Comments on: Clearing the Mr. Man Air & Morgan Siler

By: Samantha

Samantha — Wed, 13 May 2009 16:12:57 +0000

Hello, I hope you are not punishing yourself over any of your decisions in that whole Mr. Man thing. MOST women don't think nearly as hard about this stuff as you do and for that you should be proud. You seem to be doing right by your kid.

By: NotADad

NotADad — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 12:42:42 +0000

I think that clarifies things quite a bit re Mr Man, not that it's really anyone's business but yours. I guess it does suggest care is needed when blogging about personal relationships when you just don't know who's reading – the wrong inference about somebody that got out of hand could really create a lot of terrible problems. Unfortunately we live in a time where paranoia about child abuse has got so crazy and irrational that it is often (stupidly) the first conclusion to be drawn from anything even slightly keen about a male's interest in a child. Despite the fact that, statistically and unequivocally, the greatest violence and death to children is far and and away caused by *mothers* bashing or killing their own babies, as awful as that fact is – look it up, it's true. And women do sexually abuse children contrary to popular assumption. Anyway it has had to become a very real disincentive to become at all close – even vaguely interested – in some woman with a child, since that means taking some sort of interest in the child obviously. Sadly not an exaggeration. So there are now many fewer males going into school teaching etc and, where I am from, they won't even hire trained male child care workers for example.

By: Lesli

Lesli — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 22:51:33 +0000

Alaina, I'm just proud of you for being big-girl enough to end things with Mr. Man despite how you felt about him and the possibilities of the relationship–I wish I had your resolve. Alas, I do not….in fact, I've been seeing the ex-bf for several months now–what the hell am I doing??? I'm sorry I won't be in Chicago to meet you guys–I'm sure it will be a good time.

By the way, I'm from the "other" great Athens….GA! Of course I'm a city-girl now, LOL, in the big ol' ATL. Let's catch up soon and enjoy that new car!!

By: Kris

Kris — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 02:21:39 +0000

Ceasar's is always my choice for Margarita's – good plan! It gets pretty crazy there. Sheffields is also a good choice if Ceasar's is too crowded- they have a back bar and patio big enough for a crowd. Their middle bar, called Beer School, has beer you can't find at other Chicago bars. Have fun!

By: Speedgirl

Speedgirl — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 02:03:13 +0000

First, I think it is amazing that readers have told you that you "owe them" the story about Mr. Man. This is YOUR blog. You choose what part of your life, thoughts, and feelings you want to share. You don't owe us (your readers) anything. Sure, we are all curious. But that doesn't mean you have to share something. Actually, I think is speaks volumes about you as a person that you have not told the world what happened. I, for one – and for what it is worth, respect you more for not spilling all of the gory details when you were upset.

Second, I can totally relate to the "instant" friendship that you and Morgan found. My best friend and I met through a mutual friend on her LiveJournal account a few years ago. Almost a year after we started speaking on the phone, I flew out to Maryland to see her for the first time face to face, and spend 4 days with her. It was like greeting a long-time friend, not seeing a new friend for the first time. One of the reasons I love the internet is how small the world has become!

By: Karen

Karen — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 23:41:28 +0000

I understand you reasoning completely (even without knowing what happened). Yay! for the car though. Sounds like a lot of fun just getting to it!

By: GyrlPower

GyrlPower — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 20:45:19 +0000

I just jumped to your blog from "Girl's Gone Child". I read a few, well, quite a few posts. I hope you realize that you have a wonderful writer who beautifully expresses her love for her son. No matter what anyone ever says to you about choosing to be a single mother…you made the right choice. You chose to love.

By: wyliekat

wyliekat — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 19:39:34 +0000

I guess that's the drawback to blogging for a larger audience – you'll always have folks who are there seemingly for spite, or to hold you accountable.

Still and all, as I've said before – I think you made the right decision regarding Mr. Man, and anyone who disagrees should seriously consider fretting their own life a little more.

By: Hanna

Hanna — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 19:33:22 +0000

I wish you could drive your Fiesta to Colorado! Maybe Ford will sponsor a single mom road trip where you two visit all of us and document it? *sigh* Totally excited for you!

By: Nikki

Nikki — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 18:48:42 +0000

Have fun next week! Looking forward to the video's!
Also jealous of the single momma's meet up. I would totally be there …
I don't think you need to exlain to us what was going on with Mr Man. This is your life and you need to do what is right for you and your little man. I trust you will do the right thing and DID do the right thing.