Comments on: Whispers in the trees (and some sex). http://mssinglemama.com/2009/01/27/distant-storms-and-some-sex/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Tue, 14 Feb 2012 00:59:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: chimwemwehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/01/27/distant-storms-and-some-sex/#comment-6093 chimwemwe Thu, 29 Jan 2009 09:40:03 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2253#comment-6093 l love the terrible 2s l love the terrible 2s

]]> By: Michaelhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/01/27/distant-storms-and-some-sex/#comment-6091 Michael Thu, 29 Jan 2009 02:04:29 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2253#comment-6091 I'm voting for the "terrible three's" too. I’m voting for the “terrible three’s” too.

]]> By: Keeshabeehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/01/27/distant-storms-and-some-sex/#comment-6088 Keeshabee Wed, 28 Jan 2009 14:10:44 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2253#comment-6088 Ahhh. the terrible two's. So not looking forward to it. I've been warned by other moms. Hang in there, before you know it, he'll be off to school! So enjoy the precious (and the stressful) times :) Ahhh. the terrible two’s. So not looking forward to it. I’ve been warned by other moms. Hang in there, before you know it, he’ll be off to school! So enjoy the precious (and the stressful) times :)

]]> By: PhenomenalMamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/01/27/distant-storms-and-some-sex/#comment-6086 PhenomenalMama Wed, 28 Jan 2009 12:30:10 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2253#comment-6086 You know what I've noticed? Usually the people who worry about whether or not they're a good parent are the ones who have the least to worry about. It's the ones who feel like they have it all figured out are the ones who SHOULD be asking more questions.... You know what I’ve noticed? Usually the people who worry about whether or not they’re a good parent are the ones who have the least to worry about.

It’s the ones who feel like they have it all figured out are the ones who SHOULD be asking more questions….

]]> By: I’m not in the mood! « Just the Way It Ishttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/01/27/distant-storms-and-some-sex/#comment-6081 I’m not in the mood! « Just the Way It Is Wed, 28 Jan 2009 03:35:45 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2253#comment-6081 [...] not in the mood! Ms. Single Ma’s (http://mssinglemama.com/2009/01/27/distant-storms-and-some-sex/) post today made me think of all of the “fun” things Little A has been doing [...] [...] not in the mood! Ms. Single Ma’s (http://mssinglemama.com/2009/01/27/distant-storms-and-some-sex/) post today made me think of all of the “fun” things Little A has been doing [...]

]]> By: Aprilhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/01/27/distant-storms-and-some-sex/#comment-6080 April Wed, 28 Jan 2009 03:15:45 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2253#comment-6080 Parenting isn't easy at any age and single parenting is NEVER easy. We just have to give it our all, to the best of our ability. We are going to make mistakes and hopefully, learn from them. Every parent questions their skills, abilities, behavior, etc., at some point. Even with two parents, it's impossible to be a super parent - there is no such thing. The closest thing to being a super-parent is a single parent, flying solo through this journey and having to figure it all out for yourself and your kids. All the while, trying not to loose your identity in the process. We are all showing up for our job everyday, it is more than what I can say about some. So as long as you are showing up for your parenting job, you ARE doing the right thing. Take it easy on yourself, life will beat you up enough. Parenting isn’t easy at any age and single parenting is NEVER easy. We just have to give it our all, to the best of our ability. We are going to make mistakes and hopefully, learn from them. Every parent questions their skills, abilities, behavior, etc., at some point. Even with two parents, it’s impossible to be a super parent – there is no such thing. The closest thing to being a super-parent is a single parent, flying solo through this journey and having to figure it all out for yourself and your kids. All the while, trying not to loose your identity in the process. We are all showing up for our job everyday, it is more than what I can say about some. So as long as you are showing up for your parenting job, you ARE doing the right thing. Take it easy on yourself, life will beat you up enough.

]]> By: Angiehttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/01/27/distant-storms-and-some-sex/#comment-6079 Angie Wed, 28 Jan 2009 03:12:27 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2253#comment-6079 Oh yeah I love the terrible 2s. Little A's new phrase is "I'm not in the moooood", which of course can from me. My brother heard her say that to me the other day and busted out in laughter. Then he said to me, well, you're getting back what you gave to mom and dad all those years ago. :-) I know what you are talking about with all this cold weather. My dogs are even sick of being in the house! Hang in there, it's almost over, I HOPE! Oh yeah I love the terrible 2s. Little A’s new phrase is “I’m not in the moooood”, which of course can from me. My brother heard her say that to me the other day and busted out in laughter. Then he said to me, well, you’re getting back what you gave to mom and dad all those years ago. :-)

I know what you are talking about with all this cold weather. My dogs are even sick of being in the house! Hang in there, it’s almost over, I HOPE!

]]> By: Triciahttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/01/27/distant-storms-and-some-sex/#comment-6077 Tricia Wed, 28 Jan 2009 01:54:43 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2253#comment-6077 You know, it's definitely peaks and valleys (no reference to your sex article here!) this motherhood gig. Even more so single. I have been a Mom for ten years now (my kids are 10 and 6) and every season is different. Some are tougher (the twos and threes were for me - especially with my little boy who had boundless energy just like your little Benjamin. I was exhausted just keeping him out of physical danger to himself. Now, the past two years (5 and 6) are so much easier than the toddler years, but the challenges are different. Getting him to do homework for example - he's a boy and has no difference. My girl (10) was an easy baby. I've been paying the price since she hit about eight -she's full of it and it drives me crazy. Attitude that is.! Doing it single (and I've only been doing it this way 2 years now) is DEFINITELY much harder. Like you say, you have no one to lean on or ask to let you run away for an hour. You have to find a babysitter every time someone stays home (like today - snow day) and every time someone's sick it's stressful for you too because you're torn and can't rely on someone else to carry the burden. Just know this too shall pass. You are an amazing mother and writer too. I LOVE your site and have only been coming for a few weeks. Keep honest with your feelings - that's the trick. I find if I pretend it's all fine that's when I get overwhelmed. Find time for yourself if you can (easier said than done). I'm still working on getting out socially more than once or twice a year...! And, mostly you have youth on your side. You have your whole life ahead of you and this beautiful little boy will be a part of every moment. you will find love again and you will be happy. In the meanwhile, cut yourself a little slack and take a nice hot bath. I empathise because your words described what I so often feel and couldn't define. Thank you! :) You know, it’s definitely peaks and valleys (no reference to your sex article here!) this motherhood gig. Even more so single. I have been a Mom for ten years now (my kids are 10 and 6) and every season is different. Some are tougher (the twos and threes were for me – especially with my little boy who had boundless energy just like your little Benjamin. I was exhausted just keeping him out of physical danger to himself. Now, the past two years (5 and 6) are so much easier than the toddler years, but the challenges are different. Getting him to do homework for example – he’s a boy and has no difference. My girl (10) was an easy baby. I’ve been paying the price since she hit about eight -she’s full of it and it drives me crazy. Attitude that is.!
Doing it single (and I’ve only been doing it this way 2 years now) is DEFINITELY much harder. Like you say, you have no one to lean on or ask to let you run away for an hour. You have to find a babysitter every time someone stays home (like today – snow day) and every time someone’s sick it’s stressful for you too because you’re torn and can’t rely on someone else to carry the burden.

Just know this too shall pass. You are an amazing mother and writer too. I LOVE your site and have only been coming for a few weeks. Keep honest with your feelings – that’s the trick. I find if I pretend it’s all fine that’s when I get overwhelmed. Find time for yourself if you can (easier said than done). I’m still working on getting out socially more than once or twice a year…!

And, mostly you have youth on your side. You have your whole life ahead of you and this beautiful little boy will be a part of every moment. you will find love again and you will be happy. In the meanwhile, cut yourself a little slack and take a nice hot bath. I empathise because your words described what I so often feel and couldn’t define. Thank you! :)

]]> By: Canadian Bald Guyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/01/27/distant-storms-and-some-sex/#comment-6075 Canadian Bald Guy Wed, 28 Jan 2009 00:23:06 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2253#comment-6075 From everything I've read thus far, you are a fantastic mom. My own Benjamin is two years old and, thus far at least, he's not really entered into a phase that I'd describe as the "terrible 2's". In fact, other than the occassional whine, he's pretty darned awesome most of the time. He was colicky for the first three months and I had been told (repeatedly) that children born colicky ended up being the most well-behaved once they got a bit older. At the time I thought they were just all full of it and were trying to console me as I was going insane. But now? I think that just might be the case. Heh. Oh...and just to echo was Bobby said...I think most of us who blog do it because we want to "bounce shit off of people", regardless of whether or not they respond. But yeah...your readers are definitely here for you. From everything I’ve read thus far, you are a fantastic mom.

My own Benjamin is two years old and, thus far at least, he’s not really entered into a phase that I’d describe as the “terrible 2′s”. In fact, other than the occassional whine, he’s pretty darned awesome most of the time.

He was colicky for the first three months and I had been told (repeatedly) that children born colicky ended up being the most well-behaved once they got a bit older. At the time I thought they were just all full of it and were trying to console me as I was going insane. But now? I think that just might be the case. Heh.

Oh…and just to echo was Bobby said…I think most of us who blog do it because we want to “bounce shit off of people”, regardless of whether or not they respond. But yeah…your readers are definitely here for you.

]]> By: mssinglemamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2009/01/27/distant-storms-and-some-sex/#comment-6073 mssinglemama Tue, 27 Jan 2009 23:11:26 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=2253#comment-6073 LTP - no comment. J-Fo - Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone... and yes, Wyliekat, I'm just crossing my fingers for 3-4 b/c I've heard it's the hardest. T- yep. I was only in Texas for 6 months, never over the winter. Tks for the reminder. Bobby - how right you are. And after I published this post, I felt a million time better. Thank you SO much for calling me out on that one. LTP – no comment.

J-Fo – Thanks for letting me know I’m not alone… and yes, Wyliekat, I’m just crossing my fingers for 3-4 b/c I’ve heard it’s the hardest.

T- yep. I was only in Texas for 6 months, never over the winter. Tks for the reminder.

Bobby – how right you are. And after I published this post, I felt a million time better. Thank you SO much for calling me out on that one.

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