10119 I think I secretely inside of me I want a wedding, nice, small, sweet, with a man looking into my eyes melting for me. But I´m not open about it, so I dont know if Iam gonna make it. I never liked traditional weddings at all and I wasn´t really hoping to marry sometime, I was more focused in my career, travelling. But mine was too untraditional. It was kind of a rush too for residency issues, my parents didn´t agree completely, it was ackward, and now I know we didnt knew ourselves enough. But it could have been a very sweet story anyway, we grew up together and been through so much. But he wasn´t that much into me thats all. I don´t know precisely when he stop loving me, but it happened and you can´t ask for love or romanticism, it just happened. What your sister said is so true, it can´t be that hard all the time. I hope somethig happens to me soon, I want my son to have a big family. But today I´m hopeless. I think I secretely inside of me I want a wedding, nice, small, sweet, with a man looking into my eyes melting for me. But I´m not open about it, so I dont know if Iam gonna make it.
I never liked traditional weddings at all and I wasn´t really hoping to marry sometime, I was more focused in my career, travelling. But mine was too untraditional. It was kind of a rush too for residency issues, my parents didn´t agree completely, it was ackward, and now I know we didnt knew ourselves enough. But it could have been a very sweet story anyway, we grew up together and been through so much. But he wasn´t that much into me thats all. I don´t know precisely when he stop loving me, but it happened and you can´t ask for love or romanticism, it just happened.
What your sister said is so true, it can´t be that hard all the time. I hope somethig happens to me soon, I want my son to have a big family. But today I´m hopeless.

]]> By: Meg T. http://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/05/on-weddings/#comment-10118 Meg T. Sat, 06 Jun 2009 16:01:38 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3397#comment-10118 I like to say that I wasted the good wedding on the wrong guy. My first wedding was a fabulous DIY family togetherness love fest...except you know for me and my first husband. Everyone I talk to who was at it has always said: "I had a GREAT time at your wedding!". Sadly I didn't and we divorced 6 months later. And then I married my best friend, literally. The man who showed up late to my first wedding because he didn't want to hear me make my vows to a bum, the man who moved me into and out of 15 different apartments throughout college, the man who saved me from a nervous breakdown, the man who I had gone to the pub with every Wednesday night for 7 years. He looked at me on my mothers couch and said "I have loved you from the moment I met you. Marry me." So I did. And it's great. I like to say that I wasted the good wedding on the wrong guy. My first wedding was a fabulous DIY family togetherness love fest…except you know for me and my first husband. Everyone I talk to who was at it has always said: "I had a GREAT time at your wedding!". Sadly I didn't and we divorced 6 months later.
And then I married my best friend, literally. The man who showed up late to my first wedding because he didn't want to hear me make my vows to a bum, the man who moved me into and out of 15 different apartments throughout college, the man who saved me from a nervous breakdown, the man who I had gone to the pub with every Wednesday night for 7 years.
He looked at me on my mothers couch and said "I have loved you from the moment I met you. Marry me."
So I did.
And it's great.

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