Comments on: Pressing Love Questions http://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/12/pressing-love-questions/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Tue, 14 Feb 2012 00:59:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Miami Air Conditioninghttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/12/pressing-love-questions/#comment-26527 Miami Air Conditioning Sun, 03 Apr 2011 23:04:31 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1894#comment-26527 I guess he just need to be honest, when they are having eye contact, he need to take courage and tell her> would you like to go on an date with me? thats it.... I guess he just need to be honest, when they are having eye contact, he need to take courage and tell her> would you like to go on an date with me?
thats it….

]]> By: Tylerhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/12/pressing-love-questions/#comment-6101 Tyler Thu, 29 Jan 2009 18:28:47 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1894#comment-6101 I say go ahead and ask. I'm in a similar situation. We had the glances, we had some good conversation, she put me through a few simple tests. At first I hesitated because I too was affraid of rejection but eventually I asked her out for lunch, she said she'd love to... hopefully that's where your story begins. Either way it's worth it, single moms are the evolution of women, there's the single women phase where they are naive about life, relationships, love and the trials and tribulations that life brings. Then there are moms, the ones that are still with their significant others and life is seen through rose colored glasses and for some of them they can eventually take of the glasses and their world is good and there's nothing wrong with that, but then there are single moms... strong, courageous, inspiring, understand that life is tough and and unfare at times but still have an endless capacity for love inspite of it all. They are exotic beauties that deserve respect, and commitment. I too have been hurt quite deeply, from a 15 year relationship. Single moms in general rock! My mom did! And this one that I have fallen for is no exception. So, rejection or no, we can only succed in life if first, we are not affraid to fail! Ask her out soldier! That's an order! :) Myself, she never called, I thought my fears were realized, but before fit class the other day I over heard some conversation with her single mom support group friends, generally a group of friendly, high spirited ladies, but that day I got sideways glances and they were all telling her to stay single forever... test number 2, never give up, never surrender. Tell me if I'm wrong, but I believe this is the point where I have to hang it all out there, wear my heart on my sleeve so to speak and somehow prove that I'm not out to hurt her or steal her from her friends. I'm starting by not harrasing her about why she didn't call, as a matter fact I haven't mentioned it at all. I'm staying friendly and keeping up the conversation, even though she is in cautious mode. I bought her a "Single Moms rock the play dates" shirt and I know her two daughters are learning to snow board so I'm getting them some day passes to the local hill. I suppose giving them to her on Vallentines day would be over the top? I know she's been down the Isle twice and is most likely discouraged about future relationships, but walls are ment to be broken. I believe it was mother Teresa that said; "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love. I say go ahead and ask. I’m in a similar situation. We had the glances, we had some good conversation, she put me through a few simple tests. At first I hesitated because I too was affraid of rejection but eventually I asked her out for lunch, she said she’d love to… hopefully that’s where your story begins. Either way it’s worth it, single moms are the evolution of women, there’s the single women phase where they are naive about life, relationships, love and the trials and tribulations that life brings. Then there are moms, the ones that are still with their significant others and life is seen through rose colored glasses and for some of them they can eventually take of the glasses and their world is good and there’s nothing wrong with that, but then there are single moms… strong, courageous, inspiring, understand that life is tough and and unfare at times but still have an endless capacity for love inspite of it all. They are exotic beauties that deserve respect, and commitment. I too have been hurt quite deeply, from a 15 year relationship. Single moms in general rock! My mom did! And this one that I have fallen for is no exception. So, rejection or no, we can only succed in life if first, we are not affraid to fail! Ask her out soldier! That’s an order! :)

Myself, she never called, I thought my fears were realized, but before fit class the other day I over heard some conversation with her single mom support group friends, generally a group of friendly, high spirited ladies, but that day I got sideways glances and they were all telling her to stay single forever… test number 2, never give up, never surrender. Tell me if I’m wrong, but I believe this is the point where I have to hang it all out there, wear my heart on my sleeve so to speak and somehow prove that I’m not out to hurt her or steal her from her friends. I’m starting by not harrasing her about why she didn’t call, as a matter fact I haven’t mentioned it at all. I’m staying friendly and keeping up the conversation, even though she is in cautious mode. I bought her a “Single Moms rock the play dates” shirt and I know her two daughters are learning to snow board so I’m getting them some day passes to the local hill. I suppose giving them to her on Vallentines day would be over the top? I know she’s been down the Isle twice and is most likely discouraged about future relationships, but walls are ment to be broken. I believe it was mother Teresa that said; “I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.

]]> By: O Solo Mamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/12/pressing-love-questions/#comment-4915 O Solo Mama Sun, 14 Dec 2008 04:34:53 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1894#comment-4915 Every time I think about leaving a comment for Tracy, I change my mind! But unless this is going to be a one-shot deal, I say stick to your own bedroom. Gotta move there one day. My daughter would be rolling her eyes and wouldn't want to know anything. I suspect that's where the 9-year-old who "knows stuff" is at too. Kids don't care about your sex life as long as it doesn't affect your relationship with them. Every time I think about leaving a comment for Tracy, I change my mind! But unless this is going to be a one-shot deal, I say stick to your own bedroom. Gotta move there one day. My daughter would be rolling her eyes and wouldn’t want to know anything. I suspect that’s where the 9-year-old who “knows stuff” is at too. Kids don’t care about your sex life as long as it doesn’t affect your relationship with them.

]]> By: LTPhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/12/pressing-love-questions/#comment-4908 LTP Sat, 13 Dec 2008 21:09:20 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1894#comment-4908 Mr. Single Dad....as a single mom that has only had the courage to ask one man out since I've been on my own, I know it is hard....but I also know that I would be thrilled for a single dad to ask me out!! For me, I only want to date single dads...only a parent can truly get another parent (in my opinion). She's probably just being cautious but I say go for it....you might be pleasantly surprised!! The sleep-over: this is tricky but I agree with Alaina...kids know more than we give them credit for. The few times that my now ex-boyfriend stayed over when my boys were with me, we went to bed after they were in bed and we woke up before they were up...so it kind of solved itself. Good luck! Mr. Single Dad….as a single mom that has only had the courage to ask one man out since I’ve been on my own, I know it is hard….but I also know that I would be thrilled for a single dad to ask me out!! For me, I only want to date single dads…only a parent can truly get another parent (in my opinion). She’s probably just being cautious but I say go for it….you might be pleasantly surprised!!

The sleep-over: this is tricky but I agree with Alaina…kids know more than we give them credit for. The few times that my now ex-boyfriend stayed over when my boys were with me, we went to bed after they were in bed and we woke up before they were up…so it kind of solved itself. Good luck!

]]> By: Starhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/12/pressing-love-questions/#comment-4902 Star Sat, 13 Dec 2008 05:46:47 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1894#comment-4902 For Mr. Single Dad, How about bringing her something..."read this article about kids our age and thought you might like to read it, finished this great book and thought you might like it, made too many X-Mas cookies and thought you might like some"...etc. That way you can test out the waters by letting her know that you were thinking of her but not putting any pressure on the situation and you'll have something to talk about next time you see her. Good luck! For Mr. Single Dad,
How about bringing her something…”read this article about kids our age and thought you might like to read it, finished this great book and thought you might like it, made too many X-Mas cookies and thought you might like some”…etc. That way you can test out the waters by letting her know that you were thinking of her but not putting any pressure on the situation and you’ll have something to talk about next time you see her. Good luck!

]]> By: SnowWritehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/12/pressing-love-questions/#comment-4901 SnowWrite Sat, 13 Dec 2008 04:26:09 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1894#comment-4901 For Mr. Single Dad - Many of us women are very unsure of ourselves and the "reality check" could just be her thinking that she's imagining your interest. Simple, be yourself and ask her out. Rejection is never easy but it's a healthy part of living a vibrant life. So she says no, big deal. Swallow that pride of yours and do what could be the most important thing in your whole life, or not. Either way it doesn't hurt to try! For the mom unsure what to tell the 9 year old. All I can say is be flat out honest. At 9 years old (these days) kids know a lot more than we did at 9 (I have six kids of my own ages 12 yo to 23 yo). He doesn't need to know details and most definitely set boundaries. It's hard to date as a single mom especially as kids get attached very quickly. He doesn't need to know details of course, but let him know you care about this person. Be careful though and watch for the revolving door effect. Kids are very observant and if you date many men and bring them home this is another issue altogether. For Mr. Single Dad – Many of us women are very unsure of ourselves and the “reality check” could just be her thinking that she’s imagining your interest. Simple, be yourself and ask her out. Rejection is never easy but it’s a healthy part of living a vibrant life. So she says no, big deal. Swallow that pride of yours and do what could be the most important thing in your whole life, or not. Either way it doesn’t hurt to try!

For the mom unsure what to tell the 9 year old. All I can say is be flat out honest. At 9 years old (these days) kids know a lot more than we did at 9 (I have six kids of my own ages 12 yo to 23 yo). He doesn’t need to know details and most definitely set boundaries. It’s hard to date as a single mom especially as kids get attached very quickly. He doesn’t need to know details of course, but let him know you care about this person. Be careful though and watch for the revolving door effect. Kids are very observant and if you date many men and bring them home this is another issue altogether.

]]> By: Frankhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/12/pressing-love-questions/#comment-4900 Frank Sat, 13 Dec 2008 03:56:57 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1894#comment-4900 I would ask about something casual, like getting a cup of coffee together. Or, look for a lunch restaurant that is close to the school yard where you see her. Simply ask her if she wanted to get lunch sometime. I had always been worried to ask someone out! It's not for everyone, but I like to make fun of myself, or use humor to open up the conversation to something more. If that doesn't help, I'll show up in the park and say totally stupid things, so you look good. Then, just ask her out, so you can get away from me. Something like that! I would ask about something casual, like getting a cup of coffee together. Or, look for a lunch restaurant that is close to the school yard where you see her. Simply ask her if she wanted to get lunch sometime.

I had always been worried to ask someone out!

It’s not for everyone, but I like to make fun of myself, or use humor to open up the conversation to something more.

If that doesn’t help, I’ll show up in the park and say totally stupid things, so you look good. Then, just ask her out, so you can get away from me.

Something like that!

]]> By: PT-LawMomhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/12/12/pressing-love-questions/#comment-4899 PT-LawMom Sat, 13 Dec 2008 02:56:41 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1894#comment-4899 I love that you sent him to the moon. Great way to keep it light, lady. :) I love that you sent him to the moon. Great way to keep it light, lady. :)

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