Comments on: Damn you, fear.

By: The point of no return.

The point of no return. — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 22:09:42 +0000

[...] Damn you, fear. [...]

By: littlemansmom

littlemansmom — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 18:40:19 +0000

Oh honey….reading this entry I found the little voices screaming in my head “SOMEONE ELSE KNOWS JUST WHAT YOU ARE FEELING!!!! SOMEONE ELSE UNDERSTANDS!!!!”

I can tell you honestly that if I can (and almost have) overcome this fear….I KNOW that you can!

By: Laura

Laura — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 18:25:01 +0000

This whole thing is hard hey!!

Really we want it, then we get it, then we not sure and it goes on and on.

My only real advise is what the others have said – enjoy it, relax and trust yourself!

By: jamie

jamie — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 14:58:39 +0000

Let your self go…but still be responsible. If that makes any sense. You will never fall if you don’t allow yourself too! If he has proven himself worthy of being around your close friends and especially your son then give him a break! He obviously likes you A LOT! So be extra sweet during the holidays. And enjoy yalls time apart, if he really misses you and your son, he’s a keeper!

By the way…I need to take my own advice! lol

By: mssinglemama

mssinglemama — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 11:33:38 +0000

XOXO to all of you…

Thank you.

By: Leah

Leah — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 05:16:47 +0000

All I can say is that I SO get it. I am excited about a burgeoning relationship I’m in now but there is sort of that sense of “caution! caution! put on the brakes!”

I echo what Matt said and everyone else’s wise sentiments above. You have such an awareness about what is going on with you and that is the first step to change. Therapy or not, you have a commitment to growing in awareness and that will serve you in good stead.

By: O Solo Mama

O Solo Mama — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 03:41:20 +0000

Oh, you don’t need therapy, you just need time. Que sera sera. What’s the worst thing that can happen? You discover you guys are not *meant for each other* (what ever that loaded baggage means) or you discover that you’re actually comfortable with this guy and can take it to the next level–again whatever that means. Don’t think about anyone else’s definitions. Be free, Ms. Single Mama. Own your happiness! Take your own advice! Know you can decide (who else will?). . .hmm?

By: Momma Mac

Momma Mac — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 03:19:49 +0000

It’s so great to have friend’s during freak out mode. I love mine. I love reading about your Mr. Man, he sounds great, you two will be fine!

By: Matt T.

Matt T. — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 22:52:25 +0000

I, too, know the feeling MSM, and I am a plain, ol’ single childless male. Every relationship I’ve ever been in has ended badly, for various values of bad. And yet, when the opportunity for another relationship occurs, I know I will try once again.

Why? I guess I feel that, for me, the happiness and joy I feel in a relationship with someone I love is worth the hurt that, well, has so far been inevitable in my experience. I guess for me it is better than the semi-permanent ennui I seem to feel when alone.

Of course, it’s not like there are a lot of women, single mom or otherwise, out there looking for an overweight chemist…despite how much I try to find one. Still, I try and try and…

But you? You seem to have something, someone wonderful. I know it’s hard, but, as many have said, relax and try to enjoy this. Overcoming fear is hard, but it’s when we overcome that fear that the amazing can appear!

By: jenn

jenn — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 22:34:30 +0000

I’m not in a relationship and haven’t dated at all since my divorce. I can understand your fears and I’m sure I would be feeling the same way. That’s one reason why I haven’t tried to date at all yet. Of course, you also shouldn’t run away from being happy. Easier said than done, I know.