And Isabelle wrote me to say she expected some of this and is not upset at all. She is a single mom after all, we're tough as nails.

She made a decision. That decision has consequences. She has accepted the result of her actions and will see it become a beautiful and wonderful blessing in the form of a child. There is no mistake in that. There is no reason to judge in that. Her decision produced a result. Who here has not made a decision that produced a result they didn't intend? Wear a new pair of shoes, you might get a blister, drive a little too fast, you might get a citation, have sex and you might get pregnant.

I'm assuming that pretty much everyone reading this blog has had sex. And I'm going to hazard a guess that there is probably a pretty good percentage of the readers that HAVEN'T had a baby. You've still made the same decision the rest of us have made. You are no different, you are no better.

Sure this woman may have ignored her better judgment in having sex with a man that she knew full well she would be better off avoiding. How many of us women eat that chocolate bar or that piece of cake that we know we should avoid. Same situation here. One has a different result, but essentially they're the same. Why do we do what we know we shouldn't do? Because it feels good enough to make it worth it. Because it's just the distraction or the comfort we need at that time and because at that time, in that situation, it's what we decided we wanted to do. Give her some slack, she made a decision, she's accepting the responsibilities and she's got an amazing and wonderful blessing ahead of her because of it.

Pertaining to some of these other comments about men, I heard it phrased wonderfully once before, "People ASK men to grow up and take responsibility. When it comes to women, they just hand her the dishrag and ASSUME she'll take care of it….This is why we're supposed to be impressed if a man grows up into a decent, responsible creature but it's the minimum expectation for a woman."

Out of my three children only one was planned…I found out I was pregnant with my last one when at the Dr's trying to get antidepressants to help me deal with the evil marriage I was in. My point is that "Oh Wow, Really?" babies happen all the time…married or unmarried and casting blame does not help anyone.

So I can see what NOM meant by her accepting the blame for her actions and not expect much more from this type of .. but I think she probably has. There is a such thing as a bad judgment call in the heat of the moment.

Do I agree that we all pick out a bad guy and look to put his kids on a good guy after we realize we've been effed over? Absolutely not and that's the only part of his post that offended me. I'm so sick of hearing that already and I'm only 5 months into being single and pregnant. People judging me, looking down on me .. men pulling aside the GOOD guys I'm dating and trying to talk them out of being with me and taking care of "some assh*les mistake" .. it's sickening.