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		<title>By: singlemominthecity.ca &#124; New day, new goals..</title>
		<link>http://mssinglemama.com/2009/03/31/you-had-me-at-hell/#comment-15908</link>
		<dc:creator>singlemominthecity.ca &#124; New day, new goals..</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 15 Feb 2010 03:07:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] I want to help other single mothers, and single fathers. People that are looking for a chance that nobody is willing to give them. People that are looking for hope in the face of stereotypical backlash. [...]</description>
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		<title>By: may</title>
		<link>http://mssinglemama.com/2009/03/31/you-had-me-at-hell/#comment-15621</link>
		<dc:creator>may</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 30 Jan 2010 01:03:19 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I don&#039;t agree with the hate mail. Although I might find your site a bit disapparaging towards single moms, you&#039;re entitled to free speech. Sometimes an expert only shd dole out dating advice and you are not an expert by any stretch of the imagination. 

Also I never understood anyone publishing stories abt their children on blogs. I highly value privacy and just thinking abt having that information public knowledge is just wrong. Facebook you can set for friends only, a blog is public for all to see. So that argument doesn&#039;t hold water.

Any dollar you make is exploitation for money. And the fact that you&#039;re willing to do it for only 100 dollars a month is even worse.

Good luck in your business! Hire a good CPA and lawyer and don&#039;t spend frivolously no matter how much you charge your clients. This economy, it&#039;s hard to grow your business, so I commend you for following your dreams!

Also hope it works out with John, but I&#039;m the type not to jinx anything and to publish on your blog that you&#039;re headed towards engagement and he reads that, and maybe you&#039;re not on the same page is not so good. Unless you&#039;ve talked abt it, but still I think anything premature pretty much ruins everything.

Not even sure if you read your comments. I found you through PW&#039;s site. Now there&#039;s a commendable woman. She certainly has children but doesn&#039;t exploit them on her site.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I don&#8217;t agree with the hate mail. Although I might find your site a bit disapparaging towards single moms, you&#8217;re entitled to free speech. Sometimes an expert only shd dole out dating advice and you are not an expert by any stretch of the imagination. </p>
<p>Also I never understood anyone publishing stories abt their children on blogs. I highly value privacy and just thinking abt having that information public knowledge is just wrong. Facebook you can set for friends only, a blog is public for all to see. So that argument doesn&#8217;t hold water.</p>
<p>Any dollar you make is exploitation for money. And the fact that you&#8217;re willing to do it for only 100 dollars a month is even worse.</p>
<p>Good luck in your business! Hire a good CPA and lawyer and don&#8217;t spend frivolously no matter how much you charge your clients. This economy, it&#8217;s hard to grow your business, so I commend you for following your dreams!</p>
<p>Also hope it works out with John, but I&#8217;m the type not to jinx anything and to publish on your blog that you&#8217;re headed towards engagement and he reads that, and maybe you&#8217;re not on the same page is not so good. Unless you&#8217;ve talked abt it, but still I think anything premature pretty much ruins everything.</p>
<p>Not even sure if you read your comments. I found you through PW&#8217;s site. Now there&#8217;s a commendable woman. She certainly has children but doesn&#8217;t exploit them on her site.</p>
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		<title>By: Nell</title>
		<link>http://mssinglemama.com/2009/03/31/you-had-me-at-hell/#comment-15619</link>
		<dc:creator>Nell</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 29 Jan 2010 22:48:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>As an educational researcher (as in, I conduct and analyze research about education and I get paid very well to do it), I can tell you that children from single parent homes are equally as likely to achieve the same level of education as children from homes with two parents. 

You&#039;re operating from bias here, not facts. There is no &quot;irrefutable&quot; evidence in existence that says that children from &quot;single parent households fare far worse&quot; than other children. Any research that comes to those conclusions has been methodologically unsound and culturally biased, or at the very least riddled with limitations that make the results far from irrefutable. Do yourself a favor and stop pulling ideas out of your ass and calling them evidence (because it makes you look like a crazypants).</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As an educational researcher (as in, I conduct and analyze research about education and I get paid very well to do it), I can tell you that children from single parent homes are equally as likely to achieve the same level of education as children from homes with two parents. </p>
<p>You&#8217;re operating from bias here, not facts. There is no &#8220;irrefutable&#8221; evidence in existence that says that children from &#8220;single parent households fare far worse&#8221; than other children. Any research that comes to those conclusions has been methodologically unsound and culturally biased, or at the very least riddled with limitations that make the results far from irrefutable. Do yourself a favor and stop pulling ideas out of your ass and calling them evidence (because it makes you look like a crazypants).</p>
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		<title>By: Laura</title>
		<link>http://mssinglemama.com/2009/03/31/you-had-me-at-hell/#comment-15181</link>
		<dc:creator>Laura</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 08 Jan 2010 20:40:43 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I noticed that right away!!!! HA HA HA!! Clearly an idiot!!!  Also funny how she wrote-

You are:
1. You are weak.

To Michelle~
You are:
1.  You are judgmental and in this email you sound like an idiot.


Everyone is entitled to their opinions, yes, but if Michelle hates this blog so much, why can&#039;t she just not read it?  Seems pretty simple to me....

Ms. Single Mama, 
I am a very happily married mommy, and I do think in an ideal world every child would have two loving parents in the same household.  However, I am not delusional, and I know that in some cases, this is simply not possible, nor the best thing for anyone involved.  Though kids are devastated when their parents split up, I have read so much research that says kids would rather be from a broken home than living in one.  Good for you for saving your adorable son from the turmoil and drama of your former life.  How awful that would have been had he grown up with such a terrible role model and and poor example of how he should treat his future partner.

I am a rather new reader, but i think your blog is funny, inspiring and lovely.  You clearly adore your son, and you seem like an amazing mama.  Oprah always says, &quot;You are not what happens to you; you are what you choose to do with what happens to you.&quot;  I believe in that completely, and it seems you are living proof of that.  While you could have just given up on yourself, you didn&#039;t, and you made your life better for yourself and for your child.  What an amazing gift that was to both of you!

Don&#039;t listen to anyone who does not know you are a WOMAN, not a WOMEN. ;)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I noticed that right away!!!! HA HA HA!! Clearly an idiot!!!  Also funny how she wrote-</p>
<p>You are:<br />
1. You are weak.</p>
<p>To Michelle~<br />
You are:<br />
1.  You are judgmental and in this email you sound like an idiot.</p>
<p>Everyone is entitled to their opinions, yes, but if Michelle hates this blog so much, why can&#8217;t she just not read it?  Seems pretty simple to me&#8230;.</p>
<p>Ms. Single Mama,<br />
I am a very happily married mommy, and I do think in an ideal world every child would have two loving parents in the same household.  However, I am not delusional, and I know that in some cases, this is simply not possible, nor the best thing for anyone involved.  Though kids are devastated when their parents split up, I have read so much research that says kids would rather be from a broken home than living in one.  Good for you for saving your adorable son from the turmoil and drama of your former life.  How awful that would have been had he grown up with such a terrible role model and and poor example of how he should treat his future partner.</p>
<p>I am a rather new reader, but i think your blog is funny, inspiring and lovely.  You clearly adore your son, and you seem like an amazing mama.  Oprah always says, &#8220;You are not what happens to you; you are what you choose to do with what happens to you.&#8221;  I believe in that completely, and it seems you are living proof of that.  While you could have just given up on yourself, you didn&#8217;t, and you made your life better for yourself and for your child.  What an amazing gift that was to both of you!</p>
<p>Don&#8217;t listen to anyone who does not know you are a WOMAN, not a WOMEN. <img src='http://mssinglemama.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>By: yessenia</title>
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		<dc:creator>yessenia</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 20 Sep 2009 00:44:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>one sentence to Michelle....&quot;if you havent been in the shoes of a single mom...dont talk...&quot;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>one sentence to Michelle&#8230;.&#8221;if you havent been in the shoes of a single mom&#8230;dont talk&#8230;&#8221;</p>
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		<title>By: Anonymous</title>
		<link>http://mssinglemama.com/2009/03/31/you-had-me-at-hell/#comment-12737</link>
		<dc:creator>Anonymous</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 10 Sep 2009 04:40:01 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Alright..here goes.

I know children from two parent households who fare worse in life than some from one parent households. Think quality, not quantity. There are just as many adults, coming from two parent households that abuse drugs, drop out of school, etc. 

My parents were married for 17 years. I watched them fight (a lot!). In fact, their marriage taught me about the kind of relationship that I never wanted to wind up in. My mother, after years of  his cheating, verbal, sexual, emotional abuse finally left him! I was 10, my older brother was 15. Yes, we had to move to an apartment (for shame!) in town. 

My older brother graduated 3rd in his high school class, I graduated 23rd of 186. We both went to college (we just had to work to pay for it). He double majored, has a master&#039;s degree, and is looking to begin working on a Ph.D. He is employed in his field as a teacher. I have a bachelor&#039;s degree, made the Dean&#039;s List several times, and work as a nurse.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Alright..here goes.</p>
<p>I know children from two parent households who fare worse in life than some from one parent households. Think quality, not quantity. There are just as many adults, coming from two parent households that abuse drugs, drop out of school, etc. </p>
<p>My parents were married for 17 years. I watched them fight (a lot!). In fact, their marriage taught me about the kind of relationship that I never wanted to wind up in. My mother, after years of  his cheating, verbal, sexual, emotional abuse finally left him! I was 10, my older brother was 15. Yes, we had to move to an apartment (for shame!) in town. </p>
<p>My older brother graduated 3rd in his high school class, I graduated 23rd of 186. We both went to college (we just had to work to pay for it). He double majored, has a master&#8217;s degree, and is looking to begin working on a Ph.D. He is employed in his field as a teacher. I have a bachelor&#8217;s degree, made the Dean&#8217;s List several times, and work as a nurse.</p>
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		<title>By: Michelle</title>
		<link>http://mssinglemama.com/2009/03/31/you-had-me-at-hell/#comment-11012</link>
		<dc:creator>Michelle</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 14 Jul 2009 19:17:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Wow, She sounds awful happy with her life. I think that you handled that quite nicely. And much more politely than I would have. First off, if she wants to call someone retarded perhaps she should have reread her letter before she sent it. She has grammer mistakes, misuses words, and has terrible prose. I love your site. Keep up the good work.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wow, She sounds awful happy with her life. I think that you handled that quite nicely. And much more politely than I would have. First off, if she wants to call someone retarded perhaps she should have reread her letter before she sent it. She has grammer mistakes, misuses words, and has terrible prose. I love your site. Keep up the good work.</p>
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		<title>By: Delcina</title>
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		<dc:creator>Delcina</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 09 Jul 2009 20:47:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hey!  Just popped on your site, haven&#039;t seen it since you started it and WOW!!!!  Looks great!  And that lady sucks.  She better hope I never find out who she is:) </description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hey!  Just popped on your site, haven&#039;t seen it since you started it and WOW!!!!  Looks great!  And that lady sucks.  She better hope I never find out who she is:)</p>
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		<title>By: Ashley</title>
		<link>http://mssinglemama.com/2009/03/31/you-had-me-at-hell/#comment-10897</link>
		<dc:creator>Ashley</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 09 Jul 2009 09:08:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I&#039;m not a single mother, I&#039;m 15. I&#039;ve read your blog for about an hour and I already am inspired by you. You make me appreciate my mother and what she&#039;s been through to try and do what&#039;s best for her kids.... There is one downside to your blog though... YOU&#039;VE MADE ME SCARED OF THE MOTH MAN. Hahah, this girl.. honestly had nothing to say. You are a strong person. </description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#039;m not a single mother, I&#039;m 15. I&#039;ve read your blog for about an hour and I already am inspired by you. You make me appreciate my mother and what she&#039;s been through to try and do what&#039;s best for her kids&#8230;. There is one downside to your blog though&#8230; YOU&#039;VE MADE ME SCARED OF THE MOTH MAN. Hahah, this girl.. honestly had nothing to say. You are a strong person.</p>
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		<title>By: Mr. Anonymous&#174;</title>
		<link>http://mssinglemama.com/2009/03/31/you-had-me-at-hell/#comment-9377</link>
		<dc:creator>Mr. Anonymous&#174;</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 10 May 2009 18:42:09 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hey Alaina! 
 
Just logged on to wish you a HAPPY MOTHER&#039;S DAY !! - what other holiday could mean so much to YOU! 
 
PS: I fell on this post when looking for a CONTACT ME and see you&#039;ve received some HATE MAIL. I didn&#039;t even read it, but i&#039;m sure it&#039;s probably hilarious. (I get some too.)  The really SAD part, is the assclown who sent you her shit has probably got bigger problems than you - she just doen&#039;t know it yet :-)  Who the fuck would ever put someone down who is trying their BEST to make a difficult situation GOOD. That&#039;s just BAD MANNERS. (So fuck &#039;em)  ALL THE BEST on this most special of days! ENJOY! </description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hey Alaina! </p>
<p>Just logged on to wish you a HAPPY MOTHER&#039;S DAY !! &#8211; what other holiday could mean so much to YOU! </p>
<p>PS: I fell on this post when looking for a CONTACT ME and see you&#039;ve received some HATE MAIL. I didn&#039;t even read it, but i&#039;m sure it&#039;s probably hilarious. (I get some too.)  The really SAD part, is the assclown who sent you her shit has probably got bigger problems than you &#8211; she just doen&#039;t know it yet <img src='http://mssinglemama.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':-)' class='wp-smiley' />   Who the fuck would ever put someone down who is trying their BEST to make a difficult situation GOOD. That&#039;s just BAD MANNERS. (So fuck &#039;em)  ALL THE BEST on this most special of days! ENJOY!</p>
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