Comments on: Secret Code http://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/04/secret-weapon/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Thu, 24 May 2012 13:52:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Seasonal Allegieshttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/04/secret-weapon/#comment-19396 Seasonal Allegies Wed, 25 Aug 2010 17:55:50 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3686#comment-19396 It's incredible how a male can look upset in shop, why they don't like to buy clothes and fancy stuff, I can't understand their way of think. However nice pic, what a happy couple. It’s incredible how a male can look upset in shop, why they don’t like to buy clothes and fancy stuff, I can’t understand their way of think. However nice pic, what a happy couple.

]]> By: Rebeccahttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/04/secret-weapon/#comment-18179 Rebecca Mon, 05 Jul 2010 21:45:34 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3686#comment-18179 Dear Alaina, I'm sure you're going to get all kinds of messages about your article in Woman's Day magazine. I hope that I'm not lost in the mix when you read this. I get tons of magazines, especially for free, since I had my son, Max, a year ago in August. So I almost flip blindly, until I saw your article. When I read it, it took my breath away with how similar it is to my current situation and moved me. I was so in shock I couldn't even cry, and I'm a crier. It's been four weeks now since I moved out of the house I shared with my husband, his two boys, and our son. Max and I moved back with my parents. Because we'd been having problems since before we married, this was my final straw and knew that in my heart I didn't want to go back. But, my husband is a manipulator and convinced me to work on it with counseling with our pastor. I've gone a couple times and have stayed at the house a couple times. He's made promises that things will be different and in front of the pastor, he smooth talks and twists everything so that all the problems are my fault. But in a nut shell, my existence in our marriage was a nanny, house keeper, and prostitute. I was disrespected by him and his two boys. In the couple times I've been back, nothing has changed and I actually feel physically sick. He still disrespects me and allows his boys to walk all over me. I had told him that I would move back, but hadn't officially done so yet. I talked to him on the phone tonight and he was nearly ordering me to come home. Saying that he feels like I'm putting my parents before him. Which is ridiculous for HIM to say because there have been times when his mother and father would be yelling at me and he would just stand by and let it happen. He never once defended me. All this being said, I want to know how you got the courage to get out and how you got over the loneliness. I don't have any friends now because before we got married he made me call them all up and tell them I'm no longer allowed to talk to them. I was young and he is 18 years my senior. Thinking this was my only chance for happiness, I listened. I also didn't finish school and if I go back, I have no future. I have made plans to finish school this fall, but he's already dropped hints that it may not work. "Unavoidably" so. I used to have the attitude that "I do what I want" and was a pretty brave person and very independent. Because of this marriage I'm just so broken down. I'm just lost. I'm sorry for unloading on you like this. And I'm sure that it all means nothing to you. But if you get anything out of it, know that your article will be with me no matter what happens. Dear Alaina,
I’m sure you’re going to get all kinds of messages about your article in Woman’s Day magazine. I hope that I’m not lost in the mix when you read this. I get tons of magazines, especially for free, since I had my son, Max, a year ago in August. So I almost flip blindly, until I saw your article. When I read it, it took my breath away with how similar it is to my current situation and moved me. I was so in shock I couldn’t even cry, and I’m a crier. It’s been four weeks now since I moved out of the house I shared with my husband, his two boys, and our son. Max and I moved back with my parents. Because we’d been having problems since before we married, this was my final straw and knew that in my heart I didn’t want to go back. But, my husband is a manipulator and convinced me to work on it with counseling with our pastor. I’ve gone a couple times and have stayed at the house a couple times. He’s made promises that things will be different and in front of the pastor, he smooth talks and twists everything so that all the problems are my fault. But in a nut shell, my existence in our marriage was a nanny, house keeper, and prostitute. I was disrespected by him and his two boys. In the couple times I’ve been back, nothing has changed and I actually feel physically sick. He still disrespects me and allows his boys to walk all over me. I had told him that I would move back, but hadn’t officially done so yet. I talked to him on the phone tonight and he was nearly ordering me to come home. Saying that he feels like I’m putting my parents before him. Which is ridiculous for HIM to say because there have been times when his mother and father would be yelling at me and he would just stand by and let it happen. He never once defended me. All this being said, I want to know how you got the courage to get out and how you got over the loneliness. I don’t have any friends now because before we got married he made me call them all up and tell them I’m no longer allowed to talk to them. I was young and he is 18 years my senior. Thinking this was my only chance for happiness, I listened. I also didn’t finish school and if I go back, I have no future. I have made plans to finish school this fall, but he’s already dropped hints that it may not work. “Unavoidably” so. I used to have the attitude that “I do what I want” and was a pretty brave person and very independent. Because of this marriage I’m just so broken down. I’m just lost.
I’m sorry for unloading on you like this. And I’m sure that it all means nothing to you. But if you get anything out of it, know that your article will be with me no matter what happens.

]]> By: Angel Blue Eyeshttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/04/secret-weapon/#comment-10954 Angel Blue Eyes Mon, 13 Jul 2009 00:59:10 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3686#comment-10954 mmm... You two are simply adorable~ mmm… You two are simply adorable~

]]> By: Natural Menopausehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/04/secret-weapon/#comment-10953 Natural Menopause Mon, 13 Jul 2009 00:58:02 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3686#comment-10953 wow... very nice post thanks!!! i really like it wow… very nice post thanks!!! i really like it

]]> By: Natalovehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/04/secret-weapon/#comment-10446 Natalove Wed, 17 Jun 2009 08:12:17 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3686#comment-10446 Your story here reminds of Serena Ryder''s song "Out of the Blue" a bit...All her songs are amazing. Check her out Your story here reminds of Serena Ryder''s song "Out of the Blue" a bit…All her songs are amazing. Check her out

]]> By: ALICIAhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/04/secret-weapon/#comment-10125 ALICIA Sun, 07 Jun 2009 05:01:09 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3686#comment-10125 He is GORGEOUS. That being said, I'd have to say that he is the lucky one to have You! Glad you're so happy! He is GORGEOUS. That being said, I'd have to say that he is the lucky one to have You! Glad you're so happy!

]]> By: christeenhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/04/secret-weapon/#comment-10121 christeen Sat, 06 Jun 2009 23:21:11 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3686#comment-10121 You two are simply adorable~ You two are simply adorable~

]]> By: Lounahttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/04/secret-weapon/#comment-10116 Louna Sat, 06 Jun 2009 13:09:52 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3686#comment-10116 You're one of the lucky ones... Enjoy life to its fullest! :-) You're one of the lucky ones… Enjoy life to its fullest! :-)

]]> By: TorontoMamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/04/secret-weapon/#comment-10103 TorontoMama Sat, 06 Jun 2009 00:38:35 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3686#comment-10103 Adorable! And if you're like me, you must love that scruffy look...And now I know why you called him the Bear...he looks so huggable! You look right together :) Adorable!
And if you're like me, you must love that scruffy look…And now I know why you called him the Bear…he looks so huggable!

You look right together :)

]]> By: Karenhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/06/04/secret-weapon/#comment-10097 Karen Fri, 05 Jun 2009 22:02:27 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=3686#comment-10097 He's a cutie! New to your blog and love it! He's a cutie! New to your blog and love it!

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