Comments on: Toxic Friends http://mssinglemama.com/2009/02/20/toxic-friends/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Thu, 24 May 2012 06:45:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Metro Ethernethttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/02/20/toxic-friends/#comment-26526 Metro Ethernet Sun, 03 Apr 2011 22:50:28 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2527#comment-26526 i admite ir, I have have Toxic friends, and is so painful, when you told them something and those girls, tell everybody your secret,.... Thanks god, that I broke up with them i admite ir, I have have Toxic friends, and is so painful, when you told them something and those girls, tell everybody your secret,…. Thanks god, that I broke up with them

]]> By: Dawnhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/02/20/toxic-friends/#comment-18439 Dawn Tue, 13 Jul 2010 03:57:51 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2527#comment-18439 LOL!!!! That's insane--I have the same name and this just happened to me! She just called for the SEVENTH time today. You know what's really ironic? She goes "Oh, I know you want to be alone, *but* I really, really need to talk to you." She went on and on about me blocking her on Facebook and not answering her calls even after I told her explicitly that I didn't want to talk to her. LOL!!!! That’s insane–I have the same name and this just happened to me! She just called for the SEVENTH time today. You know what’s really ironic? She goes “Oh, I know you want to be alone, *but* I really, really need to talk to you.” She went on and on about me blocking her on Facebook and not answering her calls even after I told her explicitly that I didn’t want to talk to her.

]]> By: Lynnehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/02/20/toxic-friends/#comment-15190 Lynne Sat, 09 Jan 2010 18:07:12 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2527#comment-15190 I had a toxic friend at work, breaking my own rule about not having personal friendships in the office. At first it seemed that we had so much in common. We were both single parents of rebellious teenage daughters, came from dysfunctional families of origin, felt overworked and unappreciated at the office. She outranked me, although I didn't report to her, but that didn't matter. We were soon spending breaks and lunch together, finding comfort in sharing our problems and how stressed we were. She was there for me when I had emergency surgery. I was there for her when her 16-year-old daughter ran away from home. Then things began to change, almost impreceptibly at first. I began to feel that she wasn't doing the job she was paid to do. She was often late to work, didn't answer her cell or pager, and seemed never to be in her office when people were looking for her. I ended up doing some of her work, which enraged me because there didn't seem to be a good reason why she couldn't do it. I was already doing two jobs for the price of one, since we had lost a staff position due to budget cuts. I asked her what was going on, but she became hostile and defensive. Overnight, our friendship vanished. I no longer trusted her. I couldn't understand why the boss was allowing her to get away with not doing her job. I talked to him, but that only made things worse. I ended up getting another job and leaving. I had a toxic friend at work, breaking my own rule about not having personal friendships in the office. At first it seemed that we had so much in common. We were both single parents of rebellious teenage daughters, came from dysfunctional families of origin, felt overworked and unappreciated at the office. She outranked me, although I didn’t report to her, but that didn’t matter. We were soon spending breaks and lunch together, finding comfort in sharing our problems and how stressed we were. She was there for me when I had emergency surgery. I was there for her when her 16-year-old daughter ran away from home. Then things began to change, almost impreceptibly at first. I began to feel that she wasn’t doing the job she was paid to do. She was often late to work, didn’t answer her cell or pager, and seemed never to be in her office when people were looking for her. I ended up doing some of her work, which enraged me because there didn’t seem to be a good reason why she couldn’t do it. I was already doing two jobs for the price of one, since we had lost a staff position due to budget cuts. I asked her what was going on, but she became hostile and defensive. Overnight, our friendship vanished. I no longer trusted her. I couldn’t understand why the boss was allowing her to get away with not doing her job. I talked to him, but that only made things worse. I ended up getting another job and leaving.

]]> By: mssinglemamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/02/20/toxic-friends/#comment-8567 mssinglemama Sat, 11 Apr 2009 00:43:04 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2527#comment-8567 Sounds like it's out of your control... She has to learn her own lessons. So sad for you though.<br /><br />Sent from my iPhone Sounds like it's out of your control… She has to learn her own lessons. So sad for you though.

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]]> By: distraught momhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/02/20/toxic-friends/#comment-8562 distraught mom Fri, 10 Apr 2009 21:11:16 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2527#comment-8562 well i'm a mom of a beautiful almost 21 year old daughter. she is married and has a toxic friend but i dont think my daughter can see it. the friend sleeps at her place every weekend and text messages her every 2 seconds almost obsessive. now her young marriage is in trouble and she wont try and work it out just runs to this friend and when i tried to talk to the friend she told my daughter i was blaming her and was mad. her friend then told me she didnt want to get involved in her marital problems (is this a friend? you would think she would want to help). how do i get my daughter to see this is a toxic friendship and not helping the marriage at all? help well i'm a mom of a beautiful almost 21 year old daughter. she is married and has a toxic friend but i dont think my daughter can see it. the friend sleeps at her place every weekend and text messages her every 2 seconds almost obsessive. now her young marriage is in trouble and she wont try and work it out just runs to this friend and when i tried to talk to the friend she told my daughter i was blaming her and was mad. her friend then told me she didnt want to get involved in her marital problems (is this a friend? you would think she would want to help). how do i get my daughter to see this is a toxic friendship and not helping the marriage at all? help

]]> By: Ken Sackhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/02/20/toxic-friends/#comment-7770 Ken Sack Tue, 24 Mar 2009 21:03:34 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2527#comment-7770 A point not mentioned is that our mental energy level drops with age.This means we can't tolerate toxic people the way we could in our youth. Thats why I've pruned these people out of my life. I 've noticed how I've grown faster as a person since doing this. These people are vampires, blood suckers. Yes my social circle is a lot smaller, but its definitely worth it. A point not mentioned is that our mental energy level drops with age.This means we can't tolerate toxic people the way we could in our youth. Thats why I've pruned these people out of my life. I 've noticed how I've grown faster as a person since doing this. These people are vampires, blood suckers. Yes my social circle is a lot smaller, but its definitely worth it.

]]> By: get me outta it!!!http://mssinglemama.com/2009/02/20/toxic-friends/#comment-7680 get me outta it!!! Sat, 21 Mar 2009 02:04:55 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2527#comment-7680 have a toxic friendship that I am having a very hard time getting rid of. It is a guy whom I have been friends with for 3 years. Its funny because all of it I compare to as if it is a relatioship, but that is how I feel. The first six months were the best, we were such good friends, together all the time, there was so much respect and care, but feel it was unhealthy. I feel like because of the time we shared and how much we were with each other it became unhealthy. It then turned into something that for the last 2 1/2 was, well is out of control. He puts me down, he yells at me, we get into arguments like we are in middle school, we don't speak for weeks then we do. Its a cycle of constant hurt. Lately, I thought our friendship was better. I think if I don't talk to him, my life is over. When I see him though, all I feel is hurt and resentment. I care about him, but do I really? Question is how do I get out of it. I used to be able to go to him for everything. I just don't know what to do and how to break free without hurting..................... have a toxic friendship that I am having a very hard time getting rid of. It is a guy whom I have been friends with for 3 years. Its funny because all of it I compare to as if it is a relatioship, but that is how I feel. The first six months were the best, we were such good friends, together all the time, there was so much respect and care, but feel it was unhealthy. I feel like because of the time we shared and how much we were with each other it became unhealthy. It then turned into something that for the last 2 1/2 was, well is out of control. He puts me down, he yells at me, we get into arguments like we are in middle school, we don't speak for weeks then we do. Its a cycle of constant hurt. Lately, I thought our friendship was better. I think if I don't talk to him, my life is over. When I see him though, all I feel is hurt and resentment. I care about him, but do I really? Question is how do I get out of it. I used to be able to go to him for everything. I just don't know what to do and how to break free without hurting…………………

]]> By: The Constructive Purge « Savored Lifehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/02/20/toxic-friends/#comment-7493 The Constructive Purge « Savored Life Fri, 13 Mar 2009 17:20:44 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2527#comment-7493 [...] was preparing to blog on this topic several weeks ago, whilst chest deep in the situation, when Ms. Single Mama did. I was able to read her entry, relate entirely and then let it all absorb before finally [...] [...] was preparing to blog on this topic several weeks ago, whilst chest deep in the situation, when Ms. Single Mama did. I was able to read her entry, relate entirely and then let it all absorb before finally [...]

]]> By: movin down the roadhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/02/20/toxic-friends/#comment-6984 movin down the road Wed, 25 Feb 2009 02:50:18 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2527#comment-6984 It took my divorce to rid of toxic friendships. Now, I have good intuition and have managed to create good ones and steer clear of icky ones It took my divorce to rid of toxic friendships. Now, I have good intuition and have managed to create good ones and steer clear of icky ones

]]> By: mssinglemamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/02/20/toxic-friends/#comment-6873 mssinglemama Sun, 22 Feb 2009 19:49:03 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2527#comment-6873 Oh no... yes, toxic family relationships are even tougher to break. Hang in there. Maybe in time she'll see it from your point of view and simmer down. Oh no… yes, toxic family relationships are even tougher to break. Hang in there. Maybe in time she&#039;ll see it from your point of view and simmer down.

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