Comments on: Dude, he’s a natural. http://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/27/dude-hes-a-natural/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Thu, 24 May 2012 03:18:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Denisehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/27/dude-hes-a-natural/#comment-4118 Denise Wed, 29 Oct 2008 03:35:36 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1580#comment-4118 Ah to be wanted cared for adored and yes, fussed over. We say it's not what we need but fact is yes we do, sometimes. And if it feels good every time, we’ll take that too. Yes, there is a difference between want and need and finally you're mature enough to manage them both. Hey, it’s our nature to be with. If only for the moment, so long as our child is safe, comfortable and we aren't on a mission to take care of yet one more thing that has to be done. Then, we are able to receive that kind of energy. And when we’re ready, that’s just the way it is. You’ll do things you never thought, you’ll feel and actually hear words that make you want (again). And if you are strong, you’ll fall only until something unacceptable presents itself. If you aren’t, you be stuck only until you’re strong again. There won’t be anybody’s opinion that makes your decision. Only what you accept be part of your lives together, you and your son…Dude will provide the next step so long as you allow. Cool to be in control huh? That comes with the single mommy title. Ha! Too, I’ve been told and I believe it to be true, we do have the power to lead from behind. Really girl, not just a ranch hand. Unwed because I never wanted to be divorced, 36 and Momma. Just recently realized my Lil’ Man, aka “Pup” is 16. It gets better, and worse and always wonderful. For your contest, I don’t recall teaching him he just did…see I was stressed, run my bath water and light candles for me; since he was like 5 yrs old. That’s a sweet spot. If I taught him or that he simply wanted to do that for me, I know one day he’ll love to care for the people he accepts and makes in his life. As for something I hope he will know I instilled in him when I’m gone…words. I hope I have taught him to express what he feels in words while being respectful of others and himself. Ah to be wanted cared for adored and yes, fussed over. We say it’s not what we need but fact is yes we do, sometimes. And if it feels good every time, we’ll take that too. Yes, there is a difference between want and need and finally you’re mature enough to manage them both. Hey, it’s our nature to be with. If only for the moment, so long as our child is safe, comfortable and we aren’t on a mission to take care of yet one more thing that has to be done. Then, we are able to receive that kind of energy. And when we’re ready, that’s just the way it is. You’ll do things you never thought, you’ll feel and actually hear words that make you want (again). And if you are strong, you’ll fall only until something unacceptable presents itself. If you aren’t, you be stuck only until you’re strong again. There won’t be anybody’s opinion that makes your decision.
Only what you accept be part of your lives together, you and your son…Dude will provide the next step so long as you allow. Cool to be in control huh? That comes with the single mommy title. Ha! Too, I’ve been told and I believe it to be true, we do have the power to lead from behind.
Really girl, not just a ranch hand. Unwed because I never wanted to be divorced, 36 and Momma. Just recently realized my Lil’ Man, aka “Pup” is 16. It gets better, and worse and always wonderful.
For your contest, I don’t recall teaching him he just did…see I was stressed, run my bath water and light candles for me; since he was like 5 yrs old. That’s a sweet spot. If I taught him or that he simply wanted to do that for me, I know one day he’ll love to care for the people he accepts and makes in his life. As for something I hope he will know I instilled in him when I’m gone…words. I hope I have taught him to express what he feels in words while being respectful of others and himself.

]]> By: Shielahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/27/dude-hes-a-natural/#comment-4098 Shiela Tue, 28 Oct 2008 14:05:47 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1580#comment-4098 Well, I saw the look in his eye first hand when you looked at you and your absolutely adorable son.I have known your new man since we were 5 years old and I say give it a try. I may be a little bias but he deserves a shot and so do you. Being a single mom myself has definately taught me to be more cautious, but if you don't take chances you never know what you could be missing out on. Can't wait to go riding again. Well, I saw the look in his eye first hand when you looked at you and your absolutely adorable son.I have known your new man since we were 5 years old and I say give it a try. I may be a little bias but he deserves a shot and so do you. Being a single mom myself has definately taught me to be more cautious, but if you don’t take chances you never know what you could be missing out on. Can’t wait to go riding again.

]]> By: Sarahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/27/dude-hes-a-natural/#comment-4097 Sara Tue, 28 Oct 2008 13:35:26 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1580#comment-4097 Be careful! I started dating a guy that seemed wonderful, perfect. All my friends were jealous. He said he knew what he wanted and it was me. I was very hesitant, but he kept pushing for me to open up, let him in. I did, and things did not turn out well. I think when guys move to fast in the emotional realm, you need to keep your guard up. Feelings take time, infatuation is what makes you think your falling, and that can easily go away, especially for a man. Hopefully I'm wrong, I want to be, but this last experience put a very bad taste in my mouth. He turned out to be controlling, selfish and a liar(although he's convinced he's not, and it's me that hurt him). My advice, (not that I really know anything) just proceed with caution, don't give to much emotionally, if he really cares, he'll understand and be patient. Someone wise once told me, 'time will tell'. ;-) Be careful! I started dating a guy that seemed wonderful, perfect. All my friends were jealous. He said he knew what he wanted and it was me. I was very hesitant, but he kept pushing for me to open up, let him in. I did, and things did not turn out well. I think when guys move to fast in the emotional realm, you need to keep your guard up. Feelings take time, infatuation is what makes you think your falling, and that can easily go away, especially for a man. Hopefully I’m wrong, I want to be, but this last experience put a very bad taste in my mouth. He turned out to be controlling, selfish and a liar(although he’s convinced he’s not, and it’s me that hurt him). My advice, (not that I really know anything) just proceed with caution, don’t give to much emotionally, if he really cares, he’ll understand and be patient. Someone wise once told me, ‘time will tell’. ;-)

]]> By: Annahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/27/dude-hes-a-natural/#comment-4089 Anna Mon, 27 Oct 2008 23:34:22 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1580#comment-4089 that was supposed to read UNPLEASANT experience...but as usual, I don't proof read... that was supposed to read UNPLEASANT experience…but as usual, I don’t proof read…

]]> By: Annahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/27/dude-hes-a-natural/#comment-4088 Anna Mon, 27 Oct 2008 23:33:46 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1580#comment-4088 Aww. Good job Benjamin! I was on horse once...was a pleasant experience...we'll just leave it at that. And, um, a real live coyboy wants to be part of your picture? Go for it! ;-) Aww. Good job Benjamin! I was on horse once…was a pleasant experience…we’ll just leave it at that.

And, um, a real live coyboy wants to be part of your picture? Go for it! ;-)

]]> By: mssinglemamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/27/dude-hes-a-natural/#comment-4085 mssinglemama Mon, 27 Oct 2008 22:54:52 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1580#comment-4085 This guy isn't Cabin Man. He and I haven't spoken since our weekend weeks ago... the sparkage just fizzled itself out when I told him I couldn't drive up there all of the time. Liz, from now on you shalt be called Ms. Sherlock. : ) Your comments, as usual, are making me feel better about trying. I just seem to focus on all of the logistics first, but on your advice, I'm going to let my emotions take over and see how it fits. Think I'll go call Mr. Dude right now actually. This guy isn’t Cabin Man.

He and I haven’t spoken since our weekend weeks ago… the sparkage just fizzled itself out when I told him I couldn’t drive up there all of the time.

Liz, from now on you shalt be called Ms. Sherlock. : )

Your comments, as usual, are making me feel better about trying. I just seem to focus on all of the logistics first, but on your advice, I’m going to let my emotions take over and see how it fits.

Think I’ll go call Mr. Dude right now actually.

]]> By: Leahhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/27/dude-hes-a-natural/#comment-4082 Leah Mon, 27 Oct 2008 18:53:02 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1580#comment-4082 Oh my goodness - Benjamin is so cute! I love that little white sweater :) And I can really relate the challenge in "falling" wholeheartedly. When you have been hurt, and have so much responsibility, it's natural to want to be cautious and go slow. But in the meantime, I hope you can savor that feeling of being cherished and cared for! Oh my goodness – Benjamin is so cute! I love that little white sweater :)

And I can really relate the challenge in “falling” wholeheartedly. When you have been hurt, and have so much responsibility, it’s natural to want to be cautious and go slow. But in the meantime, I hope you can savor that feeling of being cherished and cared for!

]]> By: Laurahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/27/dude-hes-a-natural/#comment-4079 Laura Mon, 27 Oct 2008 15:20:59 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1580#comment-4079 Go Ben!!! It looks like fun!! Aw man I really really am sending positive thoughts for you on this one ;) He sounds so super sweet! Go Ben!!! It looks like fun!!

Aw man I really really am sending positive thoughts for you on this one ;)

He sounds so super sweet!

]]> By: lizhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/27/dude-hes-a-natural/#comment-4078 liz Mon, 27 Oct 2008 15:19:14 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1580#comment-4078 So how is Cabin Man?? So how is Cabin Man??

]]> By: Cyndihttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/27/dude-hes-a-natural/#comment-4074 Cyndi Mon, 27 Oct 2008 14:35:29 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1580#comment-4074 Give that boy a ribbon! N-man make his horse show lead line debut in February. Giddy-up! And be careful not to talk yourself out of something wonderful, but I can totally relate!! Give that boy a ribbon! N-man make his horse show lead line debut in February. Giddy-up!

And be careful not to talk yourself out of something wonderful, but I can totally relate!!

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