Comments on: A Letter To the “Other Woman”: http://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/23/a-letter-to-the-other-woman/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Tue, 14 Feb 2012 00:59:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Bekhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/23/a-letter-to-the-other-woman/#comment-30572 Bek Sat, 03 Sep 2011 18:22:33 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1996#comment-30572 Amazing amazing amazing. I almost want to cut and paste to send to my husband's mistress, though that time is long past. In my own unsent letter I wrote similarly, "You will never know the experience of making your love tangible by carrying his children from 9 months at a time. You will never even know the back-aches from scrubbing stains out of his socks and shirts. These are the things that make a couple, not a few nights at the bar, late night rendezvous, a few parties, or some memories from high school." The idea of her near my children hurt more than anything. I remember my husband telling me how "cute" it was to watch her change my newborn's diaper (while he was still denying any sort of affair) and I nearly puked. I was pregnant with our second--back to back babies!--and she made a point of saying that she was ok with that and that's she'd take care of both of them when the little one was out. Oh HELL no. If we had divorced I would have fought tooth & nail to keep that disgusting woman away from my children, and relished explaining to them why when they were older. Power to Mia for sticking to her guns there; disrespectful women like that need to have their boundaries drawn for them, as awful as that is. I hope all is well with her these few years later. :) Amazing amazing amazing. I almost want to cut and paste to send to my husband’s mistress, though that time is long past. In my own unsent letter I wrote similarly, “You will never know the experience of making your love tangible by carrying his children from 9 months at a time. You will never even know the back-aches from scrubbing stains out of his socks and shirts. These are the things that make a couple, not a few nights at the bar, late night rendezvous, a few parties, or some memories from high school.”

The idea of her near my children hurt more than anything. I remember my husband telling me how “cute” it was to watch her change my newborn’s diaper (while he was still denying any sort of affair) and I nearly puked. I was pregnant with our second–back to back babies!–and she made a point of saying that she was ok with that and that’s she’d take care of both of them when the little one was out. Oh HELL no. If we had divorced I would have fought tooth & nail to keep that disgusting woman away from my children, and relished explaining to them why when they were older. Power to Mia for sticking to her guns there; disrespectful women like that need to have their boundaries drawn for them, as awful as that is. I hope all is well with her these few years later. :)

]]> By: JOHANhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/23/a-letter-to-the-other-woman/#comment-27377 JOHAN Wed, 08 Jun 2011 23:26:26 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1996#comment-27377 Hello, kat,after all this years,tell me are you still single,cos i am here for you,i think i can love you for ever,if you give me the chance to,my name is johan.this is my email,write me back should you feel the way i feel for you,thanks,my ID is johancaicedcdff@yahoo.com Hello,
kat,after all this years,tell me are you still single,cos i am here for you,i think i can love you for ever,if you give me the chance to,my name is johan.this is my email,write me back should you feel the way i feel for you,thanks,my ID is johancaicedcdff@yahoo.com

]]> By: Karissahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/23/a-letter-to-the-other-woman/#comment-25621 Karissa Mon, 07 Feb 2011 04:22:54 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1996#comment-25621 I went and confronted "the other woman" the day after I found out... I told her for the rest of her life when she looks in the mirror she will see a Red "A" for adulteress... she's married too...but has no kids... I tried to show her a picture of my children...MY husband and I's children...she wouldn't look... I'll never understand... I don't know about Karma, but the bible says "vengence is mine I will repay" "and for a strange woman a man is brought to a piece of bread" I feel sorry for them really... trading in his whole life for a feeling... and for her...every good thing she might have been for another woman's husband... I went and confronted “the other woman” the day after I found out… I told her for the rest of her life when she looks in the mirror she will see a Red “A” for adulteress… she’s married too…but has no kids… I tried to show her a picture of my children…MY husband and I’s children…she wouldn’t look…

I’ll never understand… I don’t know about Karma, but the bible says “vengence is mine I will repay” “and for a strange woman a man is brought to a piece of bread”

I feel sorry for them really… trading in his whole life for a feeling… and for her…every good thing she might have been for another woman’s husband…

]]> By: Lisahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/23/a-letter-to-the-other-woman/#comment-18141 Lisa Thu, 01 Jul 2010 08:54:43 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1996#comment-18141 same thing happened to me, but i was 3 months pregnant! same thing happened to me, but i was 3 months pregnant!

]]> By: Lisahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/23/a-letter-to-the-other-woman/#comment-18140 Lisa Thu, 01 Jul 2010 08:48:55 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1996#comment-18140 Hey there Mia! I know exactly how u feel. When i was 3 months pregnant, my husband decided to leave me. He said I was a no good wife, he couldn't stand my mood swings, and used every mistake i had made through out our relationship against me. For a while, i really did think i was a TERRIBLE wife and begged him to come back and he plain out said no over and over again. I really didn't understand why? I mean, we had only been married for SIX months, how can u stop loving someone so fast? One day I decide to go out with my friends, enjoy a night instead of staying in crying my eyes out, and i see my husband holding hands and kissing another woman! I felt a knife had passed my heart. How could he do this to me? But sadly, it all made sense, he had left me for her. I'm 22, six months pregnant with his child and having through go to the process of a divorce. Its been heartbreaking and draining. Hey there Mia!

I know exactly how u feel. When i was 3 months pregnant, my husband decided to leave me. He said I was a no good wife, he couldn’t stand my mood swings, and used every mistake i had made through out our relationship against me. For a while, i really did think i was a TERRIBLE wife and begged him to come back and he plain out said no over and over again. I really didn’t understand why? I mean, we had only been married for SIX months, how can u stop loving someone so fast? One day I decide to go out with my friends, enjoy a night instead of staying in crying my eyes out, and i see my husband holding hands and kissing another woman! I felt a knife had passed my heart. How could he do this to me? But sadly, it all made sense, he had left me for her. I’m 22, six months pregnant with his child and having through go to the process of a divorce. Its been heartbreaking and draining.

]]> By: Pitter Pathttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/23/a-letter-to-the-other-woman/#comment-16729 Pitter Pat Sun, 04 Apr 2010 14:07:55 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1996#comment-16729 [...] if you think you spotted Mia and Sydney in the first photo you’d be correct. I’m pressing her to get to another blog [...] [...] if you think you spotted Mia and Sydney in the first photo you’d be correct. I’m pressing her to get to another blog [...]

]]> By: One year later - single mom story.http://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/23/a-letter-to-the-other-woman/#comment-14636 One year later - single mom story. Thu, 03 Dec 2009 23:02:28 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1996#comment-14636 [...] by mssinglemama on December 3, 2009 It’s been nearly one year – to the day – that Mia found out her boyfriend and the father of their, then four year old daughter, was leaving. She found out a few weeks later that the catalyst of his leaving was an affair with another woman. [...] [...] by mssinglemama on December 3, 2009 It’s been nearly one year – to the day – that Mia found out her boyfriend and the father of their, then four year old daughter, was leaving. She found out a few weeks later that the catalyst of his leaving was an affair with another woman. [...]

]]> By: On Men & Dogshttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/23/a-letter-to-the-other-woman/#comment-12742 On Men & Dogs Thu, 10 Sep 2009 12:33:59 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1996#comment-12742 [...] a one of them. I’m so taken, it’s ridiculous. Instead I picked up the phone and called Mia, “You’ve got to get to the dog park – there are single men EVERY [...] [...] a one of them. I’m so taken, it’s ridiculous. Instead I picked up the phone and called Mia, “You’ve got to get to the dog park – there are single men EVERY [...]

]]> By: kirstyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/23/a-letter-to-the-other-woman/#comment-12118 kirsty Thu, 20 Aug 2009 10:33:55 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1996#comment-12118 Ive been there - its a whirlwind of pain, tears, sleepless nights, anger and the joy of your child through it all as they emerge into this strange world - so unlike what you had hoped and dreamed for them. My husband had an affair when I was 7 months pregnant and I found out through his emails to her discussing who stole the duvet covers (nice ehh?) and he said he ended it but he still had to go to work the next day with her?!!!!! (did he? did he not - the phone bills spoke for themselves and his constant inability to connect with me at any level and not constantly blame me for our problems that he now wanted to talk about?!!) We seperated when our son was 3 months old (we also have a 3 year old beautiful girl) but really he wasnt there emotionally or at times physically for most of the time - THATS what hurt - the lack of care to his pregnant wife... As for the other woman - like attracts like - immaturity, selfishness, cowardice and avoidance of any issues or others feelings. Through my anger I feel sorry for her and her pathetic 'half life' with him. What kind of foundation is a relationship built on if it starts like this? 'what goes around comes around' indeed! Go Mia! I feel not so alone now thank you. Ive been there – its a whirlwind of pain, tears, sleepless nights, anger and the joy of your child through it all as they emerge into this strange world – so unlike what you had hoped and dreamed for them.
My husband had an affair when I was 7 months pregnant and I found out through his emails to her discussing who stole the duvet covers (nice ehh?) and he said he ended it but he still had to go to work the next day with her?!!!!! (did he? did he not – the phone bills spoke for themselves and his constant inability to connect with me at any level and not constantly blame me for our problems that he now wanted to talk about?!!) We seperated when our son was 3 months old (we also have a 3 year old beautiful girl) but really he wasnt there emotionally or at times physically for most of the time – THATS what hurt – the lack of care to his pregnant wife…
As for the other woman – like attracts like – immaturity, selfishness, cowardice and avoidance of any issues or others feelings. Through my anger I feel sorry for her and her pathetic ‘half life’ with him. What kind of foundation is a relationship built on if it starts like this?
‘what goes around comes around’ indeed!
Go Mia! I feel not so alone now thank you.

]]> By: kirstyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/23/a-letter-to-the-other-woman/#comment-12117 kirsty Thu, 20 Aug 2009 10:26:23 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1996#comment-12117 what bullshit you tell yourself love?! You seem to have a pattern - perhaps if you spent more time dealing with your self esteem issues you wouldnt attract these type of married men? what bullshit you tell yourself love?!
You seem to have a pattern – perhaps if you spent more time dealing with your self esteem issues you wouldnt attract these type of married men?

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