Comments on: Ex-mas Etiquette http://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/17/ex-mas-etiquette/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Mon, 13 Feb 2012 17:50:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: LJehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/17/ex-mas-etiquette/#comment-5764 LJe Wed, 14 Jan 2009 13:32:05 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1903#comment-5764 I have always made sure My daughter did something as well as fathers day. He keeps getting dirtier and dirtier so I must stop being as nice ,as always still his punching board Plus his mistress that he married downs me every possible moment.. You think after being married 3 times she would go to college,n oh wait a minute she never graduated from high school. SORRY my bad. Not usually like that. I know she has been a big instigator rto all of this I have always made sure My daughter did something as well as fathers day. He keeps getting dirtier and dirtier so I must stop being as nice ,as always still his punching board Plus his mistress that he married downs me every possible moment.. You think after being married 3 times she would go to college,n oh wait a minute she never graduated from high school. SORRY my bad. Not usually like that. I know she has been a big instigator rto all of this

]]> By: Laurahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/17/ex-mas-etiquette/#comment-5460 Laura Tue, 06 Jan 2009 15:01:44 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1903#comment-5460 I know I am very late on this post seeing as it is Jan 6 :) but have to say I was blown away by the comments...all of the individuals that do make sure the ex has a gift I give great respect! I have NEVER done it. Honestly the kids have never brought it up so I don't. I know I am very late on this post seeing as it is Jan 6 :) but have to say I was blown away by the comments…all of the individuals that do make sure the ex has a gift I give great respect! I have NEVER done it. Honestly the kids have never brought it up so I don’t.

]]> By: LTPhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/17/ex-mas-etiquette/#comment-5175 LTP Tue, 23 Dec 2008 22:56:57 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1903#comment-5175 Even as I am about to leave the office to head over to REI to shop for the ex...."from the kids" of course. UGH. He "requested" all kinds of running (which he took up after we split of course and lost 50lbs.) stuff and oh, camping stuff--guess so he can do that with his new girlfriend. Double-ugh. Even as I am about to leave the office to head over to REI to shop for the ex….”from the kids” of course. UGH. He “requested” all kinds of running (which he took up after we split of course and lost 50lbs.) stuff and oh, camping stuff–guess so he can do that with his new girlfriend. Double-ugh.

]]> By: Kellyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/17/ex-mas-etiquette/#comment-5082 Kelly Fri, 19 Dec 2008 19:27:32 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1903#comment-5082 I know how you feel Katie! My daughter and I adore her dad's wife. We are disappointed when he doesn't bring her along for our meet ups (she's not comfortable being left alone with him because she didn't know him until she was 10, so I always have to go). And I don't get why someone as great as her is with him. I just hope she doesn't figure that out one day because we wouldn't want to lose her! I know how you feel Katie! My daughter and I adore her dad’s wife. We are disappointed when he doesn’t bring her along for our meet ups (she’s not comfortable being left alone with him because she didn’t know him until she was 10, so I always have to go). And I don’t get why someone as great as her is with him. I just hope she doesn’t figure that out one day because we wouldn’t want to lose her!

]]> By: shanihttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/17/ex-mas-etiquette/#comment-5076 shani Fri, 19 Dec 2008 16:49:34 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1903#comment-5076 I think that when the child is old enough to know what it is about, that would be the time to 'let them get a gift' for thier parent. even if you are paying for it. Anytime before that, would be a gift from you. And that defeats the purpose. S. I think that when the child is old enough to know what it is about, that would be the time to ‘let them get a gift’ for thier parent. even if you are paying for it.
Anytime before that, would be a gift from you. And that defeats the purpose.
S.

]]> By: Dawnhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/17/ex-mas-etiquette/#comment-5073 Dawn Fri, 19 Dec 2008 15:32:23 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1903#comment-5073 No gifts ... doesn't fit the celebration of Christmas especially -- nor birthdays. No gifts … doesn’t fit the celebration of Christmas especially — nor birthdays.

]]> By: Amandahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/17/ex-mas-etiquette/#comment-5064 Amanda Fri, 19 Dec 2008 05:57:28 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1903#comment-5064 We're doing like what Susan said. Going to the pottery place and getting her little hand prints and maybe foot prints on something for her dad. And I'll give him a framed picture of her. We’re doing like what Susan said. Going to the pottery place and getting her little hand prints and maybe foot prints on something for her dad.

And I’ll give him a framed picture of her.

]]> By: Susanhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/17/ex-mas-etiquette/#comment-5055 Susan Fri, 19 Dec 2008 03:00:14 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1903#comment-5055 Oh, this year we were back at the pottery place again making stuff for my beau, so I let the kids each pick out a piece for the Ex's girlfriend. First time for everything, I suppose! But from what I can tell she treats them nicely, so 'tis the season... Oh, this year we were back at the pottery place again making stuff for my beau, so I let the kids each pick out a piece for the Ex’s girlfriend. First time for everything, I suppose! But from what I can tell she treats them nicely, so ’tis the season…

]]> By: Susanhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/17/ex-mas-etiquette/#comment-5054 Susan Fri, 19 Dec 2008 02:57:41 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1903#comment-5054 I've bought gifts for the kids to give him for Christmas and Father's Day (and his 40th bday), plus had them make cards for him, but backed off of every other holiday over hte years except for Christmas because he NEVER once has said thank you to me. Never. I realize the gifts are from the kids, but how many then 5-year olds could get him a gift certificate, or take them to the pottery place to paint a mug for him? It would be nice if he could at least be polite about it. I know, silly to get worked up, so I try to take the high road and be a good example to the kids and bite my tongue! Anyway, we have exchanged gifts (from/through the kids) for Christmas each year, although they are less and less, which is fine. The kids really enjoy making their own cards, so I'd definitely recommend that. You could also buy an ornament or something like that that doesn't cost a lot for Benjamin to give. I’ve bought gifts for the kids to give him for Christmas and Father’s Day (and his 40th bday), plus had them make cards for him, but backed off of every other holiday over hte years except for Christmas because he NEVER once has said thank you to me. Never. I realize the gifts are from the kids, but how many then 5-year olds could get him a gift certificate, or take them to the pottery place to paint a mug for him? It would be nice if he could at least be polite about it. I know, silly to get worked up, so I try to take the high road and be a good example to the kids and bite my tongue! Anyway, we have exchanged gifts (from/through the kids) for Christmas each year, although they are less and less, which is fine. The kids really enjoy making their own cards, so I’d definitely recommend that. You could also buy an ornament or something like that that doesn’t cost a lot for Benjamin to give.

]]> By: Katiehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/17/ex-mas-etiquette/#comment-5053 Katie Fri, 19 Dec 2008 01:42:03 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1903#comment-5053 I have and will continue to get gifts from little man for his dad and his dad's fiancee, and for our former dog that they now have. I do it because he is pretty involved in ds's life, my son adores daddy even if I don't and his fiancee is like my reward. She is smart, funny, sweet and gets it, not sure what she sees in him, but hey, at least she loves my son. He is finally at an age where he does want to get gifts for his dad, etc. I have and will continue to get gifts from little man for his dad and his dad’s fiancee, and for our former dog that they now have. I do it because he is pretty involved in ds’s life, my son adores daddy even if I don’t and his fiancee is like my reward. She is smart, funny, sweet and gets it, not sure what she sees in him, but hey, at least she loves my son. He is finally at an age where he does want to get gifts for his dad, etc.

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